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Widow has husband’s baby two years after death using frozen sperm

A mother who welcomed a boy with her late husband’s frozen semen says she feels her partner “passed on” their child to her and now has a “piece of him.”

Widow Lauren McGregor, 33, of Liverpool, Merseyside, fathered Seb using sperm frozen by her husband Chris, who died in July 2020 after being diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor.

And when she gave birth to Seb on May 17, via a scheduled cesarean section, the doctors arranged for a picture of Chris in the operating room to feel like he was there.

Lauren said, “As soon as Seb was born, I had an overwhelming feeling that Chris had the baby for me – as if he had passed Seb on to me from another place.

Widow Lauren McGregor, 33, of Liverpool, Merseyside, conceived Seb using semen frozen by her husband Chris, who died in July 2020 after being diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor

Widow Lauren McGregor, 33, of Liverpool, Merseyside, conceived Seb using semen frozen by her husband Chris, who died in July 2020 after being diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor

Lauren and Chris knew each other as children and first got together as a couple just nine months before he fell ill in 2013

Lauren and Chris knew each other as children and first got together as a couple just nine months before he fell ill in 2013

“I didn’t feel like I had to introduce Seb to his dad’s photo — it just felt like they already knew each other. He just gave me a piece of himself from wherever he is now.

“Seb looks more like his father by the day. When he was born, he had a thick head of hair, with a perfect ‘M’-shaped hairline, just like Chris’s we all teased him about.

“As his features emerge, I see Chris in him more and more. His lips are filled in, just like Chris’s, while my lips are quite thin.

“I knew it would be hard doing this alone, but there are so many moments I wish Chris was here to share.”

Lauren in the picture with Chris in the hospital.  In 2013, he was diagnosed with a brain tumor for the first time and went into remission several times

Lauren in the picture with Chris in the hospital. In 2013, he was diagnosed with a brain tumor for the first time and went into remission several times

Lauren's house is full of pictures of her beloved partner and she often tells her newborn about the nice, kind man he was

Lauren’s house is full of pictures of her beloved partner and she often tells her newborn about the nice, kind man he was

For Father’s Day this year, she spent time reminiscing about the good times with their son and Chris’ son Wade, 18, from a previous relationship.

She said they plan to visit all of Chris’s favorite places and go there every year on Father’s Day.

What is the UK law on using frozen semen after someone has died?

In the UK, IVF is regulated by the Human Fertilization and Embryology Act 1990.

When a person agrees to keep his eggs, sperm, or embryos, he is asked to decide what to do if he dies or becomes mentally incapacitated.

As a general rule, posthumous conception is only possible with written, signed consent for storage and use after death.

However, there are some exceptions. Diane Blood fought a legal battle to conceive using her late husband’s sperm, which was collected without his consent after he was unexpectedly incapacitated by meningitis.

The court ultimately ruled that it was contrary to EU law to deny Ms Blood her right to treatment elsewhere in Europe. Although the treatment could not take place lawfully in the UK, the HFEA allowed Ms Blood to export her husband’s semen to Belgium where she was successfully treated.

Source: NGA law

“It will mean a lot to just talk about him for a day, of course we talk about him in passing, but this would be meant to remember him and what he was like,” she said.

Although Seb will never meet his father, he will surely know everything about him.

Lauren’s house is full of photos of her beloved partner and she often tells her newborn baby about the nice, kind man he was.

She said, “I had a planned cesarean section, which I discussed with doctors beforehand, partly because Seb was so tall.

“It was no surprise that he was a big baby because Chris was tall and the doctors at the scans always asked, ‘Was daddy big?’

“When the doctors at the theater discovered my circumstances, they left me a picture of Chris hanging in the room, and although patients usually have to remove all their jewelry, they showed me my wedding ring and a necklace with Chris’ ashes in it while Seb was born.” , and then just delete them.

‘That meant the world to me. One of the first things Seb did was grab Chris’s ashes necklace, which was just beautiful.

“The staff were great, they really understood the situation.”

Lauren was also able to capture the emotional moment Chris’ son Wade carried baby Seb, who weighed 8lbs 11oz, from the hospital.

She said: “I think he must have seen some posts on social media about how dads usually carry the baby out of the hospital.

“It was something he said very early in my pregnancy that he wanted to do it.

“I don’t think there are many teenage boys who think about that, but it was something he really wanted to do for his father.

“It’s a very nice picture and a nice memory.

Seb in his bed with a pillow with pictures of his late father, who died two years before his birth

Seb in his bed with a pillow with pictures of his late father, who died two years before his birth

Lauren suffered a lot from nausea and nausea during her pregnancy and joked to a friend that she never wanted to go through this again

Lauren suffered a lot from nausea and nausea during her pregnancy and joked to a friend that she never wanted to go through this again

“Wade told me he feels like he has a piece of his father with him now, but I had to remind him that he already has a piece of his father in him.”

Although Lauren knew what she was getting into, she admits she couldn’t be without the help of her parents, who live down the street and take care of Seb.

She said: ‘I’m really looking forward to the adventure, although I’m sorry the baby will never meet Chris.

“Sometimes when I’m breastfeeding in the middle of the night, I think about what Chris would do if he were here.

“The house is so quiet and I think of all the stories I want to tell Seb about his father one day; all the funny stories and the places I can take him.

“Seb will never miss a thing. We’ll tell him all about his father, but I don’t want the situation to bother him. When he’s older, his dad can be as much or as little part of his life as he wants, and I know that can change as he gets older.

‘Chris’ mother unfortunately passed away a year before Chris did, and he never knew his father, so unfortunately there are no grandparents on Chris’s side.

“However, our families are connected because my mother and his mother were best friends, so my mother will be able to tell Seb all about his own grandmother.”

Lauren and Chris only got to know each other for nine months before he fell ill in 2013.

Lauren said, “Chris and I had known each other since we were kids, our mothers were really good friends.

“We got back together in 2012 and started dating in April 2013, so it wasn’t long before he started showing his symptoms.

‘After his death I had to wait nine months before I could start the IVF process as a kind of mourning period, and to make sure I knew what I was getting into.

“Having a baby was something we talked about for years while we were together, and said we wanted to do it.”

Chris’s symptoms started very mild in 2013, and he went into remission several times.

She said: “Of course we didn’t know at the time that they were symptoms, but they started in October 2013.

“He wasn’t feeling well, he went to the doctor because he had a cold, he got hot flashes when he got up a little too quickly.

“Then in December 2013 we were on the phone and lost the signal, and we had previously agreed that if we ever lost the signal he would call me so we weren’t both on the phone at the same time.

“We lost the signal and he didn’t call me for an hour, but when he did he said it took so long because he couldn’t remember my name to call me back.”

The couple immediately booked an appointment with the doctor, who advised going to the emergency room.

Lauren said, “They ruled out a stroke pretty quickly and did some blood work and then a CT scan.

“When they confirmed there was something on his scan, he was immediately admitted and underwent brain surgery in March 2014.

“They were able to remove 95 percent of the tumor and a year later he was almost completely recovered.”

Chris’s tumor recurred several times, once in 2016 and again in 2019.

Lauren said: ‘His symptoms came back in late 2016, but it wasn’t big enough for surgery, so he did chemotherapy and radiotherapy.

“Then in November 2019 he started describing the same symptoms again, and we found out that he had a second tumor on the other side of his brain.

He started chemotherapy in January 2020 and after three months the second was gone and the first contained.

“The doctor recommended stopping chemo because with COVID she didn’t want his immune system to be compromised.

“In May, the symptoms were back, and another scan showed the tumor had grown beyond imagination, and he died in July.

“Losing Chris was the worst day of my life, but he managed to make sure we can grow our love even if he’s gone.”

And she had already decided that she wanted to use more of their frozen embryos to give Seb younger siblings.

She added: “I think once Seb gets to three or four, this is something I would consider doing again.

“It’s funny, I had really bad nausea and nausea during this pregnancy and I told a friend never to do this again!

“But once that past is over, you get excited about everything to come, like any mother does.”

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