Adultery, flogging, infidelity, playing at home – it does not matter how you frame the window, they are all forms of cheating.
Nowadays it is easier than ever to have a clandestine romance, thanks to the rise of dating apps, dedicated polygamy websites and 24/7 direct internet access at our fingertips.
Heidi * is a sales employee in her mid-thirties who has been married for more than 10 years, but has deceived her husband and father of her children over the past five years.
She opened the adult podcast The Sex Files about the how and why behind her long-term extramarital efforts.
Heidi is a sales employee in her mid-thirties who has been married for more than 10 years – but has cheated her husband over the past five years via a dating site (stock image)
Heidi has been registered for five years as a member of an alternative dating site, where she cooperated with the goal of "having fun and having different sexual experiences & # 39; with more than one partner.
During this time she has experimented with trio's, one night stands and lesbian intercourse, as well as brought to life & # 39; in the BDSM community.
In the past three years she has claimed to have slept with about 15 people she met online.
I love to be tied, beaten and played by strangers – I have met all sorts of people, fun and not so nice, and that is all part of the fun.
& # 39; The idea of being caught almost makes it so exciting – I love it.
& # 39; I had sex with one man while his wife was out of the house and we had to do that very fast escape scenario. & # 39;
Heidi said that her husband & # 39; very vanilla & # 39; is and does not want to experiment in the bedroom (stock image)
About why she became unfaithful in the first place, Heidi said that her partner has a different idea of what is nice between the sheets.
& # 39; My husband is very vanilla, very clear, and I started this journey because I wanted to explore and mark things from my bucket list. He has everything what & # 39; extracurricular & # 39; is that I once proposed in the bedroom, rejected. & # 39;
She admitted that if her partner were to discover her cheating, they would "divide upright", something she would like to avoid because of their children.
& # 39; I've seriously thought seriously, but it would hit so many people, it's just not an option. & # 39;
Heidi distinguishes between having an affair to fulfill sexual desire and to be unfaithful because you are in love with someone else.
When the tables were turned around and Heidi discovered that her husband had an affair, she said she would try to work through it if his reason was pure psystic.
She encouraged other women to consider cheating in order to try & # 39 ;, and assures you that you always have control over how far you want to go & # 39 ;.
* Name changed