Why does Prince Harry risk a precious bond? BEL MOONEY investigates the relationship of the prince with queen
Just look at the picture of the queen who is inspecting young officers during the fainting of Sandhurst.
Even in profile, you witness her pride in 2006 as she looks up at Captain Wales – as if she thinks, “Who would have thought that junk would turn into this lovely young man?”
With her sword in hand, her grandson flourishes scarlet – chokingly self-consciously giggling while a cheeky grin stretches ear to ear.
It is an image to cherish – because it includes the very special relationship between a grandparent and a grandchild.
Just look at the picture of the queen inspecting young officers during the fainting of Sandhurst, Bel Mooney writes
And while the storm clouds swirl around the House of Windsor, it is worth remembering the painful gripping bond that has long existed between Queen Elizabeth and Prince Harry, a band that now seems threatened like never before.
On the weekend, the Sussexes issued an extraordinary statement, precisely focused on the Queen’s decision to refuse them the right to continue using the Sussex Royal brand, and claim that the monarch has no “jurisdiction” over the word “royal.”
Their reaction has resulted in criticism from royal observers, with Tom Bower, Prince Charles’s biographer, who said: “The comments are craving hateful rage. I’m afraid it will get worse. “
This and other recent developments within the royal family are enough to plunge every loyal monarchist – and I am one – into deep darkness.
Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Harry leave the St. Georges chapel after the blessing
Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip the Duke of Edinburgh with their grandchildren; Prince William (L), Prince Harry (C), with Peter Phillips (at the back) and Zara Phillips
I can hardly bear to talk about what most thinking people certainly see as catastrophic errors of judgment in the way Prince Harry and Meghan have acted and talked. But that is not what saddens me the most.
When I look at all the beautiful pictures of Harry with his grandmother, I don’t see a big monarch and a prince of the empire.
No, I am considering a worshiping grandmother and a loving grandson, and want to cry about where he is far from and how to hurt for what is lost. An old Italian proverb says, “If nothing goes well, call your grandmother.”
And as someone who grew up in a ‘grandmother’ family (with Gran / Nan playing a key role for three generations) I can tell you that it is true. Tell Grandma about your problems, moan about Mom and Dad, be naughty – and know she won’t give you away.
Queen Elizabeth, The Queen Mother, Queen Elizabeth II, Prince Harry, Prince William, Prince Charles, Prince of Wales and Princess Margaret, depicted in 1990
Where the parent-child relationship can be complicated, grandparent-grandchild interactions have the freedom to be much more relaxed and acceptable.
And it goes far beyond the cliché to give them back at the end of the day.
It is about knowledge of parenthood and a second attempt to do well – without all the tension.
All you have to do is look at a beautiful portrait of the queen and duke of Edinburgh in Balmoral with their first four grandchildren to feel the truth of it.
Cozy little Harry sits comfortably between his grandparents and laughs with confidence – as happy as a child can be.
A video clip of Prince Harry and his grandmother Queen Elizabeth to promote the 2016 Invictus Games, which were held in Orlando, Florida
Years pass, the images multiply, the story is the same. Here’s Harry making a crazy face to make Granny smile.
There he teaches her about FaceTime on her cell phone, no less to the Obamas!
The whole series of photos is a wonderful story of warmth between generations. At the wedding of his cousin, Peter Phillips in 2008 (another sad story there), Harry shines as he stands behind his grandparents.
Something has entertained both of them, but the point is that Harry’s gaze is on them. It is clear that he enjoys their mood of relaxed pleasure – and seconds later he leans forward to whisper in Grandma’s ear and also give her a kiss. It is a beautiful image of tenderness.
Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Harry at the RHS Chelsea Flower Show, London, in May 2015
The Queen’s Day broadcast in 1984 came from the heart of a grandmother who was enthusiastic about a new baby. Regarding the film of Harry’s baptism, she said: “The happy arrival of our fourth grandchild gave many reasons for family celebrations.
But for parents and grandparents, birth is also a time to think about what the future holds for the baby and how best to guarantee safety and happiness. “
She further said that the two older generations “must be willing to learn as much from them as they do from us” – and praised the “firm trust and devastating honesty” of children.
The problem is that those children grow up and are influenced by stronger personalities and the ways of the world.
The queen and prince Harry attend charity polo competition at polo club Guards in Windsor
Parents and grandparents have no choice but to let them go, see how they make mistakes, and then. . . well, wait.
The pictures of happy times at least prove the lasting truth of precious moments.
The camera is not lying. Harry may have changed and moved, but I have no doubt that our queen is as steadfast as in the 1984 Christmas broadcast, when she also thought, “We must above all keep the child’s willingness to forgive.”
But how long can she maintain this sentiment despite the feverish outburst of Vancouver Island?