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Who will find love on our blind date? This week it’s Julie, 44, and Alistair, 53

JULIE, 44, a housing officer

JULIE, 44, a housing officer

He was wearing black and white – I thought he might be a waiter

VITAL STATISTICS

Single for nine years with an eight year old daughter.

CURRENT ROLE

Housing officer working in law.

WOULD LIKE MEET

A body that is grounded, busy, emotionally intelligent, and truthful – I’m an empathy and I know when someone is lying to me.

JULIE, 44

Dating past?

I have been engaged three times: once in my teens, which dissolved naturally; once in his twenties, but he called it off; and my husband, who I broke up with nine years ago. Shortly after, I had my daughter with a friend, although he would never get involved.

I tend to go out with people I’ve met through friends and I’m not on dating sites. I trust that I will make contact with those I have to meet.

Pre-date nerves?

I look confident, but I’m quite shy, so I was nervous. Fortunately, I was busy and didn’t have time to think about the date. I was late and arrived warm and awkward. I was wearing pants and a sweater because I wanted to be honest about how I dress.

First impression?

Alistair was waiting outside and I thought he might be a waiter because he was wearing black and white, but he quickly introduced himself. He’s a stereotypically handsome guy, but he didn’t light my spark.

Easy to talk to?

We had two hours at the table and I was afraid the date would drag, but time flew by.

I’m a vegetarian and said I looked at the menu online for meat-free options. Alistair was understanding, but not curious. We shared a Greek dish, but I asked to serve the lamb separately.

We both work in the prevention of homeless people in the probation service and I wouldn’t be surprised if our paths crossed professionally. I also asked about his upbringing, and he seemed happy.

Shameful moments?

No, but we had to get our temperature measured first and I was afraid I would get too hot.

Flying sparks?

Not for me. I received a text message saying my parking lot had expired so I had to leave pretty quickly. I said I would like to keep in touch.

Have you kissed?

No, but I gave him a friendly kiss when I left as an alternative to Covid-19 for a kiss on the cheek.

What do you think he thought of you?

If he is honest he will say we were not connected but I can flirt so I hope I am not romantically interested. I suspect he wants a relationship that can end in marriage. He referred to ‘us’ a few times and seemed happy to schedule a second date, but I just wanted to get to know him over meal.

Would your friends like it?

What they think doesn’t affect who I date. As a rule, I don’t mix my love life with my friendships.

Alistair, 53, probation officer working with the homeless

Alistair, 53, probation officer working with the homeless

Alistair, 53, probation officer working with the homeless

It was uncomfortable when she left before I asked for the bill

VITAL STATISTICS

Single for 18 months, no children.

CURRENT ROLE

Probation officer working with homeless people.

WOULD LIKE MEET

A music lover. I’m in a choir and was on stage with artists like

Russell Watson and Michael Ball. I am a travel junkie and enjoy cycling and country walks.

ALISTAIR, 53

Dating past?

My PREVIOUS two relationships have lasted more than three years. My birth mother introduced me to a blind date because she decided it was time to end me as the only bachelor in my village. I am used to organizing data and speed dating online.

Pre-date nerves?

if you’re not nervous about a date, you obviously don’t care. I had butterflies, but I was not unbearably nervous. I wore a black and white patterned shirt, black jeans and suede shoes.

First impression?

I first arrived at The Olive Branch in Worcester, but didn’t know Julie was running late. There was a moment when I thought, “She’s not coming!”, But I was relieved when she arrived ten minutes later. She put me at ease with her warm character and was open and easy going.

Easy to talk to?

We both work with homeless people, so we had a lot to talk about. Julie recently completed a law degree and has already started temporary work in the legal field. I found it interesting because I have a criminal law degree myself.

We talked about our travels and how the pandemic makes us both explore more of Britain. Julie wants to visit the Welsh coast while I want to see Whitby and Robin Hood’s Bay in Yorkshire.

I like going to gigs and festivals, but our musical taste doesn’t match – she likes acoustic music.

Shameful moments?

Julie could only stay for two hours and she had to leave quite quickly. When she left it looked like she had done a runner because I hadn’t paid the bill yet, which was inconvenient. The date ended too abruptly for me, but I continued to pay the bill.

Sparks?

It is difficult to estimate, because it was a new experience for both of us. I like Julie and I find her attractive, but she has a busy life. She is a mother, runs a business and works full-time.

Have you kissed?

No, but I asked for her number and she gave me an air kiss.

What do you think she thought of you?

That I can speak well. We also had a lot in common, so that must be something.

Would your friends like her?

Yes absolutely.

JULIE’S DICT

8/10

LIKED?

The tiramisu.

REGRET?

No.

COFFEE OR CAB?

Coffee as a friend.

THE DEMAND OF ALISTAIR

8/10

LIKED?

Julie is the whole package.

REGRET?

No.

COFFEE OR CAB?

Coffee

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