What your image REALLY says about you and why you always attract the wrong people

A relationship expert has revealed what your dating site image really tells potential partners, and why some women always attract the wrong kind of man.

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Australian matchmaker and relationship strategist Louanne Ward said you should not beat yourself up because it is a dating rut – you should rather see why you match the wrong kind and try to change it.

& # 39; Most women have a fairly clear idea of ​​the type of man they are looking for, their image search criteria are a list of attributes they are looking for in a future partner, & # 39; Louanne told FEMAIL.

When it comes to dating, many women are trapped in attracting the wrong kind of man - matchmaker Louanne Ward (photo) showed how to deal with this

When it comes to dating, many women are trapped in attracting the wrong kind of man – matchmaker Louanne Ward (photo) showed how to deal with this

She said that many women give priority to being attracted to someone, having a spark and having a connection - but these things do not always last (stock image)

She said that many women give priority to being attracted to someone, having a spark and having a connection - but these things do not always last (stock image)

She said that many women give priority to being attracted to someone, having a spark and having a connection – but these things do not always last (stock image)

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& # 39; This list has a natural flow-through effect. If the man ticks the first box, he goes to the next most important feature, and so on.

She continued: & # 39; The sad reality is that just about every woman has the same first two or three key aspects in their image search criteria.

& # 39; The top of the list is always: 1) "I find it attractive and I have a spark, 2)" I need to feel a connection ".

& # 39; If these boxes are checked, they often get excited with excitement and excitement and for a while forget the key factors until it's too late. & # 39;

How can you prevent you from attracting the wrong kind of man?

* First look at your own image and what it says about you and the kind of person you want to date.

* Louanne emphasized a study by Tinder, which showed that women attach more importance to appearance than men. & # 39; Nearly 20 percent of men preferred women who wore formal outfits instead of bikinis or fewer clothes, while 53.3 percent of women attacked men with beautiful bodies, & # 39; Louanne said.

* View your photos and think about what they project online. If you hold a drink in a skimpy package, people will think you're a good time girl.

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* Similarly, if your written profile is full of wishes and requirements for a future relationship, then you can be seen as a lot of maintenance.

Although you may think attraction, a spark, and a connection are the most important things when dating a new person, Louanne said that this is in fact & # 39; superficial & # 39; can be and can mask the true qualities that can mean that you identify with someone.

& # 39; When meeting a potential partner there is no mystery or temptation anymore – it's a quick decision from & # 39; I need it right away & # 39;, & # 39; Louanne said.

She said that too many people have the attitude that makes them think they can tell within two minutes if someone is suitable for them.

Louanne (photo) first said that you should look at your own image and what it says about you and the men you are looking for so far & # 39;
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Louanne (photo) first said that you should look at your own image and what it says about you and the men you are looking for so far & # 39;

Louanne (photo) first said that you should look at your own image and what it says about you and the men you are looking for so far & # 39;

& # 39; If you meet someone like that who immediately buzzes you, you become blind to the disadvantages and you create a false fantasy and unrealistic expectations, & # 39; she said.

The dating expert explained that it is vital to realize the difference between love and falling in love when you start dating and act accordingly.

So how can you avoid attracting the wrong type of man and presenting the right image on a first date?

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Louanne said first and foremost that you should look at your own image and what it says about you and the men you're looking for so far.

She emphasized a recent study published by Tinder which showed that women attach more importance to physical appearance and buff body than their male counterparts.

& # 39; Nearly 20 percent of men preferred women who wore formal outfits instead of bikinis or fewer clothes, while 53.3 percent of women attacked men with beautiful bodies, & # 39; Louanne said.

& # 39; About 80 percent of the way we communicate is not verbal and on a dating site or app it's all non-verbal & # 39 ;, Louanne said (photo)

& # 39; About 80 percent of the way we communicate is not verbal and on a dating site or app it's all non-verbal & # 39 ;, Louanne said (photo)

& # 39; About 80 percent of the way we communicate is not verbal and on a dating site or app it's all non-verbal & # 39 ;, Louanne said (photo)

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After you identified your image and what it says about you, Louanne then told you to think about how you use a dating app – and how it reflects you.

& # 39; About 80 percent of the way we communicate is non-verbal, and on a dating site or app it's all non-verbal & # 39 ;, she said.

Louanne said that your photos on an app are half the reason why you attract the wrong men.

For those who want to prevent them from projecting the wrong image onto an app, Louanne said look at your images and adjust them accordingly:

& # 39; If the image you are projecting is in tight clothing that leaves nothing to the imagination, the photos are all airbrushed and you are heavily put up with a drink in one hand, the kind of man you attract is someone who is interested in a nice girl who wants a physically based connection, & she said.

& # 39; The same applies if your written profile is full of unwilling and demanding of the future relationship you want. & # 39;

For more information about Louanne Ward, who has more than 25 years of experience in the relationship and matchmaking industry, visit her website here.

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