I’m on a specific bedroom issue that many would say is ‘creepy,’ writes JANA HOCKING, but so are millions of other women…they just haven’t told you yet.
- Jana Hocking likes ‘compliments’ in the bedroom
- It involves being called a ‘good girl’ and praised during the act.
- She’s not alone, the term has had over 60 million views on TikTok.
So there’s a sexual fetish going around right now and I’m very much on board with that.
It’s terribly self-centered, a little narcissistic, and probably a little shameless to admit… but it’s called ‘Praise kink’ and it’s had a whopping 60 million views on TikTok, so I’m clearly not the only one enjoying it.
The kink involves people getting turned on by hearing how wonderful they are (especially in the bedroom). So if you’re like me and get a little wild when your friend calls you a ‘nice girl’ while you’re doing it between the sheets… welcome, you’re part of the ‘crooked praise’ tribe.
Jana Hocking likes praise – getting a form of praise at any time, but especially in the bedroom.
Other popular compliments that people in this tribe like to hear include: “You’re doing a great job,” “Your breasts look amazing from this angle,” “You’re so good at it,” and “Baby, you feel amazing.” Okay, full disclosure… that’s what turns me on, but so do others.
And it’s not just in the bedroom that we ‘praise buddies’ like to hear words of affirmation, oh no. Discussing it with a friend the other day, she told me that she got really horny and upset when a guy she was going on a second date with literally stood up and gave her a standing ovation when she showed up for her date in a killer. attire. The praise was real, and the payoff was certainly worth it.
I am lucky enough to enjoy this serotonin rush every time my interstate lover calls me beautiful. (Side note: eww ‘lover’ is such a rude word, but that’s basically what it is.) Sometimes he just answers the phone with ‘Hi beautiful’ in that deep sexy voice that drives me crazy. I turn into this big fainting mess. Because? Because I’m in a high praise twist.
Those little moments of praise show that your person is solely focused on you at the moment, and who doesn’t love that? I mean, come on, it’s basically like they’re worshiping you.
And I would go as far as to say that I think it’s a problem that everyone has to accept. We’re no longer going crazy over guys who don’t text us back or playing hard to get, no, we’re getting horny over guys who adore us. The ones that call us baby and make us feel like a million bucks. So long, bad boys, you are so 2022. This year is all about the accolades. Actually let’s clarify that… praise men.
The best thing about this kink is that it doesn’t come with a consent clause, which we all know is very important when it comes to trying new kinky things in the bedroom. No, your only job is to show praise.
I was talking to another friend about it this week, and she told me that every time she talks to her boyfriend about her day and he drops a casual “nice girl” in the conversation, she literally wants to rip all his clothes off and jump on him right there. . and then. I thought about it for a second and agreed, there’s nothing sexier than a guy inserting a bit of praise into casual conversation. I remember a friend did it to me once, and I looked at it in a whole new, cheeky way.
Those little moments of praise show that your person is solely focused on you at the moment, and who doesn’t love that? I mean, come on, it’s basically like they’re worshiping you.
I’ve also discovered that it’s ridiculously sexy to offer compliments, not just accept them. For example, if you’re getting hot and annoying, why not throw in a compliment yourself? Watch your partner light up when you tell them they’re amazing in bed. Not only do they feel special, but they also try harder. Win win I say.
So if you want to try it for yourself, why not start slow? Start calling them baby, tell them how great it feels when they make a move you like, or surprise them with a sweet text. Or do what my friends date did, give them a fucking standing ovation the next time you think they look good.
Unlike other problems, this one is very easy to do and does not require any special skills or trips to an adult store. You just need a good vocabulary and the right attitude. Bonus points if you’re a guy with a deep, sexy voice. Va Va Voom!
