By now, you may have seen the headline-making photos of Harry Styles and Emily Ratajkowski passionately making out in Tokyo.
And it seems like everyone has an opinion when it comes to kissing after fans were left less than impressed with his style.
But what does your kissing style say about you?
Well, a lot apparently, according to one expert.
While there are no “black or white” rules, Andrea Damerjianwho wrote Kissing: Everything You Need to Know About One of Life’s Sweetest Pleasures, says that someone’s style can reveal “absolutely” things about their personality.
Harry Styles and Emily Ratajkowski made headlines over the weekend after they were caught on camera kissing passionately in Tokyo.
For example, aggressive kissers who aren’t afraid to use some tongue could be interpreted as being pushy or like to be in control, but it could also mean that they’re overly passionate, Andrea, who is known as the kissing expert, told DailyMail.com.
On the other hand, a cute voyeur might like to be submissive or he could be a “newbie” outside of the bedroom, but want “someone else to take care of everything” in his intimate moments.
“What’s also interesting about kissing is that it’s very subtle as well, so with the fact that you can kind of get a sense of people’s personalities, it’s not like (there’s) black or white, hard and soft, judging things,” said Andrea, from New York.
“What’s really interesting about kissing is that the fact is that cavemen were kissing as a way to gather information on their reproductively healthy mates. Even back then people were using it, it was a very functional thing.
Andrea said that wandering cavemen were tasting the saliva of cavewomen to determine their suitability for childbearing.
“As we get into our modern world, kissing is definitely something where we can get a feel for someone’s personality, we can get a sense of their romance as a person or their skill set as a kisser or lover,” she said.
Whether it’s mouth open or closed, eyes open or closed, the author shared her insights with FEMAIL on what your kissing style says about you.
Aggressive acceptor: may be interpreted as “pushy,” but can be “too passionate”
There may be more than meets the eye when it comes to “aggressive kissing.”
Andréa Demirjian, known as The Kissing Expert, says your style can “absolutely” reveal things about your personality
“One of the big things I hear a lot about is when you start kissing someone you might not necessarily want it to be a French kiss,” Andrea told DailyMail.com.
“And sometimes when someone comes on hard and fast, you can take that maybe they’re a little pushy, maybe they like to have the upper hand and control the situation, or maybe they tend to think they’re always right, again I’m talking about generalities.”
“But then again, you don’t want to confuse it with them being too passionate, and tongue kissing can increase mutual desire and pleasure.”
And Andrea added: ‘I amIt could also mean that you enjoy active kissing, enjoy cuddling with someone, and enjoy walking around.
“Maybe you’re just a straightforward, hip person, there’s nothing wrong with those characteristics.”
Soft kisses are submissive and allow someone else to be in the driver’s seat
Soft-touch kissing can be a sign that they like to take a back seat when it comes to intimacy.
“What this means is… sometimes you just enjoy lying around and letting someone else be in the driver’s seat,” Andrea told DailyMail.com.
Maybe you enjoy being submissive or maybe out of the bedroom, you’re the one with the cuteness.
“So it’s nice to be at home, in the intimacy of your environment, to let someone else take care of everything.”
Keep your eyes open or closed? intimate either way
There is always a lot of debate around this issue: Do you keep your eyes open or closed when kissing?
Andrea said the person who chose to close peepers “might be some kind of dreamer.”
The author said, “(They like) to get lost in the kiss, they swim in that deep blue sea where time has no meaning.”
On the other end of the scale, someone who wants to keep their eyes open during a kiss can be more “curious” and like to “drink every moment.”
“Kissing with open eyes and looking into another person’s eyes is also really intense and really personal because you’re looking deep into that other person’s soul,” Andrea told DailyMail.com.
Maybe at first people might be afraid of kissing with their eyes open because they don’t want that intimacy just because they’re getting to know someone, or maybe it’s a really good way to get to know someone, and it’s scary because you’re being stripped away.
There is always a lot of debate around this issue: Do you keep your eyes open or closed when kissing? (stock photo)
Mouth open or closed?
According to a kissing expert, a person who likes to kiss with their mouth open “is often thought (that) they’re confident, they’re in charge, they’re romantic, they’re sensual.”
And kissing with your mouth closed, the convention (dictates), “Oh that person tends to me more discreet.” “But that doesn’t mean they’re any less romantic or intense,” Andrea told DailyMail.com.
Sometimes a person who kisses with their mouth closed is a backwater kind of person, so if that closed kiss is with someone special and you have that connection, it can really take your breath away.”
At the end of the day, Andrea said it’s always about the person you kiss with.
If there’s that connection, or that chemistry and pheromones, that synchrony between you and your life, and even the physicality of your lips all blending together perfectly — regardless of whether you’re passive or aggressive, eyes open or eyes closed or mouth open or mouth closed — that kissing is sublime.
I think you can really tell how a person feels about you when they kiss you, your kiss doesn’t lie, so you get a sense of the person’s level of attraction, interest in you, or interest in you at that moment.
“They say when people have been together for a while, they may have drifted apart or maybe someone is looking or playing outside of the relationship, generally in a kiss you can tell something is off.
