Tulisa Contostavlos has shared rare insight into her failed relationship with ex-boyfriend and N-Dubz bandmate Fazer following her stint on I’m A Celeb.
The singer, 36, who came out as demisexual – an orientation based on emotional connection rather than physical attraction – in the jungle, found fame with the rapper and her cousin Dappy, and they dated from 2010 to 2012.
Talking about the we need to talk podcast, as reported by The mirrorTulisa described Fazer (whose real name is Richard Rawson) as her “safe space” and compared him to a “security blanket.”
‘He was the person who loved me, he was the only person who deserved it, because that’s real. That is true to this day.”
‘We love each other as a family. It doesn’t matter if it’s no longer romantic. That’s my family, that’s my soul family and the person I’ve become doesn’t want anyone in my life more than my soul family, especially when it comes to intimacy. He’s the only person who, looking back, now means something.’
When asked why the couple went their separate ways, Tulisa stated that they were “incompatible” even though there was “a lot of love” between them.
Tulisa Contostavlos, 36, has shared rare insight into her failed relationship with her ex-boyfriend and N-Dubz bandmate Fazer following their stint on I’m A Celeb.
The singer found fame alongside the rapper and his cousin Dappy, and they dated from 2010 to 2012 (pictured together in 2010).
Tulisa declared herself demisexual (an orientation based on emotional connection rather than physical attraction) during her time in the jungle.
‘You have two people who are very close, they are like a close family, they are like a close friendship and they feel an attraction there and are constantly around each other. They can’t get away from each other. It’s inevitable, so we had to go through it to grow. But after being in a relationship we are very different human beings, very, very different, and that’s what it really comes down to.”
Fazer has since settled down with his girlfriend Ashley Havelin, with whom he shares four children, Ava, 11, twins Zariah and Zaviar, 22 months, and son Zander, seven months.
Meanwhile, Tulisa’s friends have revealed that they are desperate for her to find a partner and end her three years of celibacy, which she spoke about in the jungle.
Reflecting on her revelation, Tulisa said the guardian: ‘Having the experiences I’ve had has made me go back into my shell. I only deal with people I already know. I just recycled ex boyfriends from the last 10 years. A new person who arrives has no chance.
‘I just ask myself, ‘Would I keep this person in my life, even as a friend, for the rest of time?’ And if I don’t have that feeling, I wouldn’t want them as lovers.
‘I don’t think this will leave me isolated and alone for the rest of my life. What is important to me will not go unnoticed.
But her best friend Michelle McKenna seemed unconvinced by the former X-Factor judge’s demisexual orientation and three-year streak of celibacy.
Michelle, who is in a relationship with Tulisa’s friend Daniel Johnson, previously told MailOnline: “She needs someone in her life, that needs to end very soon, she needs to meet a very nice gentleman.”
Tulisa described Fazer, whose real name is Richard Rawson, as her “safe space” and compared him to a “security blanket” (pictured together, 2023).
Fazer has since settled down with his girlfriend Ashley Havelin, with whom he shares four children, Ava, 11, twins Zariah and Zaviar, 22 months, and son Zander, seven months.
(LR) N-Dubz’s Fazer, Tulisa and Dappy photographed earlier this year
“She’s been alone for a while and it’s definitely time she found someone.”
Tulisa previously dated Justin Edwards in 2010, who later leaked her sex tape online and ultimately ruined her job as a judge on X-Factor after feeling like she was being “practically raped” every time she appeared on the show.
She later became embroiled in a “homewrecker” scandal in which it was alleged that she began dating former Bristol City footballer Danny Simpson while he was still with his ex-girlfriend; She and Simpson, 37, successfully sued for defamation.
Her most recent confirmed relationship was with David King, a music producer and nephew of singer Cher, in 2017 when the pair reportedly “connected while collaborating in the studio.”
Her friend Michelle’s comments came days before the couple had a huge row at the Australian hotel they were staying in after Tulisa became the third star to be eliminated from I’m A Celebrity.
Upset by the way Michelle had managed her Instagram account while in the jungle, Tulisa confronted her friend about her “unprofessionalism” and subsequently left Australia five days earlier, quitting her ITV commitments and not appearing on the show. later.
Her best friend Michelle McKenna (R) confessed: “She’s been alone for a while and it’s definitely time she found someone.”
Tulisa was previously in a relationship with Justin Edwards (R), who leaked her sex tape in 2010, causing the singer to seek legal action against her ex when the tape was released in 2012.
She later became embroiled in a “homewrecker” scandal in which it was alleged she began dating former Bristol City footballer Danny Simpson (pictured).
Michelle and her partner Daniel had flown Down Under to greet Tulisa from the famous I’m A Celebrity Bridge and the trio would spend the next five days together on the Gold Coast until the final, but returned home early under a cloud of mystery. .
Tulisa and Michelle, an urban dance artist, have been best friends since the I Need You singer moved to Manchester two years ago in search of a “better quality of life” and go to each other’s houses every other day.
The star bought a newly built mansion in Congleton, Cheshire, to be closer to her best friends.