Tracey Cox reveals why he portrays you with other men or longs for a & # 39; sex sandwich & # 39;

& # 39; What do you think, darling? & # 39 ;, we ask, romantically clasped on the couch, a head on his shoulder.

& # 39; Eh … eh … how much I love you? & # 39 ;, he replies.

Yes! More likely, he imagines a sexual sandwich with him stuck between you and your best friend!

Ninety-six percent of us fantasize – but the fantasies of men and women are very different.

The fantasies of women are more involved than those of men. What makes sense: we read more, are generally more imaginative and need more varied stimulation to wake us up.

Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox revealed some of the most popular fantasies of men, including having three, trying BDSM and & # 39; cuckold fantasies & # 39; (file photo)

Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox revealed some of the most popular fantasies of men, including having three, trying BDSM and & # 39; cuckold fantasies & # 39; (file photo)

Our fantasies almost always have a plot, there is scene setting, character development and a narrative arc.

Men go for immediate action and are more sexually explicit. They rush straight to the naughty pieces – and the whole fantasy is often just pieces, sliding in pieces, in graphic details.

They often have only one simple image instead of a & # 39; video & # 39; – and it is often someone they like in real life. Even the idea of ​​the perfect fantasy girl's man (see the sidebox) does not differ dramatically from what an average woman looks like.

This is why amateur porn sites and live webcams with & # 39; normal & # 39; Girls are so popular with men. They like to think that they have a stab at the fact that the gender really happens.

Tracey said that men and women have very different fantasies with men who often go for direct action while women are more involved in a setting and narrative arc (file photo)

Tracey said that men and women have very different fantasies with men who often go for direct action while women are more involved in a setting and narrative arc (file photo)

Tracey said that men and women have very different fantasies with men who often go for direct action while women are more involved in a setting and narrative arc (file photo)

On the other hand, women have no problem foaming Bradley Cooper on the mouth for the chance to slip into our skirts. It is one of the few times that we allow our egos to reign and the self-image rise! (Hoera!)

Another important difference: we fantasize more often when we have a lot of sex. Men do it more if they are not.

This is not an exhaustive overview of what the average man evokes in his saucy day dreams.

I'm not kidding, too, when I say that the most popular male fantasy of all is likely …

FANTASIES ABOUT YOU!

If there is one person most likely to appear in his sexual fantasies, it's you! Nine out of ten have fantasized about our current romantic partner and 51 percent often do it.

His fantasies are about things that he has already done or would like to do and are a start because available meat and blood are sometimes more on the turn than the unattainable. There is a good chance that it may come true or has already taken place.

Having three was the & # 39; adult male equivalent of childhood fantasy to be locked up in a candy store & # 39 ;, said Tracey (file photo)

Having three was the & # 39; adult male equivalent of childhood fantasy to be locked up in a candy store & # 39 ;, said Tracey (file photo)

Having three was the & # 39; adult male equivalent of childhood fantasy to be locked up in a candy store & # 39 ;, said Tracey (file photo)

Contrary to popular belief, men do not actually fantasize about an endless stream of emotionless sexual acts with faceless women, they want sexual experiences that make them feel something. In their dreams and in reality. Given this it makes sense that you are in it.

HAVE A THREESOME AND GROUP SEX

Eighty-nine percent of people report that they fantasize about threesomes. It is much more likely that heterosexual men prefer the male / female / female combination, which is handy because heterosexual women are more open to trios with women than they are two men.

You are very likely to be one of three: people who have a partner often make them part of the trio fantasy. It is often predictable that you, your best friend and him play the lead.

This is of course the adult male equivalent of the childhood fantasy of being locked up in a candy store. If having sex with one woman feels good, having sex with two should have twice as much fun. In his fantasy, he is a super-lump, able to make both women into screaming orgasms, time and again.

HERE ARE WHAT THE PERFECT FANTASY GIRL LIKES

In Tell Me What You Want, social psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller the sexual fantasies of 4175 Americans and he dispelled many myths about where and about who people fantasize.

Straight men do not prefer blondes, it turns out: only a quarter of men fantasize about women with blond hair. Twice as many want a brunette.

Lehmiller noticed a clear Kardashian effect. American men no longer dream of 5ft 10 blondes but women who are 5ft 5 inches long with hourglass figures, wide hips and larger than average breasts. Do you remember anyone?

The perfect fantasy girl weighs 9 bricks on average 4 lbs, has no body hair and her pubic hair is either completely gone or she has a tiny bit.

So, she's small, brunette, and hairless … unless we're talking about celebrities. The three celebrities who are straight men with the most fantasies are (on order) Scarlett Johansson, Jennifer Aniston and Jennifer Lawrence.

Our fantasies change with age. For men and women in their 40s and 50s in Lehmiller & # 39; s study, group sex and novelty were by far the most popular fantasy.

For younger adults, BDSM fantasies (bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism) are more common in both sexes.

Perhaps not surprisingly, straight men who watch porn fantasize about larger breasts and straight women who watch porn fantasize about larger penises.

In reality, many men worry if they really satisfy only one woman, so it's not surprising that this is the stuff of dreams.

Studies show that the vast majority of men do not want and cannot even handle such sexual demands in real life. (I have received many e-mails over the years from men in absolute panic because their girlfriend or wife has finally given in to their constant pleas for a threesome. They are terrified rather than engaged.)

Group sex fantasies are common to both sexes. They are an intoxicating mix of exhibitionism, voyeurism, bi-curiosity (if the same sex is involved) and a human desire for excess (if one person feels good, more should feel better).

BDSM FANTASIES

Fantasies for men often have themes of dominance and submission (although, perhaps because of the Fifty Shades or Gray effect, women have more of them than men).

More people want to give up control than to take control during sex and this is reflected in our fantasies. The entry appeals mainly to men for various reasons. Men are still expected to be the initiators during sex, so a partner who takes full control and does what they want when they want is hugely exciting because it changes the usual power dynamics.

Men also think they should have control over so many aspects of their lives, it is a fantasy to be able to distance yourself from responsibility and have someone else do it.

FANTASY FELLATIO

Giving or receiving oral sex is at the top of the list for both sexes.

His fantasy has one essential ingredient. The woman does not do it to give pleasure, she does it to get pleasure – worshiping his almighty penis, begging him to let her take it in her mouth.

She accompanies oral sex with many responses, such as & # 39; God, it's huge & # 39; and (of course) swallows. Although oral sex is something that almost all couples do, some of us secretly think of oral sex as & # 39; nasty & # 39; then sexual intercourse, hence the huge turn-on factor.

MULTIPLE PARTNERS HAVE

The psychology behind him who wants to have sex with someone other than you is not that hard to work out. Many people desire sex with someone who is new and fantasy is a great way to enjoy this desire without losing our partners in the process.

Most people who have non-monogamous fantasies have a monogamous relationship – but here's the interesting thing: less than one percent of people fantasize about cheating. Consensual monogamy is much more popular: we are stimulated much more by getting permission to sleep with others than by doing behind our partner's back.

DO ANYTHING NEW

Another top fantasy for men changed things with their partner and Tracey said the male favorite position tends to be doggy style (file photo)

Another top fantasy for men changed things with their partner and Tracey said the male favorite position tends to be doggy style (file photo)

Another top fantasy for men changed things with their partner and Tracey said the male favorite position tends to be doggy style (file photo)

Things are changing, different partners, institutions, positions and what we do is a popular male fantasy.

His favorite fantasy position is doggy style (it is the woman's second favorite) and he is also fond of imagining sex in a public place.

ANAL SEX

No, don't do it to you, receive it yourself.

Yes really.

There is a reason why & # 39; pegging kits & # 39; that contain everything you need for a heterosexual girl to penetrate anally into her male partner, on the bestseller list. Almost two thirds of both men and women fantasize about receiving anal sex.

It does not mean that he has homosexual tendencies, the rectum is full of super-loaded nerve endings and many men would like to investigate this under-discovered hot zone, but dare not ask. Fantasizing about it is the second best thing.

WATCH YOUR SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN

A surprising number of married men (around 58 percent) have & # 39; cuckold fantasies & # 39; – which means that they find the prospect that their wives have sex with other boys to be sexually exciting.

Tracey Cox, pictured, explained how a surprising number of married men (around 58 percent) & cuckold fantasies & # 39; to have

Tracey Cox, pictured, explained how a surprising number of married men (around 58 percent) & cuckold fantasies & # 39; to have

Tracey Cox, pictured, explained how a surprising number of married men (around 58 percent) & cuckold fantasies & # 39; to have

& # 39; Cuckold porn & # 39; is the second place for & # 39; youth & # 39; in heterosexual searches from porn sites such as PornHub and Justin Lehmiller, the author of the largest, most comprehensive study of Americans' sexual fantasies, says he was overwhelmed with stories about men who like their wives or girlfriends having sex with other men.

Why?

Some say it is an eroticism of every man's fear that his wife cheats: men deal with the threat of infidelity by turning the fear into something sexually exciting.

Scientists think the & # 39; sperm competition & # 39; could be: men report pushing faster and deeper during sex if they suspect their partner has cheated, presumably as a way to displace rival sperm.

Psychologists think it's more about reflected glory: it's a status symbol to have a woman that other men want to sleep with. I pulled her and other men wanted her – so how good am I?

LOOKING FROM OTHERS HAVE SEX

We are all secret voyeurs to a point. Few people would be able to stop looking at a couple having sex if they were not guaranteed to get caught, especially since sex is private and usually hidden.

Another top fantasy of men was seduced by an attractive, older woman that Tracey said was started by the & # 39; teacher who gave him wet dreams while growing up & # 39; (file photo)

Another top fantasy of men was seduced by an attractive, older woman that Tracey said was started by the & # 39; teacher who gave him wet dreams while growing up & # 39; (file photo)

Another top fantasy of men was seduced by an attractive, older woman that Tracey said was started by the & # 39; teacher who gave him wet dreams while growing up & # 39; (file photo)

Of course he can watch porn, but it is rare that he sees the real thing. Watching people have sex in real life is more fascinating than porn because it provides more realistic comparisons. We all think it's great to think we're great in bed and watching other people means we can see how we rate on the & # 39; best lover & # 39; card.

It also refers to sexual self-confidence and narcissism: he imagines himself in the same scenario and how fantastic he would look and be. He could teach people a thing or two!

BE TEMPTED BY AN ATTRACTIVE, OLDER WOMAN

It starts with his teacher, who gave him wet dreams while growing up and continues long afterwards.

Almost every man, at some point in his life, fantasizes about sleeping with an older woman – and many people go through it into real life.

Older women are seen as sexually experienced, he thinks she will be the boss and will be brilliant in everything she does. She is likely to earn more money and the fantasies are often placed in more prosperous circumstances than those in which he finds himself.

If he does not really have confidence and suffers from fear of failure, he will enjoy this fantasy even more. Men think that the older a woman is, the more likely she is to see everything – she will be less likely to ridicule him if the penis does not behave as he likes.

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