Do you get a little bored with the same old routine, but feel like you’ve already tried everything?
Bet you haven’t tried all these quirky sex techniques yet!
They may sound ridiculously far-fetched, but they get rave user reviews – and they’re all put to the test by my brave volunteers.
Grab your sense of adventure – and a few props – and try them on.
Tracey Cox has revealed the quirky sex techniques that may sound bizarre but can give your love life a more exciting boost (stock image)
GRAPEFRUIT ORAL SEX
Eight years ago, a woman named Aunt Angel posted a YouTube video showing how to “pleasing your man” by giving him oral sex with a grapefruit wrapped around the base of his penis.
She demonstrates on a dildo – making such unexpected noises, I guarantee they will scar you forever.
Since then, oral sex with grapefruit has become a “thing.”
Why should I try?
Watching the original video, I’m not quite sure you can do this without laughing. But at least give it a chance!
To say it’s a new experience is obvious, but it’s fun — and we all get way too serious about sex.
The grapefruit technique is also perfect for women who don’t like oral sex because they gag easily. Carrying the grapefruit decreases three inches from the length, so there is no opportunity for deep-throating.
It will be a first for most of you – and something to amuse your friends with if you retell the story after a few wines.
How do I do it?
Use a Ruby Red grapefruit (or the sweetest variety you can find) and place it in warm water to bring it to room temperature. (If you are allergic to grapefruit, you can use a large navy orange.)
You then roll it on a work surface for a minute or two to loosen the fruit and make the pulp juicier. Cut off the two navel ends so that it resembles a fat wheel, and cut a small hole in the center of the grapefruit. (The smaller the hole, the tighter it will feel when you first push it over the penis.)
Because citrus fruits are acidic, always check his penis for small cuts or razor burn first to prevent it from stinging. Then wait for it to stand up and slowly push the grapefruit towards the base of the penis: the fruit expands when you press it down.
You can imagine juice getting everywhere, so put down a few towels, leave it in the tub (yes really) or on a floor that you can easily clean afterwards. The juice, by the way, is all part of the experience — and the bit that many men thought was best.
Then perform oral sex as you normally would, spinning the grapefruit around the shaft and pushing it up and down. Keep sucking and twisting the grapefruit until orgasm.
I highly recommend washing his penis and testicles quickly afterward simply because the juice is acidic, although urologists say there are no health risks.
The verdict: 6.5/10
“Don’t get me wrong, it felt great and everyone should try it once. But it’s just comical and my partner kept laughing, which got me going. She also developed a rash on her chin afterwards: the juice irritated her skin.
It does feel weirdly good – the grapefruit felt a lot colder than I expected and a warm tongue and something cold was a good combination.’
THE KIVIN METHOD
In a nutshell, this is just sideways oral sex. It isn’t, until you consider that almost all of us do it with our lover right between our legs.
In the Kivin method, the person giving places their body perpendicular – rather than parallel – to the person who is on the receiving end. Confused? Here’s a diagram: https://imgur.com/a/Jh8uQ1S
By the way, it’s a complete mystery where the name comes from, but it’s been used to describe sideways oral since 2001.
Why should I try?
Because it allows your partner to explore the entire vulva, not just the clitoris. Many women find stimulation up and down too intense or find they want to lick one side of their clitoris more than the other.
The lateral stimulation feels surprisingly unusual and more intense for some women — which may be why some sex educators claim it helps women reach orgasm faster (anecdotal evidence says between three and five minutes).
It also provides easy access to the perineum – the hairless patch between the vagina and anus. This area is full of very sensitive nerve endings and responds well to firm massage (with fingers or a sex toy).
How do I do it?
If you’re the lucky recipient, lie on the bed (in the position you would sleep in, head near the top of the bed) with one leg lifted.
Your partner lies sideways on the bed, stomach on the bed, and slides under your raised leg, with his mouth between your legs. Next, drape your leg over your partner’s neck or upper back.
Some givers find it more comfortable to sit on their knees and lean forward. An alternate position for the receiver: You pull both legs up so that your knees are against your chest.
FIVE OTHER USEFUL ACTIONS TO TRY – FROM INVERSION SEX TO PEARL FUN
Use a pearl necklace
Wrap a strand of real or fake pearls or beads around your hand (check for rough edges first), add plenty of lube, then wrap your hand around his penis and pump him up and down.
Put on your marigolds
Don’t have any pearls? Go to the kitchen, grab a (new or clean) pair of rubber gloves and go back to bed. Fill the glove with plenty of lube, slide it over an erect penis and slide it up and down.
The massage without hands
Place a towel (or two) on the bed and have your partner lie flat. Get naked, slather yourself in some baby oil and then lay on top of it, moving your body on theirs to massage and arouse.
Sex without hands
Tie both hands behind your back and have sex. You are forced to use parts of your body that you have never used to stimulate each other before: elbows, knees, thighs, noses.
This is any position in which you are taken head down. Because the blood literally rushes to your head, it builds pressure in the veins of the face and neck, causing surprising sensations at orgasm. Start standing with him. You jump up, wrap your legs around his waist and let him support you under the buttocks. Then slowly lean back until you reach the floor, into a handstand. The less adventurous can achieve the same effect by having him kneel on the bed, enter missionary style, and then move to the edge, leaning back over the bed and placing your hands on the floor for support.
They can then easily stimulate the clitoris and vulva, choosing the angle, speed and pressure you like. Have them try to lick side by side and back and forth across the clitoris while simultaneously pressing down firmly on the perineum with two fingers and massaging it firmly.
Or to combine clitoral stimulation of the tongue with a finger in the vagina or anus. Another great combination: using a penetrating sex toy vaginally and/or inserting a butt plug for extra anal stimulation.
Place a firm pillow under your buttocks if you want to relieve the back of your partner, who bears the weight of your leg.
The verdict: 9/10
“I’m a huge fan of oral sex, but never thought of putting it aside. I loved the novelty and it definitely felt more intense for me. I think I like it better than ‘normal’ oral sex!’
THE CAT TECHNIQUE
The Coital Alignment Technique is a modified version of missionary sex, in which the man rides higher on the body than usual, allowing the base of his penis to rub against the clitoris.
A famous study of women who were unable to orgasm from missionary-style sex reported a 56 percent increase in the frequency of orgasm once they and their partners got the hang of it.
CAT adds the all-important missing ingredient that prevents most women from orgasming through penetration alone: clitoral stimulation.
It’s probably easier to hold a vibrator in place – the technique takes practice to get it right. But this method can be more intimate, and I personally know many couples who view CAT as a game-changer and who now rarely have “old-school” intercourse.
Why should I try?
Believe the convincing stats and a switch to CAT will instantly double her chances of climaxing – slowing it down at about the same rate. A winning combination, wouldn’t you say?
The reason we didn’t do away with the ‘pump’ style of punching when CAT came out ages ago is that he’s quite fond of it – and this technique takes practice.
Think direct pressure, rocking and grinding and you are on the right track.
How do I do it?
He sits on top but rides high, his body moving toward her head and staying close instead of holding himself on his arms. Keep your pelvis close so the base of his penis rubs against her clitoris and stays there as you move together. Imagine an even rocking chair motion: She leads in the upward stroke, pushing up and forward to force his pelvis back. He forces her pelvis back and down. It’s pressure and back pressure, not pushing, with a shallow, not deep penetration.
The verdict: 5/10 from a beginner
‘I thought it was so unnatural. Weirs feel natural because it is: that’s how animals have sex. I found it really hard to find any rhythm because it’s the opposite of what I’ve been doing all my life. It felt forced and contrived and really unsatisfying. My partner wasn’t thrilled about it, but that probably had a lot to do with my obviously not going into it.’
10/10 from an expert: “It’s not as hard as it sounds, but it’s so tempting to switch back to the thrust you’re used to at the beginning when you feel like you want to climax. Which then ruins it for her, unless she comes first. You have to be a controlled, patient person to perfect this. But if you can, your partner will really thank you. We’ve never looked back.’
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