Tracey Cox reveals the four new sex positions that guarantee orgasm

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Something very important happened to women last week.

Researchers identified and cited the methods that women use to make sexual intercourse more enjoyable for them.

This may not sound too bad if you are a man reading this. But if you’re a woman who’s always struggled to have an orgasm during intercourse – that’s 80 percent of us, by the way – this is the best news you’ve heard in years.

Study co-author, Dr. Devon Hensel (assistant professor of sociology at the University of Indiana School of Medicine), wanted to give women simple, descriptive words that would describe what they needed from their partners.

“Imagine you don’t have the language to describe what you want in other areas of life,” she says. “Not being able to say,” I want more whipped cream on my hot chocolate. “

Dr. As a researcher, Hensel found it ‘incomprehensible’ that women did not have names for the methods that do work to achieve an orgasm. Words that can communicate what they want and need to close the ‘orgasm gap’.

She spoke to 4,000 women in the US and asked, “What discovery have you made that really made vaginal penetration more enjoyable for you?” One thousand of the women explained their techniques in more detail through video interviews.

Why is this so important?

I wanted to get up and cheer when I read this research.

Not only is it reassuring, it also provides helpful, easy-to-implement solutions to solve a problem that affects up to 80 percent of all women (yes, I said that, but in case you have it the first time) missed).

Despite knowing for 2,000 years that orgasm is only the result of clitoral stimulation (this was made clear in the Kama Sutra), women continue to think that something is wrong with them if they don’t climax with their partners during intercourse .

I look at women’s faces when I explain this and I can see that they understand it intellectually. But their emotional brain whispers, ‘Yeah, but that’s not what I see on TV or porn, women don’t have sexual orgasms at all. And my partner says none of his other girlfriends had a problem. ‘

They did.

Most researchers agree that the vagina does not have an anatomical structure that can cause an orgasm. When women report a ‘vaginal orgasm’, it is due to stimulation of the surrounding erectile organs.

Researchers at the University of Indiana School of Medicine asked 4,000 women what makes vaginal penetration really enjoyable for them, and now Tracey Cox reveals the four positions that increase your chances of orgasm

These techniques identified by the study work because they stimulate ‘hidden’ areas of the clitoris, the pieces you can’t see.

Here’s how you can use angling, rocking, superficial, and mating to enhance your sexual intercourse experience – and a verdict from the women I asked to test the methods out.

ANGLING

Angling involves moving your pelvis to adjust the angle at which the penis, sex toy, or finger enters the vagina.

This may include rotating your pelvis or lifting or lowering the pelvis or hips to make sure it hits the right spot.

Women who can orgasm through penetration often do this instinctively: you know what feels good and what doesn’t.

But it’s also about having the confidence to say, “Do you mind if I tweak a few things here so it hits the right spot?”

And being able to suggest choosing positions that are more woman-friendly. Woman-on-top or ‘doggie’ style is still reported as the sex positions most likely to result in a penetrating orgasm for women.

Claire is 32 and doesn’t define her relationship with her male partner as serious. She describes herself as confident in bed.

‘I’ve never been able to orgasm through intercourse, even though I like having something in me. I’m pretty active in bed, in the sense that I don’t lie back and think about England. But I am less active during intercourse. I tried all variations: grinding, hips up, hips down and I also tried tilting my pelvis to one side and the other. I haven’t had an orgasm, but I was amazed at how different it felt depending on the angle. It certainly improved the experience for me. ‘

Verdict: 7/10

TO SWING

What is it?

Rocking refers to rocking against the base of a penis or sex toy so that it constantly rubs against the clitoris. The traditional in-out method of thrusting does not maintain much-needed constant pressure on the clitoris.

This technique plays an important role in the CAT (Coital Alignment Technique) method for achieving orgasm during penetration.

CAT sounds more complicated than just rocking – it rides higher than usual and pushes its body up an inch or so so that the base of the penis rubs against the clitoris. But it is the same principle and is known as an extremely effective way to increase the orgasm quota for women during intercourse.

Why haven’t we all abandoned the old, ineffective way of pushing for this new style? Because it’s about rethinking what’s naturally present for most men: and people are essentially lazy and don’t like change.

What I like about calling it ‘rocking’ is that it’s an uncomplicated term that everyone understands. It sounds easy to implement and it is.

Who Tried It?

Sophia is 41, married and can climax through penetration (hair on top), but not on a regular basis.

WHY THESE FOUR FUNCTIONS WORK

All four of these techniques work because they stimulate the inner clitoris, not just the bit you can see.

Many women don’t even know there is more.

The clitoris is not just a tiny little lump, it covers quite a large area. Below it is the body of the clitoris which is about 1-2 inches in size. Then ‘support arms’ the clitoris into two 3-4 inch legs that run under and along the outside of the vulva (see the bit near your thighs).

If you focus purely on stimulating the tip during intercourse, you are limited in what you can achieve. But if you want to stimulate the inner clitoris, you have a much higher chance of penetration leading to an orgasm for women.

Or, at the very least, make it a lot more interesting and enjoyable.

“I don’t know why, but I immediately chose the missionary position to try this out. I think because I thought it would be easier to do a rocking motion with my partner on top of me. It was okay, but I knew I wouldn’t get through. So I switched to straddling him and made sure to keep him absolutely still while positioning myself so that I could rock against the base of his penis. My husband said it was a bit boring for him because he just lay there and let me use his penis as something to masturbate against, but he was very happy that I had an orgasm with him inside me. And he had his after – pushing in the usual way – so we were both winners. I would definitely try this again. ‘

Verdict: 10/10

SHALLOW

What is it?

This technique involves a penetrating touch – of either lips, a tongue, a penis, fingers, or a sex toy – just inside the entrance to the vagina. Stimulation is not on the outside or deep inside: it remains superficial.

This works because many of the nerve endings in the vagina are concentrated at the entrance (if they were spread intensively through the vaginal canal, labor would be excruciating).

Who Tried It?

Sara is 20 and single but enjoys casual sex.

‘I’ve tried this twice, with two different partners. I imagine it works better if you know your partner well. The first guy I tried it with wasn’t the least bit interested in knowing why I just wanted his fingers to massage the entrance to my vagina instead of pushing them in and out. He told me I was ‘weird’ because I wanted it that way. The second man was intrigued and open to education. I told him I had been asked to try out the technique and he was all for it. Of the four techniques, this appealed to me the least – I use a lot of rocking and angling. But the thrill of stimulating just the entrance was interesting: I didn’t like it at first, but once I relaxed in it, I enjoyed it. I couldn’t have an orgasm that way, but I understand why other women like it. ‘

HOW TO TRY A NEW TECHNOLOGY WITH YOUR PARTNER

Don’t do it during sex. The best time to talk about sex is after you are done or any other time when you are chatting and getting along well. People don’t listen well when they’re excited and just want to get on with it.

Don’t make it a problem. Make it part of everyday conversations. Say, “I read about a study they just did about techniques that women use to have more orgasms during intercourse. One of them really appealed to me. Can we try next time? ‘.

Prepare for questions.What do you say when your partner says, “But wait, how come you’ve always been fine with penetration without any extra stimulation?” Ideally, you take a deep breath and get clean, explaining that almost all women need extra stimulation. But if you’re not feeling brave enough, just say, ‘I know, right? I think my body is changing. Apparently I now need several things’.

Verdict: 6/10

LINK

This is a better name for what you may have been doing all along: externally stimulating the clitoris while internally penetrating you.

This usually involves you or your partner reaching down during vaginal intercourse or penetration to stimulate the tip of the clitoris with your fingers or a sex toy. In other words, associate intercourse with another method.

Most couples find it easier to hold a slim vibrator on the clitoris, roll it around tightly, or hold it still during penetration. It’s not easy to keep a regular motion with your fingers during intercourse (remember the game where you rub your stomach and your head?) And they are easily knocked out of the way.

Who Tried It?

Michaela is 27 and has lived with her friend for three years.

It’s much easier to be a woman in a same-sex relationship. You don’t have to explain that clitoral stimulation is necessary because she already knows. We use pairing all the time. My partner is using a dildo to penetrate me and I will be working on my clitoris with a vibrator at the same time. My orgasm is close to 100 percent this way. My partner doesn’t like penetration – it’s external clitoral stimulation all the time for her. But I like the feeling of being plumped and clitoris stimulated too. ‘

Verdict: 10/10

Listen to Tracey’s new podcast, Mom’s Don’t Have Time to Have sex, on Spotify, Podbean or iHeartRadio. You can find more advice and her books and product ranges at traceycox.com.

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