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British sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox has revealed how to recognize the signs of micro-cheating and what to do before it ruin your relationship (stock image)

Ah, social media. Is there an end to how you are damaging our relationships?

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Most couples not only spend more time looking at their phones than each other, it also causes a worrying new trend: micro-cheating.

Everyone knows that physical cheating will put them in trouble. But what about those small, somewhat unreliable actions – such as DM & 39 and an attractive colleague or the posts of sexy strangers – that wander at the edge of the game but don't cheat at all?

Do we have to worry? Or is it all pretty harmless because everyone else is doing it?

My opinion is that micro cheating is the same as unscrewing the lid of a bottle of vodka if you're an alcoholic.

British sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox has revealed how to recognize the signs of micro-cheating and what to do before it ruin your relationship (stock image)

British sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox has revealed how to recognize the signs of micro-cheating and what to do before it ruin your relationship (stock image)

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You officially do nothing wrong because the alcohol has not touched your lips, but that small step makes it very likely that you will sizzle it back soon.

Admittedly, it is a small breach of trust rather than booking the hotel room, but it is still about exceeding the spoken or unspoken rules of monogamy that you and your partner have set for your relationship.

Each couple has its own definitions of cheating.

For some micro-cheating IS cheating. Others are more forgiving – and perhaps shouldn't be.

Micro-cheating gives very easy tips about emotional infidelity, the biggest threat to relationships today.

Most physical things are done and dusted within six months to a year. & # 39; Just touch & # 39; matters do not often result in people leaving their primary relationship with the person.

Sex expert Tracey Cox (photo) shares her advice on what to do if you catch your partner for micro-fraud

Sex expert Tracey Cox (photo) shares her advice on what to do if you catch your partner for micro-fraud

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Sex expert Tracey Cox (photo) shares her advice on what to do if you catch your partner for micro-fraud

Here is my opinion about what is harmlessly fun and what certainly counts as borderline wandering (however, always remember what the boundary is for you and your partner very personally).

Keep profile on dating sites

This is tricky.

Delete your profile too quickly and the person you are just dating may think you are pushing too fast.

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Leave it there too long and it suggests that you are still looking.

Most sites let people know if they have actively looked at others on the site. I would say, if you see someone and think they have legs and maybe get serious, it's respectful to do your profile within a few weeks – up to a month – after dating.

Checking out other people should stop after the first date, if you really like them. Or at least after date three.

No dating apps removed from their phone

Ditto hook-up apps.

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It is reasonable to expect your partner to remove apps like Tinder from his phone within a month.

Not only delete them, but also deactivate their account.

Pretending to be single on social media

They will probably have the excuse & # 39; I just didn't think I would change my status & # 39; and in some cases it is true.

But raise the volume of the alarm bubbles if they never post photos of you on one of their social media accounts.

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If your partner also fails to mention that they are attached when they meet attractive new people, they will definitely keep their options open.

Do not introduce you to their family or friends

Of course, it depends on how long you see each other and where you are in your relationship, but if you don't meet anyone near your partner after two or three months, a red flag is waving.

Intense.

They may be ashamed of their friends or family and that's why they don't want you to meet. They may know that their friend or family will not approve of you and that they are trying to protect you.

Or it may mean that they know the relationship is not serious, so what's the point. Even worse, there is a partner, children or unfinished business with a problem in the background.

Constantly poking over the celebrity's Instagram page

This is the limit. Some people find it funny when their partner is in love with a celebrity, others are deeply offended or irritated.

I would say that it is in the & # 39; harmless & # 39; falls if they admire them especially when you are not there.

Love messages or send DM & # 39; s to attractive people

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Admittedly, just because you love someone does not mean that you do not stop finding other people attractive. And it is normal behavior to let the strange people scroll through and admire attractive people.

Actively engaging – like messages or sending DM & # 39; s – put this from something you probably would rather not think about.

Totally unacceptable: discovering your partner repeatedly visits the profile of someone you suspect he secretly likes.

Exchange flirty looks with strangers

It is not pleasant to have an & # 39; I find you attractive & # 39; look between your partner and a stranger.

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It may be nothing more than that they signal & # 39; If I were single, I would ask you & # 39 ;, done purely for an ego boost or to test if they still have & # 39; & # 39 ;.

What to do if you catch your partner on micro-cheating?

If you need to regularly check your partner's phone to see what they have done, it's time for a chat.

Call them on. Say: & # 39; I don't like it if you like the posts of other attractive people & # 39; or & # 39; I feel uncomfortable when you send hearts and kisses to X. Do you have feelings for them? & # 39 ;.

Tell them exactly what you want them to do to rectify the situation.

Don't let them distract you. This article should give you an idea if you are understandably irritated or upset.

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Anyone who is secret from his phone, hides the screen from you or is super protective about it has something to hide.

Stay with your guns. you are not & # 39; jealous & # 39; or & # 39; paranoid & # 39; by wanting your partner to stop focusing on other people.

Trust your feeling: if something seems fishy, ‚Äč‚Äčthat's usually the case.

Reconsider the relationship if things don't change. If you love someone, you want to keep him happy. Why would you want to be with someone who keeps doing something that they know will upset you?

Describe what is and is not cheating. The more specific and detailed your lists are, the better. Make sure that each of you knows exactly what you want and cannot tolerate.

Ask for transparency. If your partner is caught in the act of doing something that is absolutely not the case, you have all the rights to ask them to hand over their phones occasionally if you are worried.

If they have nothing to hide, why should it be a problem?

Once confidence is restored, stop checking them.

It is not a pleasant feeling to transfer your phone and all relations need some privacy. If you never feel safe enough to stop checking, you are in the wrong relationship.

Not sure if you are guilty of micro-cheating?

If you are not sure if you are doing something wrong, ask yourself this question: if my partner could see me now, would they approve? If the answer is no, stop.

But it's still disrespectful – even if you're not there when it happens.

Looking is one thing, interaction is something else.

They were caught somewhere and said they weren't

Social media has not only made cheating so much easier – it has also become much more likely to be discovered.

It's not just a text that pops up at the wrong time, it's also about seeing them at the party they said they were not going to, caught flirting in the background of a friend's message.

Discover the reason why they lied, but if you are not satisfied, go to the left.

Contact an ex on social media

We will probably reach an ex if we are unhappy in our current relationship, so this can be more serious than it sounds.

Consider it a wake-up call that your relationship needs attention.

One study found that you liked an old social media post from someone with whom you once had a greater betrayal than a new one, probably because this means you spend time scrolling through their feed.

Contacting or seeing an ex personally and not telling your partner about it goes beyond the limit of darkness & # 39; Is it cheating? & # 39; & # 39; Certainly not to & # 39; for most of us.

A & # 39; workwoman & # 39; or & # 39; worker & # 39; to have

Friendships are one thing, close friendships with a deep, personal connection are something else.

We are closest to the people who know the most about us and when they go to work on Monday, desperate to talk about their spouse at lunch, your relationship is in trouble.

& # 39; Special & # 39; see friends without you

It is wrong for most of us to constantly see an attractive friend and never invite you to come.

Sending heart & kiss emoji & # 39; s to them is not on, nor does SMS & # 39; and whether they call & # 39; late at night.

Deleting texts when that is not usually the case is another giveaway action, as is putting more effort into their appearance when they are about to meet them.

List someone in their contacts with a fake name

Why would you do it differently than to make sure your partner doesn't know when someone is calling or texting & # 39; t?

It is up there to leave wedding rings at home while you are away with the boys or girls.

Not OK. Ever.

Someone sexed

Most people will certainly agree that this crosses the line – although about 15 percent of people in a survey said they thought it was OK to do this in a relationship, as long as you didn't meet in real life .

I say that to that.

Pretend that you don't care or that it doesn't really count as cheating and watch your self-esteem and self-respect slip through the floorboards.

Send nude photos & # 39; s

Game is over.

Keep this up and you have effectively given your partner the green light to bring it to physical unfaithfulness.

There is no excuse. Don't wait around for one.

Listen live to The Tracey Cox Show on jackradio.com, Wednesday from 12-1pm. Or find it as a podcast everywhere you listen to yours.

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