Are you nervously watching Wanderlust with your partner?
This new BBC drama is about a long-term couple who has lost their desire for each other and tries to sleep with other people as a way to rekindle their libido.
While few couples adopt the idea of polyamory and open relationships, most couples who have been together for a while recognize absolutely the sexual monotony in monogamy.
Sex at first is hot, frantic and fueled by lust instead of ruined by domesticity.
Who would not want me to come back?
Inspired by the BBC's new drama Wanderlust, a series focused on a couple whose sex life has vanished, Tracey Cox reveals how to rekindle your libido in the bedroom. In the photo: Toni Collette and Steven Mackintosh as Joy and Alan in the new drama
How to have sex
The trick to recapturing that new emotion is to create sex scenarios that push both of them firmly out of their comfort zones and return to treating each other like good old fashioned sexual objects.
As you used to do at the beginning, remember?
Here you will find a list of simple, easy-to-do, relatively-optimal sexual treats, which you can do for the other or to change your sex life.
Or two. Or ten.
They start off calmly and rise more on the & # 39; perverted & # 39; As they go, but, do not panic, there's nothing too out there.
Certainly, there may be things that you have not done (I hope so, anyway!) That will increase your level of anxiety. But that's a good thing: a little nervous emotion is not going to hurt any of you.
(Obviously) do not try anything to which you really oppose morally, but do press a little. I'm not talking about other bodies in bed, Wanderlust style, so be adventurous! Playful. Dared.
Simple tricks like having sex with your eyes open can cause a sexual connection between you and your partner
Here it goes…
Easy does it
Having sex with open eyes
Seventy percent of couples have sex with their eyes closed and only fifteen percent open them during orgasm, according to American sex therapist David Schnarch.
"Most of us disconnect our partner at a time that is supposed to be the most intimate," he says.
Make eye contact at all times. You will laugh, you might even cry (some people do!) But sure as hell you will feel more connected.
Run a bubble bath, bring two glasses of something bubbly and then jump right there.
Sleep naked – always. But especially if you are going through a period of low sex or no sex. Snuggling from skin to skin at least satisfies the desire to snuggle.
Playing in public. Discreetly sucks his finger as if it were another part of the body. Bring the palm of your hand to your mouth and bury the tongue.
Talk to him while he is in the shower.
Then say "Wait a minute", take off your clothes quickly and go in to please him with a thick soapy towel.
Both the texture of the fabric and the spontaneity of the gesture mean that everything will end in an instant, but very appreciated!
Mix it every time
Change one of the following elements for each session you have: the time of day, in what room you do it, what you wear, what position you choose, who initiates, what the session focuses on (hand -job, oral, coitus, etc.) .)
Offer sex "without strings"
They do not have to do anything other than lie down and drink, drink, drink.
This will not only make you look wonderfully generous sexually, only the most selfish partners will not feel obligated to return the favor at a later date.
Now that you have the idea
Dare to make cliches like chocolate body paint spilled and licked or dressed like a French maid and serve her breakfast in bed.
The reason why these movements are cliches is because they attract many people.
Tracey recommends that all couples sleep naked every night without exception since skin-to-skin contact is beneficial even if you do not have sex
Start a & # 39; jar of sex & # 39;
Another old gold that works.
Each one writes in private 10 things that he would like to try. Cut the paper into separate points, fold and place all in a jar and choose one per week to test.
It's not just for teenagers.
"I've been thinking about what we did all day"; "If you want me right now, I'm in the room above."
Shave each other bits
It's a laugh … and sexier than you think!
Wrap yourself up as a gift
The non-stick colored bondage tape can be designed in a pretty cool boob tube and a matching mini.
Or grab the kitchen wrap and roll it around to cover your breasts.
He can lick and unwrap it, layer by layer.
Try the Kivin method & # 39;
Transforms a predictable oral sex session for her from dreary to dynamite with a single skilful movement.
TELLY WATCH DRESSED FOR SEX
Listen, I love comfortable / casual clothes as much as the next person, but there is a limit to how often you can wear the same moth-stained sweatshirts and sweatpants.
Fortunately, there is a way to be super comfortable and sexy at the same time.
Well, for example, for you to put on a baggy loose vest or a sweater over your shoulder if there is a hot-colored push-up bra peeking out from under it.
Even better is to use all the clothes of & # 39; error & # 39; what happened to you, and then you realize that you will never have the guts to put yourself in public, like the short skirt that barely covers your panties, bought in too confident a mood, or the top too low that reveals a nipple the moment you move.
Yes, I know, you should not have to look your best all the time, but do not go to the other extreme and you look worse all the time.
Co-workers and friends come to see you in disguise, why can not your partner? This is particularly relevant if times are difficult and it is not coming out that much.
Even if you are going to stay every Saturday night to see a boxset and take a takeaway, put on a pair of jeans and not kill either of them.
Also called "Tahitian cunninlingus", you simply place your head so that it is at right angles to your body.
You are licking up and down, but because your head is perpendicular to your body, your tongue travels from one side to the other, producing a completely new sensation.
Continue, you know what you want
Take him to a dark room, take off his shirt, then tie his hands behind his back (with tie or stockings) before undressing him completely.
You remain dressed.
Stand behind him and tell him that he has been watching him from the other side of the road with binoculars. You have dreamed of the day when you could touch it and, what luck! – Now he is virtually your sexual slave.
Do what you would do, if this were true.
Do yourself – facing each other
Come on, you've read this advice hundreds of times before, but you avoided doing it for shame / prudery / whatever.
The thing is that you will learn a lot about others masturbating one in front of the other, I insist that at least you try it. (If you are very shy, close your eyes so as not to see your partner watching).
Even if you do not actually masturbate with your fingers (why would you do it when a vibrator works so well for you?), Pretending that you do is enough.
Men are generally less shy when it comes to bragging, but they do not throw themselves so fast, she can not see what technique, grip and support you use.
This is not just an ignition exercise, it's a show and tell.
Play "What if you could do what you want?"
It is a fantasy game. Ask your partner: "What would you most like to do in bed that would surprise me? Then I'll tell you."
If you are shy, you start.
Make it silly or fun to start and if they say there is nothing they would like to do that they have not yet done, tell them to invent something.
Believe me, people always have something up their sleeves: let them pretend they are "invented", allow them to put something and see their reaction without risking anything.
If it's "I prefer to take my eyes out with a spoon", all they have to do is say: "Well, you said you invented something! & # 39;
Sneaky or what!
The more you share, the more they share.
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