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A woman has wondered if she is wrong to ask her friend not to attend her birthday dinner if she plans to bring her child.
The woman rented a private room with a bar at a restaurant and also hired a babysitter to take care of her three-year-old son since it was an adults-only event.
However, her friend Missy mentioned that she was bringing her five-year-old son.
Sharing the details on Reddit, the woman said she offered to pay her nanny more to take care of Missy’s daughter, but she said no.
After a heated conversation between the two friends, the woman said that it was best that he not come.
‘I told Missy that I can’t stop her from coming to the restaurant, but we won’t let her into the private room. “She is very hurt because we excluded her,” she wrote.
A woman rented a private room at a restaurant for her birthday and only adults were invited. But her friend said that she wants to bring her five-year-old son (file image)
The main reason Missy doesn’t want someone to babysit her daughter is because she would have been in daycare all day and she doesn’t want her to be with a babysitter at night.
The woman described that her group of friends probably drinks a lot of alcohol and is aware that Missy’s daughter is still young.
“Missy’s daughter is like a lot of five-year-olds: she won’t sit still, she wants to run all over the place,” he wrote.
‘Missy admits he doesn’t take her to restaurants much because she doesn’t know how to act. But I also know that Missy will just leave her because she is so permissive.
Missy then “had a fit” when another friend told her not to bring her daughter and told her she would no longer be attending.
‘I said I completely understand. There are events that I have missed because I don’t want to leave my daughter and the group understands this because we all have children,’ the woman continued.
“I told Missy I’d love to have a play date or lunch another time with our kids so we can still hang out.”
The woman asked the reddit forum if she is a bad friend for not wanting a child at her birthday dinner.
The friend was hurt and thought she was being “excluded” (file image)
Hundreds of people shared their opinion on the situation and said that she is “not a bad friend.”
‘You offered reasonable solutions and she refused. When a person chooses a lifestyle, they have to deal with what it entails. But they are not entitled to special treatment, especially when people with a similar lifestyle have adapted,” one of them commented.
‘She is not being excluded. She is excluding herself. Parents like this worry me. “Parents getting so upset because they were told they can’t take her vaild somewhere completely inappropriate for children just doesn’t sit well with me,” wrote another.
A third said: “This is an adult meeting and you offered a generous solution by paying your nanny more to look after both children.”
‘Not only that, but would you like to take a five-year-old to an adult party where there is alcohol and no other children?’ asked another.
Someone else said: ‘I know it’s hard for some parents to understand, but I don’t give a damn about your kid.’ This event is for adults and not suitable for children, so Missy has to choose: stay home with the child OR come to the party without the child.
“There’s nothing more irritating than when someone takes their child to an adults-only gathering and lets them go crazy because they assume the entire group is going to watch the child so the parents can do whatever they want,” added one more .