For many women, it’s a sad reality of the life they’re told to expect: sex ends at age 60.
While female libido doesn’t disappear overnight, doctors find that sexual desire decreases significantly as women go through perimenopause due to vaginal dryness.
After some awkward efforts, it no longer seems worth it.
It can be heartbreaking. And yes, it may also seem terribly unfair, especially since men’s sex lives can be easily extended with cheap prescription pills.
Even if women use lube, it “washes off within five minutes,” leaving them begging their partner to stop, says menopause expert Dr. Ginni Mansberg.
Dr Mansberg, who has helped many perimenopausal women regain their sex lives at her Sydney clinic and with her best-selling book. The M wordsaid vaginal dryness is responsible for unfair stereotypes about older women.
‘There are so many jokes about “mom doesn’t want to have sex.” But it’s just the pain, not the lack of desire,” Dr Mansberg, 56, told FEMAIL.
He explained that by the age of 65, 80 percent of women experience extreme vaginal dryness, which causes discomfort during sexual intercourse.
Dr. Mansberg, who has helped many perimenopausal women regain their sex lives, says vaginal dryness is responsible for unfair stereotypes about older women.
It can be heartbreaking. And yes, it may also seem terribly unfair, especially since men’s sex lives can be easily extended with cheap prescription pills.
‘It’s not just during sex, it can be uncomfortable all the time. Even underwear can cause discomfort, itching or pain,” he said.
But there is a long-term solution that can make women feel more comfortable in just two weeks: using an estrogen-based cream.
In her own experience, Dr. Mansberg has had her patients see results within a week and most see significant improvements within three months.
‘People need to have these conversations. “It’s normal and very treatable,” said Dr. Mansberg, adding that many women who use the cream often say afterwards that they wish they had tried it sooner.
“It has to be applied every day for two weeks and then twice a week,” he said.
Vaginal dryness is not just a symptom of perimenopause; It can affect women up to their thirties..
“It makes a lot of women stop having sex altogether. And it leaves them feeling devastated,” she said.
‘If left untreated, it is absolutely worse. “When it comes down to it, it’s no big deal,” he said.
Revealed: The Amount of Sex You Should Have Based on Your Age Group (So How Does YOUR Love Life Compare?)
Whether the fire of passion is really burning in your relationship, or you’re just barely managing intimacy, you’ve probably wondered if the regularity of your sex life is “normal.”
Now you can find out thanks to a study from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction.
Researchers found that you can tell how your sex life compares to others based on your age, which is one of the main predictors of how often you are intimate with your partner.
It’s probably no surprise that the youngest ones get the most action; Those between 18 and 29 years old have sex an average of 112 times a year, or twice a week.
A study by the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction found that age is a key predictor of how often you are likely to have sex (file photo)
Between ages 30 and 39, it drops to 86 times a year or 1.6 times a week.
And sexual activity declines even further, with 40- to 49-year-olds having half as much sex as their 20-something counterparts, making love 69 times a year.
“The basic idea that has emerged from these studies is that as we age, our chances of developing chronic diseases increase and this, in turn, negatively impacts the frequency and quality of sexual activity,” said Dr. Justin Kinsey’s Lehmiller. Institute explained.
Surprisingly, the study did not go beyond 50 years and older, which seems to support separate research that found that sexuality among older people is largely ignored.
Researchers from the University of Manchester analyzed written comments from more than a thousand adults aged between 50 and 90 to highlight the obstacles some older couples face in maintaining and fulfilling their sex lives.
They found that many reported signs of anxiety because doctors refused to address falling sexual desire or physical difficulties.
Men were found to be more likely to talk about the impact of health conditions on their sexual activities.
Researchers found that, as expected, 18- to 19-year-olds are most active between the sheets and have sex twice a week on average (file photo posed by models)
Heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes are causes of impotence among men.
But women were more likely to talk about health-related sexual difficulties in the context of a relationship.
Experts recommend that professionals engage positively with issues of sexual function, regardless of age.
They believe that proactively talking about their problems will help improve both the health and well-being of older patients.