Controversial opinion: Men like to be objectified.
Now, before you scream in outrage and call the woke police, let me explain…
This all became obvious to me this week. This realization even forced me to do my own personal investigation and I can say with 100% certainty that it is true.
As many of you may know, every Monday evening, I ask my Instagram followers to confess their craziest secrets, then I repost them anonymously. It really sets off a rather boring weeknight and I can’t get enough of it. During my Saucy Secrets this week, I posted a man’s confession about his wife giving him oral sex during Zoom work meetings.
He said: “My wife is such a tease that she loves to walk around the house naked while I try to work.” Last week I had a company-wide update to listen to and I found it boring. No more. She gave me a BJ. The camera and microphone were turned off. Best business update ever! (I) Later she returned the favor, b4 she went to work.
Jana thinks men like to be objectified – and explained why
I thought it was a bit cheeky, laughed and didn’t think too much about it.
Well, that was until my DMs started filling up with messages from men saying “dream woman” and “where can I find a woman like that”. A man bragged about how his wife grabbed his hand in a dark movie theater and made him do some undeniably raunchy things to her.
Oh, and another said he loves it when his wife slaps his butt in public. It made me realize that men love nothing more than a touch of objectification.
I mean, here was a guy bragging about the fact that his wife was clearly treating him like her personal sex toy, while flaunting her “exhibitionist” style, and he couldn’t get enough of it.
Could this be the secret to a happy relationship?
Make no mistake, you don’t want to objectify men on the street. Sheesh, we women already know what it’s like to feel disrespected in public and it’s not pleasant!
But in the right context, such as in a relationship, could a little objectification go a long way? I’ve seen ex-partners light up like a Christmas tree when I walk past them and pinch their butts, or cheekily squeeze their biceps, or let out a “phwoooar” when they showed up on a date while watching. hot.
This all became obvious to me this week. This realization even forced me to conduct my own personal investigation and I can say with 100% certainty that it is true.
I have one friend in particular, who loves nothing more than a “You up” message from me.
And I think the real reason men are quietly pissed off by all this attention is that it seems rare.
We hear so often about their complaints about the lack of action between the sheets. And their constant woes about their wives never wanting it, so when it happens they are over the moon.
A friend said her husband almost went into cardiac arrest after she sent him a naked selfie out of the blue one day.
I also think this thirst for shameless objectification is fueled by a lack of self-confidence. I’m very aware of my own occasional shortcomings in this area, but I’ve never really thought about the men who also experience it.
That was until I got back together with an ex-boyfriend after a very brief affair with a stocky, muscular football player.
The first time we did this after we reconciled, he kept apologizing for his “dad body” and made one joke too many about how he wasn’t “as fit as the last type.”
I couldn’t have cared about his father’s body, it was him as a whole that turned me on. So it took a lot of objectification to really reconstruct it.
I have one friend in particular, who loves nothing more than a “You up” message from me.
I asked a close friend if he was offended by being objectified. He replied: “The very few times I have been objectified by women, I have admittedly been incredibly assertive and awkwardly complimentary.
“I think ‘Wow, a woman still finds me attractive!’ » If personal safety is not a concern, it is very humiliating to be found attractive and desirable to the opposite sex.
So I wouldn’t suggest walking down the street and spanking the nearest man you find a little va va voom, but maybe reaching out to that special man in your life and him give a good old ‘Phwoooar, you look sexy AF’ the next time you see him. He’ll love it!
