A woman has divided opinions after sharing a controversial reason for separating from her boyfriend or rejecting a proposal.
Michelle Elman said to break up immediately if your man doesn’t make any effort in the relationship and only does so when he’s about to propose.
The London author explained that a relationship should always be 50-50 and that the proposal should never be your partner’s first time organizing a date night.
‘This is very important. It’s not about grand gestures, it’s about effort. “I wouldn’t be in a relationship if they needed a special occasion to do something nice for me,” Michelle said on Instagram. video.
London author Michelle Elman (pictured) encouraged women to break up with their boyfriend, who put no effort into the relationship except when it came to proposing marriage.
Michelle recalled a conversation she had with a friend who was convinced her partner was going to propose because he had made a reservation at a restaurant, something she “never does.”
“I asked him, ‘Do you think he’ll do it during the holidays?’ Do you think he’ll book a restaurant?” And she said, “Oh, he couldn’t do that because it would be a gift,” Michelle said.
She was confused as to why simply making a reservation would make it “obvious” that he was proposing.
“She was like, ‘Yeah, I would know because he’d never done that before.’ They were in a ten-year relationship! Michelle continued
‘Forget about the proposal! She wouldn’t have a ten-year relationship with someone who never booked a restaurant.
“In a long-term relationship, there should be a 50-50 split in effort related to travel, date nights, restaurant reservations, planning and organizing things to do together.”
Michelle said that if a man like that proposed to her, it would be an “absolute no.”
‘I personally don’t even go on first dates unless the guy books. But if the only time a man books a restaurant is at the proposal… that would be a no for sure,” he added.
Michelle explained that a relationship should always be 50-50 and that the proposal should never be your partner’s first time hosting a date night (file image)
He video It has since been viewed more than 607,000 times and received thousands of comments from other women, many of whom agreed with her point.
‘So true! “My now-husband made me breakfast in bed (complete with rose petals and chocolate covered strawberries for dessert) when he proposed to me and I really had no idea he was coming because that’s the kind of man he is,” wrote one woman.
‘My proposal has been bothering me for two years and I think you solved it. “I’m going to sit with this for a while,” said another.
A third added: ‘I wish someone had raised me with this knowledge. I wasted a lot of time serving a minimal guy. I regret it.’
However, others disagreed and argued that it would depend on the personality of the man.
“I feel like videos like this are harmful because my partner has trouble doing things like this because of his ADHD,” one woman explained.
“Just as he grew, he is now becoming more consistent after two years with gifts and romantic gestures.”
Another said: ‘Some people are just motivated differently and there doesn’t have to be balance in all areas of a relationship. You may find it easier to make plans and the other person may find it easier to do other things.
Someone else wrote: “I wouldn’t be in a ten year relationship with someone who takes ten years to propose.”