Therapist reveals five warning signs that a person is “not trustworthy”

A mental health therapist has revealed the warning signs that a person is untrustworthy and they go beyond catching them in a lie.

Bernadette Purcell, 45, of New Jersey, is a licensed clinical social worker and author of the self-help book Divorced As F* In Seven Spiritual Steps.

The content creator, known as @terapiabernHe has nearly 70,000 followers on TikTok, where he regularly shares mental health tips to promote personal growth.

In one of his videos, he described the five components of unreliable people that you should pay attention to in your relationships.

Purcell first advised to be wary of someone who “makes excuses for their actions” and refuses to take responsibility.

He pointed out that a person who is not trustworthy ‘blame others for the situations they find themselves in’.

The therapist explained in a last video that someone who does not take responsibility ‘sees everything as an attack’ and ‘will be diverted by the circumstances’.

She gave an example of a friend who went on the offensive after you calmly told him that you had hurt his feelings.

Purcell demonstrated how they would try to deflect and say something dismissive to undermine the other person’s feelings.

‘Oh, you’re so sensitive. Plus, that was like two days ago… You know how stressed she was that day,’ she said, posing as the friend in question.

The expert warned that an untrustworthy person will try to ‘change or rewrite history to make themselves look better.’

“Every situation seems to put them in this surprising light,” he said.

Purcell added that they will also rely on manipulation and “use guilt or flattery to get what they want.”

Finally, he pointed out that untrustworthy people ‘lie a lot’.

“That might seem obvious,” he said. “But what is not obvious is that they find it very difficult to keep their promises.”

Purcell shared on another clip Many people ask how to know who to trust and when to trust, especially when they are getting out of a relationship.

He quoted author Charlie Wardle, saying: “A bird perched on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not in the branch, but in its own wings.” Always believe in yourself.’

“When you focus on trusting yourself, the actions of others become much less important,” he explained.

‘Because the confidence here is that no matter what comes your way, you trust yourself and you know you can handle it.

“So focus on your own ability to fly and not on the branch.”