Modeling for Calvin Klein, Yasmin Le Bon, 54, said last week: “It sounds stupid, but I didn't want to look like someone's grandma on the runway. . . but actually I'm someone's grandmother and I'm on the runway, so there you go & # 39;
In 54, Yasmin Le Bon is far removed from the cliché image of a grandmother – the black-clad, black-clad old lady in the corner, looking at her knitwear using specs and wearing smart shoes.
Modeling for Calvin Klein, Yasmin said last week: “It sounds stupid, but I didn't want to look like someone's grandma on the runway. . . but actually i'm someone's grandmother and i'm on the runway, so there you go. & # 39;
The supermodel says she now wears more mini-skirts than she did in her twenties and wants to cling to her inner & # 39; rock chick & # 39 ;. Strangely enough she adds: & # 39; I'm sure people say things behind my back, but what I don't hear or see doesn't hurt me. & # 39;
It is hard to imagine that someone does not think Yasmin Le Bon can wear what she wants. Even with grandma glasses and sensitive shoes, she would still look great.
Yes, old mother goose has changed a chick – and we grandma's are busy rewriting our fairy tales.
The grandmother of Little Red Riding Hood lay in bed in her stupid mob-cap – an easy, brittle victim for the Big Bad Wolf. Today's grandmothers hit that orphan on the head with a Louboutin stiletto and send it back into the forest – and make big eyes at the handsome lumberjack.
When I was young, a grandmother was someone who was just. . . good . . . old – and that was all pretty easy.
Now all you have to do is look at famous glamorous grannies such as Jo Wood, Tamara Beckwith, Goldie Hawn, Carole Middleton, Jade Jagger, Susan Sarandon and Jane Seymour (to name just a few) to realize that the game has changed.
But this is not about grabbing glamor in a desperate, unworthy scrabble for eternal youth. No, the key to modern grandmotherhood is inner trust – and attitude. Nobody puts Grandma in the corner.
Being a confident older woman (grandmother or not) means embracing time with a light heart, not denying it. It means making the best of who you are and what you have until the end
But where does & # 39; attitude & # 39; from? Many older women complain that they feel invisible. I suspect they are the ones who really don't like aging that they withdraw – attracting their tendrils of selfishness like a sea anemone when an enemy hovers past.
Perhaps it is not so much a matter of how the world sees them as how they view their own place in the world.
If your perception is that nobody in the room is interested in you, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. My advice is: close the taupe clothes and beige thoughts and wear me purple and red, because who could you miss?
Now all you have to do is look at famous glamorous grannies such as Jo Wood, Tamara Beckwith (photo), Goldie Hawn, Carole Middleton, Jade Jagger, Susan Sarandon and Jane Seymour (to name just a few) to realize that the game has changed
Being a confident older woman (grandmother or not) means embracing time with a light heart, not denying it. It means making the best of who you are and what you have until the end.
It requires facing all stages of life (some call the most important feminine & # 39; Maiden, Mother and Crone & # 39;) with eagerness, knowing that what comes after is a glorious challenge.
Adulthood can only be achieved if you accept your place in the generations, take a step back to focus on your children and their children. But I met women who didn't like to become grandmothers because they think the label is getting older.
That is surprising, because the arrival of four grandchildren in my life was nothing but a blessing.
I write this in the room that was once my smart office but that I have now turned into the grandchildren's playroom. When inspiration dies, I can play with Sylvanian Families and Peppa Pig – and spoil my inner child. Being playful and making the grandchildren laugh at your foolishness is one of the highlights of this phase. I love it.
Nevertheless, I have encapsulated one of the difficulties in a nutshell. Sometimes it's my job versus Peppa Pig. Forget the famous grandmothers and the perfect legs of Yasmin Le Bon in a miniskirt – for the rest of us a modern grandmother can be a complicated balancing act.
Today, women in their fifties and older still live as much as in the 1920s and 30s, even when life is complicated by the arrival of grandchildren. The problem is, you have to balance your own needs with those of the family and there can be a clash.
Adulthood can only be achieved if you accept your place in the generations, take a step back to focus on your children and their children. But I met women who didn't like to become grandmothers because they think the label is getting older
My own mother was a much more selfless grandmother than me. She was still working in an office, but wanted nothing more than to spend her vacation taking care of her precious two grandchildren.
My father was endlessly patient with the little ones and loved to play. They were perfect, selfless grandparents. I don't think my mother ever responded to my children's demands, but (to be honest), I'm still excited about building my career than building plastic bricks.
Usually by the way. . . because I will still drop everything to help – because I have to. That's the & # 39; work & # 39; description – and that's how I was brought up.
The ironic fact is that we, baby boomers, thought we could have everything – and (pfff!) That we still do our utmost to have everything. The first time we were wearing mini skirts, taking risks, forging careers, partying hard, living life to the fullest. Fifty years later, some of us are still boldly dressed, working hard, facing life's challenges, dancing to rock & # 39; n & # 39; roll while we drink too much wine.
Jo Wood, 64, has a granddaughter of her daughter Leah Wood. Social changes also play a role. The increase in divorce among the elderly is often accompanied by finding new partners. In that case, Mom might be less inclined to play a grandfather because an exciting new life is looming
The next morning we can pick up the spread toys of the grandchildren with a sore head. Just give me that & # 39; Bad Granny & # 39; T-shirt and welcome to my world.
And then there is the issue of the & # 39; sandwich generation & # 39 ;. The other week my husband and I spent a day solving my parents' health and well-being problems, who are now 97 and 94 years old.
The next day we got up at 7 am to drive to my daughter's house because her early appointment with the hospital meant we had to have breakfast with the two children, brush their teeth, make sure they had all the right coats and bags and then take them to the school and the nursery.
I am not complaining because we were happy to be needed. But don't let anyone think it's easy. To be blunt – I'm 72 and I'm getting tired. Today, many older women are still working, or have retired, to set up businesses that require enthusiastic attention. It's not that easy to drop everything and get on the floor and play Lego – even if the new hip would allow it!
I suspect that this can be quite a problem these days – young mothers who want their mothers and fathers to help with the children, while those parents (however lovely they are) like to do their own thing.
Social changes also play a role. The increase in divorce among the elderly is often accompanied by finding new partners. In that case, Mom might be less inclined to play a grandfather because an exciting new life is looming. How can you be there to change diapers and find the missing dummy when you travel through Europe with your new beau?
But this is not about grabbing glamor in a desperate, unworthy scrabble for eternal youth. No, the key to modern grandmotherhood is inner trust – and attitude. Nobody puts Grandma in the corner. Pictured, Carole Middleton, 64, has four grandchildren of her daughter Kate, Duchess of Cambridge and Prince William
And if the gray-haired father has turned into a silver fox and has left on a Danube cruise with his lovely, divorced girlfriend, he will not be able to get out of the old train set, will he? He is too busy creating his own fairy tale to read to his grandchildren.
I must confess that I had a wonderful future on our farm with my first husband: idyllic days when our children got married and brought their own children to stay. . . But unfortunately it wouldn't be like that.
Now we both have new spouses and new lives, although we all love the children and grandchildren we share.
And that's how life is, for many older people. . . just complicated. Fragmented. Trying to be everything for all people, to divide yourself by grandmother and new partner and worker while trying to stay in the garden and get to grips with new technology, because it's boring and getting older.
Sometimes it all seems like a huge task.
Oh, but I left the best until the end. The essential ingredient: love. It is what keeps us moving, no matter how different we are. The love between generations, the dedication within families, this is the only true elixir of life.
No wonder that in many cultures the iconic grandmother is always honored to hold the whole family together by holding out her comprehensive hands.
And that is why I sing this song in honor of grandmothers (and of course grandfathers). Grans glitzy and cozy and happy and tired and dedicated.
The admirable strong who raise their grandchildren full-time after family trauma. The sad people who see little or nothing of their grandchildren, but always cherish the burden of love in their hearts and pray that one day a family grief will be healed.
The selfless Grans and Gramps who take on countless hours of childcare without complaining – collecting and carrying and loving.
The Nans who tackle the ironing of their daughters will not do it, who are wise enough to know that they should not interfere, who buy secret chocolate for the children (because that's what grans does, right?) the every day the miracle of seeing their own children multiplied in fresh young faces full of hope.
It's like a second chance. You can shorten your skirts, Yasmin, and swallow your anti-aging cream – and good luck to you.
In fact, good luck for all of us if we do our best. But – whether modern or old-fashioned – what makes a grandmother is the timeless depth and joy of her unconditional love.