A mother who is a mother for the first time shared her heartbreak after her newborn son was stillborn because she claims that doctors ignored her when she said something was wrong.
Ashleigh Charlesworth, 27, from New South Wales, delivered her first baby, Parker, at full-birth age, after the unborn baby's heartbeat increased to about 200 bpm the day before she gave birth and she realized something was wrong.
Ashleigh and her husband, Geordi, were allowed to spend four precious days with Parker in a stuffed animal after being released – and now Ashleigh is urging all mothers to follow their instincts when they think something is wrong with their unborn child.
A mother who is a mother for the first time shared her heartache after her newborn son was stillborn because doctors ignored her when she said something was wrong (pictured with her husband and stillborn son Parker)
Ashleigh Charlesworth, 27, from New South Wales, delivered her first baby, Parker, to stillborn life, after the unborn baby's heartbeat increased to about 200 the day before she gave birth and realized something was wrong (pictured with Geordi and Parker)
Ashleigh and her husband were allowed to spend four precious days with Parker in a stuffed animal after he was delivered – a stuffed animal is a cooling system designed to fit in a cot
Although the 27-year-old woman's pregnancy was unremarkable in many ways, Ashleigh told the end of her third trimester that she was getting pretty ill.
What is a stuffed animal?
* A Cuddle Cot is a cooling system that is designed to fit in a small crib.
* This effective system ensures that babies who have died can stay with their family so that they do not need to be chilled in a mortuary environment.
* Cuddle Cots also allow family members to travel to meet and meet the baby and siblings to meet.
* It's about giving parents choices and reassuring them that they can spend as much time as they want with their baby, without having to cool the fear of the baby in a traditional mortuary.
Source: Cuddly beds
& # 39; Because it was my first pregnancy, every little thing worried about me, & # 39; she said to FEMAIL.
& # 39; By the end of my pregnancy I started to get very ill, but the doctors said it was normal and so I wasn't too worried.
& # 39; The baby's heart rate was always good and was around 140 bpm, so that was the most important thing. But then, on his first day that he was late, Parker's heartbeat suddenly rose to 200 bpm.
& # 39; I knew he was in need and that's why I told the doctors: & # 39; This is not normal, it has not been like that at all, we must remove it now. & # 39;
& # 39; But they said it was and I didn't have to worry, they thought I was probably going to work or something and that was the reason for the increased heart rate. & # 39;
Ashleigh (pictured with Geordi and Parker) said she knew something was wrong when her unborn baby's heartbeat increased
Ashleigh remembered the feeling & # 39; Parker & # 39; s last move & # 39; the night after she noticed his increased heart rate – and the next day went through & # 39; 30 hours of tormenting work hours & # 39;
That evening Ashleigh remembered after experiencing a series of spades in the last nine months & # 39; Parker's last move & # 39; to feel.
& # 39; When I woke up that morning, I just knew he was gone, & # 39; she said.
I was happy to have been able to bind him outside the womb – even if only for a short time
But that wasn't before the new mother had to go through & # 39; 30 hard hours of labor & # 39; to deliver her son stillborn after 40 weeks plus two days.
& # 39; The doctors put him in a stuffed animal, which meant we could spend four precious days with him, & # 39; she said.
Ashleigh said she & # 39; so grateful & # 39; was that the hospital had a cuddle bed because it meant that the new parents could spend some time with him & # 39; watch movies, hold him and get dressed & # 39 ;.
& # 39; It was hard, but I am really so thankful & # 39 ;, she said.
& # 39; After we left the hospital, I was happy to have been able to bind with him outside the womb – even if only for a short time. & # 39;
& # 39; The doctors put him in a stuffed animal, which meant we could spend four precious days with him, & # 39; Ashleigh said – the couple could dress and hug him (photo)
After the death of the baby boy, the new parents had an autopsy performed, showing that they had found Strep B (Streptococcus Infection) in Ashleigh & # 39; s placenta
What is Group B Streptococcus infection?
* Group B Streptococcus (GBS) are bacteria that are normally found in the gut, vagina and rectum in approximately 25 percent of all healthy pregnant women.
* Group B can affect newborn babies & adults. It can spread to babies & # 39; s before birth.
* Between one and four in 1,000 newborns contract group B streptococcal disease (GBS disease) of their mothers during birth.
Source: Better health Victoria
After the baby boy's death, the new parents had an autopsy performed, which showed that they had found Strep B (Streptococcus Infection) in the Ashleigh placenta.
& # 39; I settled for about 37 weeks for this and it came back negative, & # 39; Ashleigh said.
& # 39; But later we found out that line B comes and goes and therefore clearly was not present at that time.
& # 39; It is rare that a baby can get it through the mother cake, but we were that rarity.
& # 39; It was hard to hear and it has made us all the more determined to campaign for change. & # 39;
Now, as they handle their grief, the parents have made it their mission to get cuddly beds that are installed in as many hospitals in Australia as possible.
Now, while processing their grief, the parents have made it their mission to have cuddly beds installed in as many hospitals as possible throughout Australia.
They have already raised $ 6,000 for a cuddly bed and have since raised money with the help of Geordi & # 39; s workplace, Vodafone, for another.
& # 39; The stuffed animal was as good to us as parents, & # 39; she said. & # 39; I can't imagine what it would have been like without. & # 39;
In addition, the young couple encourages mothers to follow their instincts and wonder if they think something is wrong
The couple has already raised $ 6,000 for a cuddly bed (photo) and has since raised money with the help of Geordi & # 39; s workplace, Vodafone, for another
In addition, the young couple encourages mothers to follow their instincts and wonder if they think something is wrong.
& # 39; We have so often placed confidence in the experts because we feel we are annoying when we ask questions, & # 39; Ashleigh said.
& # 39; But as soon as you have doubts, no matter how small, you have to ask the question.
& # 39; Every mother has an instinct, you are not alone and your voice must be heard. & # 39;
Ashleigh said she has joined online with numerous support groups for stillborn mothers and regularly communicates with a & # 39; total stranger in New York & # 39; about what they have experienced.
& # 39; Getting support from other women who have experienced something similar is really useful & # 39 ;, she said.
She said she even spoke to Adelaide Crows star Rory Sloane and his wife, Belinda, who experienced something similar in 2018.
& # 39; Ask questions, trust your instinct, and educate yourself if you don't understand something people are saying, & # 39; Ashleigh said.
& # 39; You'll regret it if it's too late. & # 39;
If you or someone you know is affected by the loss of a baby or child, call Sands 24/7 National Support Line on 1300 0 72637.
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