A man who switched to a woman after she spent $ 29,000 on surgery has insisted it strengthened her marriage – despite the fact that her wife needed eight months of therapy to come to terms with a “lesbian” relationship .
Michigan-born Taylor Vanmalsen, 29, has lived most of her life as a man, even though she secretly wanted to be a woman from an early age.
The stock manager is married to Sarah, 27, who knew that her husband wanted to live as a wife from the start of their relationship, but went to a therapist to deal with anxiety before she became the primary ‘driving force’ behind the menopause from Taylor in 2018.
Taylor spent her savings and used her credit card to undergo surgery to move the brow bone to make it look more feminine, her Adam’s apple removed, breast enlargement, and lip filler, but says full sex change is “ not yet on the agenda. ”
Michigan 29-year-old Taylor Vanmalsen (right) who went on to become a woman after spending $ 29,000 on surgery has insisted that it bolster her marriage to Sarah, 27. The couple share a daughter, Valerie, aged 21 months
Taylor Vanmalsen (photo before her transition), 29, from Michigan, has lived most of her life as a man, although she secretly wanted to be a woman from an early age
Taylor, who shares daughter Valerie, now 21 months, with Sarah, maintains that her transition has strengthened her marriage because she is “no longer depressed and can give her wife her full attention.”
She said, “I want to show other trans people that you can still be happily married. Trans partners may look a little different on the outside, but they are still the same person, but happier.
“I’m going to be the real Taylor now, I decided to keep my birth name that I hated as a boy. Ironically, people always said, “That sounds like a girl’s name.”
She added, “A lot of people are interested in our sex life and wonder if I’ve had a sex change, but it’s not on the agenda yet. My main priority was to present myself as a woman so that I can be myself.
“But I’m still trying to find my confidence when it comes to shopping and going to public toilets. I often just keep it because I don’t want to be beaten up by men or abused by women. ‘
The inventory manager (pictured with her wife and daughter after surgery) is married to Sarah, 27, who knew her husband wanted to live as a wife from the start of their relationship.
Sarah, after her surgery in the picture with Taylor, went to a therapist to deal with anxiety before becoming the primary ‘driving force’ behind her partner’s transition in 2018
Taylor (pictured with her wife before surgery) spent her savings and credit card reducing her forehead, removing Adam’s apple, enlarging the breast, and filling the lips. She says gender reassignment is ‘not yet on the agenda’
Taylor was honest with her wife when they started dating, which helped the couple form a strong bond, recalling, “Sarah was the first person I ever told and she was thankful for my honesty.
“It was strange at first because she stayed with me, even though she knew my secret.
“I feel like I cheated on her from a husband before because I was always down and just a shell of myself. But now I can be myself and give Sarah all my love and affection. ‘
Sarah, who is a customer service trainer, went to a therapist for eight months to help her deal with anxiety and come to terms with a “lesbian” relationship. Then she asked Taylor to switch.
Taylor was honest with her wife when they started dating which helped the couple, pictured with their daughter, form a strong bond
Sarah (left photo with Taylor before her surgery), who is a customer service trainer, went to a therapist for eight months to help her deal with anxiety and come to terms with a ‘lesbian’ relationship
The mom of one said, “I was living a pretty sheltered life and didn’t know what trans was, so when Taylor first told me, I just said” OK, thanks for letting us know, “and we just went on with it.
But as the years went on, Taylor became increasingly depressed and the ‘secret’ really bothered her. I started to suffer from fear because I was afraid that I would return from work one day and Taylor might have hurt herself, she was so low.
“I knew the only way to end the depression would be a transition, but I couldn’t fully process it overnight. The therapist helped me overcome my anxiety and I also had to work on what it will be like.
“I found it didn’t matter and all my” what if “was being worked on. I thought I would be sad, but I couldn’t be happier. It’s refreshing to see Taylor feel really happy and slowly gain confidence in who she really is. ‘
Taylor (pictured left with her daughter after surgery and right with her wife before surgery) admitted she was nervous about aging, but Valerie completely changed her perception
Sarah (above with her husband after her surgeries) claims she is often praised for staying with Taylor despite a gender reassignment
Taylor admitted she was nervous about getting older, but Valerie completely changed her perception.
She retained her fertility before passing so she could expand their family in the future.
Sarah claims she is often praised for staying with Taylor despite a gender reassignment.
She said, “People think I’m great for staying in the relationship, but I didn’t have to say yes to marriage – I knew who Taylor was from the start. It would have been a shock if she had told me ten years later!
“I fell in love with Taylor, for Taylor, and it’s great to see how much happier she is. We’ll be open and honest when Valerie reads child-friendly books, but it doesn’t matter to us because she has two parents who love her – no matter what. ‘