Imagine coming home to find a cake on your kitchen table, frosted pink with a slice cut away to show the blue sponge inside. With him is a letter from his teenage son that says: ‘Mom and Dad, I know you thought you had a daughter, but now I understand I’m actually a boy.’
Pink on the outside and blue on the inside cake is just one of the scripts for coming out as trans to your parents being shared on online forums. These portray parents who do not immediately adopt the child’s new identity as ‘transphobic’. Children are advised to put them online by complaining to schools and social services.
In any other context, for example an anorexic threatening to kill herself if her parents refuse to let her starve, this would be recognized as emotional blackmail. But the idea that one can be ‘born in the wrong body’, that everyone has a ‘gender identity’ that sometimes does not match their sex, is now widely presented as fact. And LGBT charities like Stonewall and Mermaids say trans-identified children are likely to attempt suicide unless their claims of identity are accepted, using phrases like “better a living son than a dead daughter.”
Some parents have bought this and appear to enjoy the social status afforded by a trans-identified child. But most parents who ‘socially transition’ their child, using a new name and pronouns, and pretending the child’s sex has changed, do so because they believe the trans lobby’s distorted narrative and are terrified of losing their partner. son.
Helen Joyce, a gender-critical author, has spoken out on transgender issues, in which some trans youth wear pastels that are pink on the outside but blue on the inside to come out as trans to their parents.

Transgender double rapist Isla Bryson was sent to Cornton Vale, Scotland’s only women-only facility, to be held in segregation pending sentencing. The move sparked a furious protest earlier this year.

Undated file photo issued by Scottish Police of Bryson Island, formerly known as Adam Graham
In fact, NHS data shows that trans-identified young people are not at increased risk of suicide compared to other young people referred to mental health services. And there is mounting evidence that social transition is a terrible idea, because it blocks what might otherwise be a passing phase. It reinforces the dissociation of a child from his sex. And it increases the likelihood of progressing to irreversible medical interventions, such as puberty blockers, cross-reference hormones, and genital surgery, which cause cognitive decline, brittle bones, sexual dysfunction, and sterility.
As the word ‘social’ suggests, social transition is not something you can do alone. When parents buy into a child’s fantasy of being the opposite sex, or in the case of ‘non-binary’ identities, of not having a gender, they are making an implicit promise to the child that everyone else will play along.

Helen Joyce (pictured) has criticized “the lie that men can be women, leading to rapists being jailed for women and male athletes stealing our prizes.”
Not all will. Some people believe, in the words of the Bible, that God created two unchanging sexes and think it is sinful to claim otherwise. Others, like me, have secular concerns. Unless you accept that women are women, men are men, and that no one’s sex can change, it is impossible to guarantee women’s privacy, safety, and dignity in single-sex spaces or fair competition in sport. for female athletes.
All this is blindingly obvious, and until recently it would not have been necessary to say it. But the rise of child transition means that it is increasingly being portrayed as a critique of some people’s parenting choices. Simply telling the truth about both sexes implies that they may have catastrophically and irreversibly damaged their children.
Since that’s just too horrifying to behold, some of these parents respond by becoming radical trans activists. They demand that gender theory be taught in classrooms and workplace policies that allow everyone to use toilets that match their ‘gender identity’. And they vilify anyone who presents the facts about childhood gender transition. It’s a classic case of shooting the messenger.

Transgender Lexi-Rose Crawford (pictured), who identifies as a female, was sent to a men’s prison after being convicted of assaulting a friend.
But we can’t just give up and walk away. We don’t talk about these damages for fun, or because we’re obnoxious. We do it because it is important for everyone’s rights. The lie that men can really be women, and women men, leads to rapists being imprisoned for women, male athletes stealing prizes and victories that should have been for women, and, above all, the medical scandal that ensues. develops in child gender clinics.
It has been very difficult to get the word out. The BBC, Guardian and other left-leaning outlets mostly don’t cover this story, and when they do, they present us as fanatics. Before Elon Musk bought Twitter, we were frequently banned for ‘gender misconception’, precisely referring to the sex of trans-identified people.
If we hadn’t been silenced, I wonder if so many parents would have told their children that everyone else could be forced to pretend to harm their rights and ultimately harm the child as well. The terrible pity for those who have already walked this path is that there is no going back.