Are you an orchid or a dandelion? A hypnotherapist captivates the internet with a flower-centric theory about why siblings deal with trauma differently — and how it can affect their chances of success as adults.
- Judy Lee, from the United States, described in detail why siblings with the same trauma deal differently
- “Dandelion” are children who are strong and thrive in all circumstances
- Orchids, meanwhile, are more delicate and can wilt in adverse conditions
The hypnotherapist went viral after sharing the “dandelions vs. orchids” theory about the siblings.
Judy Lee, US-based TikTok content creator known as @tweetto the video-sharing platform recently to discuss the theory I learned during school and why siblings with the same trauma handle differently.
Children who are strong and thrive in all circumstances are considered “dandelions,” according to academics.
Meanwhile, the ones that are more sensitive and can wilt in a harmful environment without constant care are known as “orchids.”
Hypnotherapist Judy Lee went viral after explaining the “validation” theory of siblings
“If you grew up in an insecure home and you have a brother or sister, I want you to ask yourself that she is one of you…in a way more sensitive than the other,” Jodie, who uses her/they pronouns, began the video that showed clips of her and her sister together.
And when I say sensitive, I’m not just talking about emotional sensitivity.
“I also talk about how sensitive a person is to sound, to food, to allergies, to the fabric of clothing — just generally sensitive to the environment.”
Judy goes on to say that there always seems to be that sibling who does “really well” compared to the other in an “abusive environment”.
“The highly resilient person in an abusive home is called Dandelion Kid,” they explained in the video, which has over 1.3 million views at the time of writing.
It can thrive in basically any environment like the dandelion flower itself.
But orchid babies are so sensitive to their environment that they can actually wilt or wilt in an abusive environment or thrive and do really well in a positive environment.
Of course, at first glance one seems to be much better than the other.
On her viral TikTok, Judy shares her thoughts on the “dandelions vs. orchids” theory.
But what’s really interesting with this little piece of evidence has been that if baby orchids are taken out of that abusive environment and grow up, and then replaced in a nurturing and nurturing environment they can actually outpace their dandelion counterparts.
“I think the moral of the story is that as Orchid Children it becomes very important that we find a beautiful community to be a part of.”
in buzzfeed In the interview, Jodi also discussed a third type of child, lavender, who sits between two extremes of the spectrum.
“I was a little afraid of being portrayed as bi,” she said.
Because especially when you post something on social media, people can be very black or white about it. It’s not a radical yes or no, it’s a very broad spectrum. The whole point is that it is dialectical.
And Jodi’s video appears to have resonated with many people online, drawing thousands of comments
Judy added that just because someone was a dandelion, it doesn’t mean they weren’t affected by trauma, a misconception some TikTok viewers believe.
And their video seems to have resonated with many people online, garnering thousands of comments.
I’ve never felt so much validation as growing up and feeling it now. I am finally starting to bloom and bloom, but slowly. Someone said thank you.
Screams at the orchid. But also, thank you for the sparkle at the end. Another added.
‘This is so much fun.’ I’m Dandelion’s kid but my younger brother is definitely Orchid’s kid. I hope he thrives and outsmarts me,” wrote a third person.
Another person said, “My sister’s orchid and I’m the dandelion, it suffered at my parents’ house — it’s now in a safe and happy marriage, and watching it bloom is wonderful.”