A new series of HBO documentaries about modern dating culture is described as a "horror movie" and a "deeply sad" look at how much more difficult it has become to find a lasting relationship.
Swiped: Hook Up Up for the Digital Era will be released today, September 11, on HBO, and the ten-part series has already gained quite a stir.
However, what is most revealing is that it seems that the rumor mainly comes from members of the media who are older than the demographic target of dating applications, which indicates that the unique struggles faced by younger generations when it comes to of appointments are new to them.
New night! Swiped: Linking in the digital era opens tonight on HBO
Swiped comes from the journalist Nancy Jo Sales, and is the continuation of a work by Vanity Fair 2015 that she wrote entitled Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse.
In the series, Sales investigates how online dating has had a profound impact on gender issues, the culture of rape and relationships in general.
"I think what the film is trying to do is make us see technology and what it means and what it is doing to us, how our culture is changing, how it is changing the way we treat ourselves, how we interact," he told NPR. .
& # 39; And I think some of these results and ramifications are pretty bleak. But what I wanted to do and what I tried to do in the film was, first, to make people think about it and examine it, but also to give life and humanize people in these piles of images. "
It includes interviews with industry leaders, including Tinder co-founder Jonathan Badeen, Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd, Hinge founder Justin McLeod and Match Group CEO Mandy Ginsberg.
There are also interviews with academics who, according to HBO, "provide a social and historical context for the rapidly evolving nature of today's citations."
For the most part, however, the series focuses on the impact of these applications on the people who use them and on how culture is changing. He says that young people from 18 to 30 years old spend 10 hours a week in dating applications, however, it shows that most of them are not happy with their experience.
"I think the movie represents a broad spectrum of people who have had different kinds of experiences," Sales told HBO. "I was very aware of that.
"I do not think I've ever interviewed a single person who just said in general," I love these [apps]I think they are perfect, without complaints at all. "That's not what you hear.
"Even people who have married on these platforms complain about them."
Reports: comes from the journalist Nancy Jo Sales, and is a continuation of a work of Vanity Fair 2015 that he wrote entitled Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse
The problem, she says, is not the connection culture. Is that at the end of the day, most people who use these applications, both men and women, actually want a long-term relationship, but can not find it.
Tinder's own survey says that 80% of users seek long-term relationships. People want love; they want a real connection. But there is no data on how these applications will help us do that, "he said.
The series seeks to explore why these applications do not work the way people want and how they are altering dating and relationships in general.
Evolutionary psychologist David Buss says that part of the problem is that a photo in an application or dating site "tends to flood all the other information", that is, the whole emphasis is on someone's appearance, to the point that I was in the past.
In addition, he added, people now have a host of potential partners to cross, which "triggers this short-term mating psychology in a way that would never have been triggered ancestrally."
But as the show shows, it's not that easy to simply opt for dating apps, which have become ubiquitous.
On the one hand, those who do not conform can be seen as suspects.
"I remember when you used to call people on the phone," says one of the young singles from the series in the trailer. I like it, if you're in love with someone.
That's probably not happening anymore. I think if you call someone these days they would probably label you as a psychopath.
Changes: in the series, Sales investigates how online dating has had a profound impact on gender issues, the culture of rape and relationships in general.
Sales also referred to that point, saying that relying on applications has made people less open to an organic meeting, or less willing to risk being rejected in a face-to-face meeting.
"The" genius "of Tinder was that it relieved people of the fear of rejection," Sales told the Washington Post. "That is good in certain aspects, but what is lost is the chance of the casual meeting: the" romance ", if you will."
The series also addresses how people of color face additional problems in these applications.
"I think dating apps normalize things that are unacceptable," Sales told NPR. "And one of the things we just talked about, objectification, and something else … we hear about racism.
& # 39; Because somehow it is considered that, in these applications, it is okay to choose what you want in a romantic couple. And sometimes that deviates to what some of our African-American characters are experiencing as racism. And that's not right.
"Imagine being a woman of 22, 23 and 24 years, going to a dating application and … slipping people and seeing a profile, which they said they saw quite regularly, that actually said, and this is a date " without blacks ".
Sales also hopes that one of the people who take his work is a discussion about dating applications and sexual violence.
"I really was not aware of this, I would say, the relationship between dating apps and the culture of rape before I started interviewing young women for the movie," he said. "There's a real problem with that, you know?
& # 39; I hope this conversation starts in a real way. Especially at the #MeToo moment, we have women who talk about sexual harassment, sexual assault. And yet, there is no talk about the place where I would say that you are likely to experience much of this: in your dating lives, in your app appointments.