A groom turned to the internet after his family said they wouldn’t be attending his destination wedding because he sold a “five-figure” family heirloom to pay for the “lavish” event.
In a after on the forum site Reddit, the anonymous user summed up the situation — which revolves around an unnamed item passed to him just months after his father’s death — that has divided his family and caused strangers to call on the internet.
The groom said he thinks the couple had every right to sell the item as his father left it to him in his will, especially since they have “no plans” to have children.
He says in his post that he and his fiancee agreed to sell the item because their wedding is the “most important occasion” in their lives.
“We agree that this is the most important event in our lives so we need to make it as memorable as possible,” the groom wrote in his Reddit post.
The man said his furious brother then “convinced” the family not to attend the wedding after the incident.
According to the post in the “Am I the A**hole” subgroup, the 39-year-old man and his 38-year-old fiancée explained that they had decided they wanted to have a “lavish wedding at a winery in another state.” and that despite having steady jobs and savings, they decided that their “ambitious” wedding plans required more money.
“My father passed away in January and in his will he left me a very valuable (think five-figure) family heirloom,” the groom wrote.
“I’m not much for big family traditions, so while it’s nice to have, I’m not hugely attached to it. I have plenty of other fond memories of my father and I don’t need a fancy heirloom to remember him,” he continued.
The groom goes on to say that his 34-year-old brother is a “massive history nerd” with a deep attachment to the item.
“He was very upset by my father’s decision in the will (the reason it went to me and not him is because this is traditionally passed down to firstborn sons),” he wrote.
“My fiancé and I don’t plan on having kids, and I think that’s why he assumed he (or his kids) would be eligible to have it if I died,” he continued.
A groom turned to the internet after his family said they wouldn’t be attending his destination wedding because he sold a five-figure family heirloom to pay for the ‘lavish’ event
In a post on the Reddit forum site, the anonymous user summarizes the situation — including the item handed to him several months ago after his father’s death — that has divided his family and caused strangers on the internet to know
The groom said “after some discussion” the couple decided to sell the item to pay for the wedding, which was not well received by his brother.
“My brother, who is also my best man, was furious when he found out and said he wanted nothing more to do with the wedding. He thinks my wife-to-be and I are acting like spoiled brats,” the groom wrote.
The husband-to-be said his brother also convinced everyone from his uncle to his cousins to skip the wedding, leading to “virtually none” of his relatives attending the “lavish” event.
“I think since I legally inherited the heirloom, I can do what I want with it,” he said.
When asked if he’s “the asshole,” the man said he thinks he’s right, but his family’s reaction is making him second-guess himself.
“I think he’s just upset because I ruined his expectations of inheriting it one day, but since my uncle and cousins agree enough with him not to come to the wedding, I’m not so sure I be right. ‘ He wrote.
The post has since caught the attention of thousands who have berated the groom and his wife-to-be for their callousness and selfishness.
“Your father entrusted you with this item for whatever reason. You don’t care about it for whatever reason, but why didn’t you just give it to your brother or another relative?’ one person wrote.
“You knew your family cared deeply, don’t be surprised they aren’t with you on your special day.” You screwed up big time,” the commenter continued.
“You are very selfish and short-sighted,” one commenter wrote
“You knew your family cared deeply, don’t be surprised they aren’t with you on your special day.” You screwed up big time,” another person commented on the original post
‘All for what? So you can brag about your marriage to friends, looking at photos that don’t include anyone from your side of the family,” one Reddit user replied
“YTA (you’re the asshole) if you sell the item, don’t be surprised if it ruins your relationship with your brother forever. Everything for what? So you can brag about your marriage to friends, looking at photos that don’t include anyone from your side of the family,” another chimed in.
‘YES. You are very selfish and short-sighted. And when you’re in your late 30s, can’t you afford that without buying something important for your family? Yuck,” said another.
“And how was OP supposed to fund this party if their father hadn’t passed away a few months ago and left them this heirloom?” wrote a dissenter.
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