They are often considered the pinnacle of pleasure, but when it comes to orgasms, it seems women are missing something.
Durex surveyed 2,000 Britons about their sexual experiences and found that men ejaculate on average four times as often as women.
Only five percent of women said they always have an orgasm during a sexual encounter, compared to 20 percent of men.
A fifth of the sexually active women said they felt frustrated or disappointed because of it, but 11 percent said they got used to it.
Fortunately, help is at hand, as sex expert Alix Fox has revealed her top tips for increasing women’s chances of orgasm — including using chopsticks.
The survey found that 19 percent of women say using a sex toy is the most likely way to have an orgasm. But Ms Fox said some men feel ‘threatened’ by this (stock image)
“I find this deeply heartbreaking when intimacy can be so much more fulfilling anywhere,” Ms Fox told MailOnline.
UK CITIES WITH THE BIGGEST AND SMALLEST ‘O’ GAPS
Largest ‘O’ opening
Smallest ‘O’ opening
The survey found that the city with the largest orgasm gap is Norwich.
There, 33 percent of male residents say they “always” come during an encounter, compared to only 1 percent of female residents.
Newcastle and Liverpool came second and third respectively, as there is a 29 and 28 percent difference between the number of men and women who ‘always’ have an orgasm.
But the opposite can be seen in Scotland, as in Glasgow more women say they achieve the magic ‘O’ every time than men.
However, it seems that Glasgow men of both sexes have some learning to do, as only two per cent of men say they always come, and five per cent of women.
Scotland also has the smallest orgasm gap regionally, with only five percent more men saying they always reach orgasm during sex than women.
The Northeast has the largest gap, with sexually active men five times more likely than women to have an orgasm with every encounter.
The data suggests the gap widens as we age, with 16 percent of 18 to 24 year olds saying they always come, compared to seven percent of 25 to 34 year olds.
But sexually active British adults over 75 are twice as likely to say they always have an orgasm than those aged 25 to 34.
Fortunately, help is at hand, as sex expert Alix Fox has revealed her top tips for increasing women’s chances of orgasm — including using chopsticks
% OF AGE GROUPS THAT ‘ALWAYS’ HAVE AN ORGASM DURING SEX
18 to 24 year olds: 16 percent
25 to 34 year olds: 7 percent
35 to 44 year olds: 9 percent
45 to 54 year olds: 14 percent
55 to 64 year olds: 15 percent
65 to 74 year olds: 12 percent
Over-75s: 14 percent
Ms Fox says there are many reasons why men in the UK enjoy sex more than women.
She told MailOnline: ‘Women tend to learn that their sexual role is to prioritize giving pleasure to men, rather than receiving and sharing it in return.
This is reflected in the fact that almost half of sexually active women in the UK told Durex that they had faked an orgasm at some point – with the main reason for doing so, in 50 per cent of such cases, being to prevent them from doing their orgasm. partner feel bad or hurt their feelings.
“Women have become accustomed to protecting men’s egos at the expense of expressing their own needs, desires and truths.”
The survey also found that 19 percent of women say using a sex toy is the most likely way to have an orgasm.
But Ms Fox said some men feel ‘threatened’ by this.
“They’re afraid that their own body is somehow overshadowed by a gadget,” she told MailOnline.
“Toys are, in fact, valuable teammates, not rivals.”
This doesn’t have to be an expensive endeavor, as the sex educator suggests using a pair of chopsticks to spice things up in the bedroom.
Ms Fox told MailOnline: ‘Many women enjoy playing with nipples and breasts and find that this type of stimulation can help them build an orgasm.
“Indeed, some of the women even report “nipple gasms”: orgasms achieved only by stimulating the chest and feeling like they’re coming from this region.”
a study from Rutgers University showed that nipple stimulation activated the same brain regions as stimulation of the vagina and clitoris.
“Nipple play also triggers the release of oxytocin – a hormone involved in inducing feelings of closeness and belonging, reducing depression and inducing cervical dilation and uterine contractions during childbirth,” Ms Fox told MailOnline.
“Again, this suggests it’s plausible that satisfying the breasts and nipples could potentially cause twitching and contractions below that could lead to a genital orgasm.”
What is the Orgasm Gap?
The orgasm gap is a widely known phenomenon in which men ejaculate significantly more often than women during heterosexual sex.
Previous research has already shown the existence of an orgasm gap between men and women.
In 2016, research found that only 65 percent of heterosexual women “usually or always” have an orgasm during sex, compared to 95 percent of men.
Some researchers argue that it is just another form of gender inequality.
Ms. Fox also says porn videos can contribute to the orgasm gap, as it often shows women climaxing “at the slightest touch” or “just through penetration.”
“Maybe it gives men an unrealistic view of what women need to feel good,” she told MailOnline.
The Durex study found that twice as many sexually active men say that foreplay is not important in helping them reach orgasm than women.
But Britain’s stiff upper lip isn’t helping either, as only one in five women, and nearly a quarter of men, said they felt uncomfortable talking to their partner about what they like in the bedroom.
Ms. Fox says another scientifically proven way a woman increases her chances of having an orgasm during sex is by loosening up the pelvic floor muscles.
She told MailOnline, ‘By promoting blood flow to the pelvic area and increasing arousal; by helping you recognize and better control the feeling of contracting muscles in the vaginal area; and by potentially encouraging more powerful contractions during climax, developing a healthy pelvic floor can help result in more orgasms, and more intense ones to boot.”
To increase a woman’s chances of pleasure and reduce the chance of a mess, Ms. Fox recommends pelvic floor exercises such as kegels (stock image)
She says a tense pelvic floor is common among women who worry about their weight because they hold their bellies in for long periods of time.
“They may not even do it consciously, but over time, their muscles become constantly clenched,” she told MailOnline.
“Anxiety and stress can also cause this excessive clenching, as can sports that require the body to withstand repetitive pounding movements, such as long-distance running.”
A too-tight pelvic floor can also cause problems, as tense muscles can’t handle the extra contractions that come with an orgasm.
Ms Fox told MailOnline: ‘This could mean the orgasm isn’t happening at all; it hurts or feels like an overwhelming push.
“The entire pelvic area basically collapses from extreme exhaustion and muscle fatigue – which can lead to loss of control over urine and even stool.”
To increase a woman’s chances of pleasure and reduce the chance of a mess, Ms. Fox recommends pelvic floor exercises such as kegels.
She added, “Orgasms and pleasure can provide all sorts of health benefits: better mood; reduced stress and anxiety; deeper, peaceful sleep; a greater sense of belonging and connection with the partner.
“More fun means more of all this good stuff, and the good things that follow from it.”
Cannabis helps women have MULTIPLE orgasms per sexual encounter – including masturbation
Cannabis use could be the key to multiple orgasms in women – less than 50 percent report climaxing during a sexual encounter.
A new study of hundreds of people showed that women who smoke before sex or masturbate have better orgasmic power each time.
The study, conducted by North Carolina researchers, suggested that this is likely due to the fact that the drug relaxes women and increases their desire, meaning the recreational drug could treat sexual dysfunctions.
More than 70 percent of the study participants – both men and women – reported increased sexual satisfaction after cannabis use.
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