A dating coach has detailed how to “break away” from someone you’re obsessed with when you find yourself on the wrong end of a one-sided crush.
Gabby, what’s up? @respectfullygabby on TikTok, he told his viewers that they needed to let go of whoever was the object of their unrequited love.
And he went further, also explaining how people in love ended up falling so hard for someone when the feelings were clearly not mutual.
‘Let’s talk about how to detach yourself from that person you’re obsessed with. Trust me, I get it,” he admitted.
‘I’ve been there, where you’re so in love with this person and you just can’t get them out of your mind. In your head you think, “It has to be this. It has to be this one. I can’t see myself with anyone else, this is my person.”
Gabby advised viewers how to deal with unrequited love and how to avoid falling too hard for someone in the future.
Still, even the strongest feelings towards said person cannot make them feel the same.
“One of the main reasons you’re obsessed with this person is because you don’t believe someone like them exists, or you don’t think you’ll find a connection like them,” Gabby offered. form of analysis.
“When you go out with that mentality of ‘This is the only person,’ you start to get attached to that person, you start to obsess.
‘Try to force the pieces to fit together, so they want to choose you. But here’s the thing: the moment you get attached to someone, you completely lose control, which is exactly what you’re trying to avoid.
‘The only reason to join is because you want to control the pieces, you want to control the outcome. And life doesn’t work like that,” he bluntly reminded his spiteful viewers.
‘That’s how life really works: you can’t control anyone, you can’t control anything, outside of yourself.
‘So if this person wants to be in your life, let them. If they don’t want to be in your life, leave them. If they want to see you, let them. If they don’t want to see you, that’s fine.’
In the meantime, keep in mind “the understanding that if it’s not this person, it’s going to be something much better,” he added encouragingly.
“Believe me, I’ve been there,” she admitted of being on the scorned end of a romantic dynamic.
Many viewers took to the comments to praise Gabby for the sound advice, as well as offering their own proven methods for getting over someone.
‘You don’t know what’s on the other side of this person. It could be your real soulmate who treats you like gold, wants to put in the effort, you have a better connection, you have more things in common.
‘You don’t know because you are so obsessed with the wrong person. And whatever that person should bring into your life, let it be, whether it’s a lesson or a life. Never a loss!’
Many viewers readily praised Gabby for her sound advice, while others offered their own time-tested methods for getting over a crush.
‘OMG YES! All of this. PREACH. Especially the last part. “I’ve been learning A LOT,” one wrote.
“I needed it today,” a second chimed in.
“Decentering men is the best thing I’ve ever done to control my (continued) limerance,” professed a third.