The couple therapist decodes what your sex dreams really mean

Having a sex dream is common and is very thought-provoking, especially when it comes to a colleague or a close friend.

But while you are sleeping with someone in your subconscious mind can be disturbing, the reason behind such a meaningful snooze activity may be more innocent than you might expect.

Hilda Burke, a couples advisor and author based in the UK, and the Australian dream therapist Martina Kocian, have spoken about the deeper meaning behind different forms of sexual dreams.

Having a sex dream is both common practice and deep thinking, especially when it comes to someone you know and with whom you do not have a romantic relationship (stock image)

Having a sex dream is both common practice and deep thinking, especially when it comes to someone you know and with whom you do not have a romantic relationship (stock image)

According to the relationship expert, sexual intimacy on the side of sexuality symbolizes different issues, depending on who your fantasy task is.

Although the vast majority of us are not prominent with the rich and famous, slipping between celebrity magazines is often an indication of the qualities we are really looking for in a partner.

"Most of us have an instinctive feeling about celebrities … we introduce them as a way," Burke told Cosmopolitan, adding that these supposed qualities are appealing.

Sex with your boss can be a really disturbing experience and makes the morning conferences probably quite uncomfortable for the dreamer.

But Mrs. Burke has said that this kind of erotic dream has more to do with your career ambitions and professional aspirations than with an irrational infatuation with your superior.

Having sex with a friend is a common dream that is sure to rattle even the most down-to-earth person.

Ms. Burke said that these dreams may be indications of your subconscious to re-evaluate Platonic relationships – while the person may not be your usual type, it may be interesting to ask yourself what this fantasy could mean.

A common belief in the dream community is that sex with friends means a wish to take on the qualities or talents of the person in question.

This applies in particular to saucy dreams with a gender that you do not feel attracted to in waking life.

Likewise, cheating on your partner can indicate an interest in the object of the good personal qualities of your desires, while cheating is easier and can suggest uncertainties or trust problems in your relationship.

Martina Kocian (photo) is a dream interpreter and therapist who divides her time between Sydney and Brisbane

Martina Kocian (photo) is a dream interpreter and therapist who divides her time between Sydney and Brisbane

Martina Kocian (photo) is a dream interpreter and therapist who divides her time between Sydney and Brisbane

Even if our nightly escapades do not mean that you get warm and heavy between the sheets, awakening from a kind of lively dream can evoke a series of emotions, depending on what the subconscious experienced during sleep.

According to Martina Kocian, the four most common dreams are about falling, being chased, sex and the failure of your teeth.

Ms. Kocian revealed that dreams of teeth that fall out or that they lose in an accident often symbolizes fear of change or a major transition. Death in a dream, whether it is a loved one or an unknown person, also means resistance to enormous changes in life.

In the same spirit, chase is a sign that you are running away from or avoiding tackling a problem in your life. Being chased can also be a symbol of guilt.

The falling of a height generally emphasizes a lack of control in the waking life of a person.

"Water-related dreams represent the state of our emotions," she said.

For example, do you dream of banging tsunami's or calm waters? These dreams are a good indication of where we are psychologically and mentally during our waking hours. & # 39;

DREAM SYMBOLS WITH HIDDEN MEANINGS

* Water: Dreaming about water represents emotions and may indicate that you feel overwhelmed or unsupported in a certain aspect of your life.

* Transport: Dreaming about vehicles or transport systems usually means that you are concerned about the direction your life takes.

* Feeling trapped: being trapped in a confined space means the need for a fresh look or change, but this can be small and easily solved by leaving something like a rejuvenating weekend away.

* Losing your teeth: tooth loss is related to suppressed feelings or loss of control.

* Being chased: this almost always means that you are stressed or under pressure.

* Monsters or evil creatures: demons are an indication that you would want to change certain aspects of yourself.

* Money: this is a symbol of self-worth and how much do you really appreciate.

* Sex: sleeping with someone in a dream usually means that you have a desire for more sex (or better sex) with your current partner, not necessarily someone else. It can also mean that you grow as a person and you feel more at ease with your true self.

* Falling: usually indicates that you are thinking about letting something go or feeling overwhelmed by life situations.

Ms. Kocian (left) is of the opinion that dreams are vital to our overall health and mental well-being because they connect us with our deepest thoughts & # 39;

Ms. Kocian (left) is of the opinion that dreams are vital to our overall health and mental well-being because they connect us with our deepest thoughts & # 39;

Ms. Kocian (left) is of the opinion that dreams are vital to our overall health and mental well-being because they connect us with our deepest thoughts & # 39;

WHAT IS CHARCOT-WILBRAND SYNDROME?

Charcot-Wilbrand syndrome (CWS) is a condition in which the ability to dream is lost as a result of focal and visual brain damage (usually after a stroke), destroying the capacity to remember images or memories.

CWS is rare and only affects a limited number of patients with brain damage.

Ms. Kocian believes that dreams are vital to our overall health and mental well-being, because they connect us with our deepest thoughts & # 39;

• Dreams help us express suppressed emotions, process trauma and promote mood regulation, & # 39; she said.

& # 39; Our dreams live. The more attention and care we give, the more they will reveal us.

Studies have shown that people experiencing dream undercutting have experienced signs of mental collapse and clear psychotic episodes without dreams after only four nights. & # 39;

People with brain damage related Charcot-Wilbrand syndrome lose their ability to dream.

Kocian believes that our dreams are unconscious representations of situations we try to avoid or things that we fear in our daily lives (stock image)

Kocian believes that our dreams are unconscious representations of situations we try to avoid or things that we fear in our daily lives (stock image)

Kocian believes that our dreams are unconscious representations of situations we try to avoid or things that we fear in our daily lives (stock image)

Kocian believes that our dreams are unconscious representations of situations we try to avoid or things that we fear in our daily lives.

& # 39; This is especially the case with nightmares and recurring dreams, & # 39; she said.

Our dreams emphasize and reinforce our fears and everything that we try to avoid in the waking life to first make us aware of these problems and then help us deal with them and work on them.

Nightmares and recurring dreams become more vivid and occur more often until we have recognized or dealt with the awakening problem. Dream Therapy helps solve these problems by allowing us to work with dream protagonists to distract us from our ingrained habitual awareness.

We begin to see and understand hidden details of familiar objects and characters to get a new and unique perspective, along with increased vitality in response to the awakening problem. & # 39;

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