Amitpal Singh Bajaj, 34, depicted with his wife
The widow of the slaughtered Brit Amitpal Singh Bajaj has revealed that their toddler son has begun to ask about his father and how she will ever tell him about his courage.
A tortured Bandhna Bajaj, 34, said she hopes the police will soon arrest the fugitive Roger Bullman who threw her husband to death and then fled after bail.
In her first full interview, she told Mail Online that she loved her 10-year-old Sikh husband very much, but that love grew stronger as he fought to protect his wife and 20-year-old son Veer.
& # 39; When I saw Amitpal protecting me and my son this way, I think I have never loved him as much as I loved him at the time, & # 39; she said.
"I don't think anyone could do what he did. I don't think I could have done that.
& # 39; The fact that he gave me time to run with our son shows that he has put our lives above his own.
"I have a lot of respect for him, because even in our religion we are taught to have courage and to be selfless. But actually doing something about it is something else.
"He came just before me and was like" go, go, go, "and my love for him will go on forever and stronger.
"My husband called my son Veer, which means power and he always wanted him to become a warrior with his spirit.
"He said," If you have a strong mind, you will be strong in your life, "so I'll always remind Veer.
Bajaj, also 34, from Southall, London, was smothered on August 21 by martial arts expert and former soldier Bullman at the Centara Grand Hotel in the resort of Pukhet.
In her first full interview, Bandhna Bajaj told MailOnline that she loved her ten-year-old husband very much, but that love grew stronger as he fought to protect his wife and 20-year-old son Veer
"When I saw Amitpal protecting me and my son this way, I think I have never loved him as much as I loved him at the time," she said (photo: Mr. Bajaj and his young son)
Bullman, who had been drinking, rushed into their room and killed Mr. Bajaj after shielding his wife and son from the intruder and begging his wife to go, go, go.
Mrs. Bajaj has revealed that she and her husband were frightened by aggressive screams and curses going on from midnight and more than four hours from the room next to the room where Bullman stayed with his girlfriend.
This was followed by the killing of Mr. Bajaj, an IT expert, when Mrs. Bajaj brought their son to safety. She said that Bullman was looking for her while she was hiding and that she was injured in the incident.
Recovering at home with her son in Singapore, she said she wanted to acknowledge her husband's courage against Bullman's brutality.
Their life together was broken off during a trip that was made to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary.
A photo of Amitpal Singh Bajaj as a child, provided by his family
She revealed how the proud Sikh from London chased her, even though she was living in Sydney, Australia at the time with the help of the internet.
They met at a mutual friend's wedding in Singapore and "clicked" right away.
"I loved his sense of humor. It was very dry and very British. I enjoyed talking to him. He was very confident and friendly. & # 39;
After the wedding they went in the opposite direction. Bajaj to Britain and his future wife back down.
"We shared many interests and we became friends. It continued with the help of Skype and we would just chat together and soon we realized that we were really alike.
"I loved his self-confidence, the way he spoke and his British accent, and I felt attracted to him.
"I was only 18, but I really had the feeling that I had a relationship with him. After about two years I realized that I really liked him and we went ahead and we became engaged when I was 21. & # 39;
She said he really did his best & # 39; to regularly travel 10,000 miles to Sydney by doing odd jobs while studying to pay for airfares.
"He always saved from his work. He was still in college in Bedfordshire, but he missed his graduation for his IT BSc degree to visit me. & # 39;
Mrs. Bajaj, who has a degree in economics and sociology from the University of South Wales, married a year after her graduation in Singapore, where she was born.
The couple moved to Norwood Green in London and lived there for six years and commuted between Malaysia and Singapore for his IT consultancy work.
A fearful Bandhna Bajaj said she hopes the police will soon arrest the fugitive Roger Bullman (photo) who suffocated her husband and then fled after bail
Mrs Bajaj rejected the decision of the Thai authorities to release Bullman on bail after admitting that she had killed her husband. The 54-year-old was depicted in Thailand shortly before he went into hiding
He was also a busy charity worker and practiced the Sikh system of "Seva" where members of the religion are motivated to selflessly help others without asking for recognition or thanks.
Bajaj was a passionate fan of Manchester United and would visit Old Trafford to see his team play regularly when he was in the UK and saw them play in Singapore in July.
His widow said he was looking forward to the time their son grew up and he could watch the team on TV with him, despite the time differences with the UK, which means that matches are being played late in Singapore in the evening.
"He loved the atmosphere when he saw Manchester United here, sent me videos & # 39; s from the audience and said he couldn't wait to bring Veer to competitions when he was older."
Bajaj kept a daily diary and said it was important to be able to think about your day and was a follower of Stoicism.
"He thought the philosophy was similar to the Sikh religion because it reminded you of your actions and thoughts and led a satisfying kind of life.
"He was a very loving and protective father. He told me that he had never been in love (as he became with his son) with someone he didn't even know and then they suddenly become your world.
"He was very practical and would let him sleep overnight in the last few months because he said he wanted that attachment time. He read stories about our gurus and sang for him.
& # 39; Veer really misses him. He asks him almost every night because he prefers his father to let him sleep.
"Even today he told me he misses him because he can say a few words.
"Every morning when I wake up, it's hard because I feel that I have to relive that feeling, because I don't have it.
The wife of Amitpal Singh Bajaj, Bhandha Kaur Bajaj, during an exclusive interview with MailOnline in Singapore
Bullman (photo) had flown from Oslo via Bangkok to Bangkok on 17 August during a two-week package trip
"I think it's a nightmare. Sometimes I think he is on a business trip and he will come back, but then I tell myself that he is not coming back.
"I think I have to be strong for Veer and if I lose it completely, it will be very difficult for him.
"Amitpal was very caring and sensitive. He always took care of my feelings. & # 39;
Referring to Bullman, she said: "He should not have been able to get a bail in the first place. It wouldn't happen in the UK.
"We never complained to the hotel. He was so loud, so violent. We feared for the safety of our son. It was so scary.
"We had never met him before. It was a complete random stranger who entered our room.
"It was all very shocking. He said loudly & # 39; F-you & # 39 ;, shouting loudly and shouting. & # 39;
Bajaj (depicted as a child) was smothered to death by Bullman, who admitted that he had killed him at the police
She said there had been no confrontation or provocation with Bullman until he burst into their hotel room.
Instead, she said she and her husband were frightened by aggressive screams and curses and the sound of objects thrown into Bullman's room where he was staying with his girlfriend Elvira Olsen.
The offensive language and the lofty voice persisted for several hours, but she said that no complaint had been filed with the staff at the Centara Grand Hotel in Phuket.
Bajaj was smothered to death by Bullman, who admitted to having killed him at the police.
Mrs. Bajaj said in statements to her lawyers and police that she and her husband and their 20-year-old son Veer had arrived in Phuket for a short break on August 18 and had checked in room 345 of the hotel.
They had a quiet and restful first few days and swam in the resort's pool on the night of August 20, had dinner and came in at 11 p.m. after bringing their son to bed.
Mrs. Bajaj said: "We had to check out the next day for our flight and we went to bed around 11 p.m.
"Around midnight we started to hear sounds and general noises from the room next door. This was the first time we heard any sounds of that.
"We could hear objects being thrown around, the man cursing" f *** you "many times. It sounded like there was a man abusing a lady, although we couldn't see if one of the objects we heard thrown hit her.
"We heard her screaming 2-3 times during this episode, as if she was being attacked.
Security officials arrived to find Mr. Bajaj outside their room while Bullman kept him in a hidden grip (photo: Mr. Bajaj as a child)
Bajaj, originally from West London, who lived in Singapore, celebrated his 10th wedding anniversary with his wife. He died shortly after being taken to the hospital
& # 39; I remember my husband said: & # 39; I'm afraid of my life & # 39 ;. The man's speech was very powerful and angry. This went on for about 1 hour. I was awake all the time.
"I was really scared and anxious and suggested that my husband call the hotel reception.
"He thought differently. He was worried that if we would call the hotel reception, the man would discover that we had complained and might harm us.
"He said we just had to wait and the episode would disappear by itself.
"By that time, Veer had woken up. I gave him some milk and put some white noise on my phone so he could go back to sleep, which he did.
"My husband and I then prayed together and finally there was silence.
& # 39; But I couldn't fall asleep anymore and shortly after 2 hours & # 39; the sound started again at night.
"I searched for the phone number of the hotel reception on Google and saved it in my phone. At about 2.46 am I called this number to test if it was the right one.
"The call lasted approximately 5 seconds. Shortly thereafter it became a bit quieter. My husband went to sleep, but I stayed awake and used my phone. & # 39;
She said that the loud noises from the next room started again shortly before 4 am.
Bajaj was a passionate fan of Manchester United and would visit Old Trafford to see his team play regularly
"I heard loud noises from the neighbors. This time it sounded like the sounds went very quickly to our balcony.
"I woke up my husband and he said he thought someone would break into our room and I should call for help quickly."
Her phone book showed that she had made a call at 3.58 a few minutes later and made a second phone call to tell reception that Bullman had broken down the wooden partition between the rooms.
Her third call was made when Bullman entered the room.
She said: "He suddenly appeared in our room. He was red in the face, completely naked, and rushed towards us as he made animal noises.
"He kicked and hit all the time. I said in the phone words about the effect of "he's in … come quickly … send someone". The answer was "ok".
"I had never met, seen or heard Bullman before and had no idea who this complete stranger was and why he had sneaked into our room in the middle of the night for no apparent reason.
"He looked charged and was very focused on attacking us.
"My husband came between me and Bullman and said that I had to leave quickly with Veer.
"Bullman rained blows on my husband, who had raised his arms for self-protection.
"There was a huge struggle with a big bruise on my right arm.
& # 39; When I left, I turned around and saw my husband lying on the floor, halfway through the main door.
"He didn't move and looked unconscious. I also saw Bullman, who looked angry that my son and I escaped. At the moment Veer was still asleep.
"As I walked away, I heard Bullman from the room shouting threateningly at me and saying something like" where are you "or" where are you going? "
Security officials were twice called to ask Bullman, a bodyguard, not to wake guests beside his room 344 at the luxurious Centara Grand Hotel in the Phuket resort (above).
"I ran to the elevator, went down two floors and went all the way down the stairs. I then sought cover under the stairs between the trees, from which I had a view of the corridors and the entrance to our room.
"I hid because I felt Bullman was trying to reach me.
"I thought I saw a figure running around and screaming, but I couldn't see it clearly because I didn't wear my glasses. I was afraid to peep too much outside, otherwise Bullman would notice me. & # 39;
As she hid herself in the trees, she called the hotel reception five more times to ask for help for her husband.
Security officials arrived to find Mr. Bajaj outside their room while Bullman kept him in a hidden grip.
Police arrested a howling Bullman minutes later and he was charged with manslaughter before his freedom on bail was allowed.
Mrs. Bajaj said she left Thailand the same day her husband died and did not know that Bullman had been granted freedom until she read Mail Online after she returned to Singapore.
Police in Thailand search the room where the British father – who was on holiday to celebrate his tenth wedding anniversary – died of his injuries in the early hours of August 21
Police in Thailand say that they are carrying out a huge manhunt for Bullman who has disappeared after he did not appear at the Phuket Provincial Court as part of his bail conditions.
Bullman & # 39; s lawyer Sulman Hussain, based in Oslo, said he could not reach his client and had no idea where he was.
He said that Bullman, a former soldier and bodyguard, had told him that he intended to appear in his trial and tell a court how he came to kill Mr. Bajaj.
He saw himself sunbathing and swimming in a hotel pool when he should have been in court to assess his bail before he disappeared.
In his only interview before he fled, Bullman Mail Online said that "adrenaline" had prevailed when he collided with Mr. Bajaj.
He said that while working with psychiatric patients for 14 years he had learned how to control people (by choking).
He added: "Adrenaline took over. I didn't want to kill him. I didn't know he was dead until the police told me he died at the hospital.
& # 39; I have worked with physchiatric patients for 14 years and that is how you can control them (hold suffocation).
Recalling the evening of August 21, he said he had sung karoke before and added: "I was with my girlfriend and we were happy that night.
& # 39; I'm very sorry. I am also a father and I can understand how his wife should be like they have a child. & # 39;
Bullman said he missed his daughter and produced his cell phone with a series of messages from her with heart emoji's.
& # 39; I am not a monster. I have a nine-year-old daughter that I may not see for a long time. & # 39;
& # 39; I have been going to jail for three to ten years and at the age of 54 it is not going to be easy.
& # 39; They make it harder for you, the other boys, when you are older.
& # 39; I am lost. My girlfriend went home and I am alone here. & # 39;
Foreign Minister Dominic Raab has been urged to ensure that the Bullman cannot flee back to his native Norway.
Mr Raab and MP Virendra Sharma, who represents Ealing Southall where the family of the victim Amitpal Singh Bajaj live, have been told that the family is afraid that murderer Roger Bullman will try to flee abroad.
The British United Sikhs Association, which supported Bhandna Kaur, widow of Mr. Bajaj and his family, said Thai officials should have known that Bullman & # 39; a clear flight risk & # 39; used to be.
The organization contacted MPs on behalf of Mr. Bajaj's parents, who live in Southall, London.
A spokeswoman said: & # 39; The family has requested an urgent meeting and help because they fear that there is a real risk that Roger Bullman will go into hiding and justice will be denied to the Amitpal Singh family. & # 39;
They have asked Mr. Raab to object to Bullman's bail on the grounds that he will flee and that Interpol will be warned.
Mr. Bajaj's family fears that Thailand has already slipped, but the Phuket police say they are sure that he will be arrested again and used until his trial in prison.
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