A bride-to-be has detailed her bitter feud with her sister which sparked after a disagreement over flower girl dresses for the wedding.
The anonymous woman, from the US, took to the popular Reddit thread Am I The A**hole to unravel the situation and ask other readers for advice.
She explained that she initially wanted a child-free wedding, but agreed to let her two nieces be the flower girls during the ceremony after her sister made a fuss.
But she has regretted her decision since the brothers clashed over what they can wear.
The anonymous woman, from the US, took to the popular Reddit thread Am I The A**hole to unravel the situation and ask other readers for advice.
In the post, which was shared earlier this week, the woman began: “I’m getting married in a month and my partner and I already have a one-year-old daughter who will be one of our florists.”
‘My sister, a mother of two girls, was furious when I said I wanted a wedding without children and claimed that the right thing to do would be to ask her daughters to be flower girls.
“I decided I didn’t really care that much and decided to have his two daughters and my daughter be the flower girls at our wedding.”
She continued candidly: ‘My sister and I are super different. I am a very simple person who likes relaxed clothes and a makeup-free environment.
‘My sister is a girly girl who loves to wear dresses and doesn’t skip a day without makeup. It’s safe to say that our children follow in the footsteps of their respective parents.
‘When I sent my sister the flower girl dress options, she said she didn’t know if her daughters would like them.
‘I started looking more and found a dress that I really liked and that had sizes for all three girls.
“My sister ordered the dresses and sent me a picture of her daughters frowning wearing the dresses, saying they wouldn’t smile wearing the dress.”
She explained that she had initially wanted a wedding without children, but agreed to let her two nieces be the flower girls during the ceremony after her sister made a fuss (file image).
The bride-to-be tried her best to satisfy her sister’s demands, but her efforts still failed.
“I told her I would keep looking, but I really wanted simple flower girl dresses so that whatever dress she chose would have a similar vibe,” she continued.
‘My sister proceeded to order more dresses full of bows and tutus in a different color than what I wanted. She also chose a dress that was not the right size for my baby.
“Then she sent me other dresses that would fit the babies and that she said I could buy, they were completely different from what I wanted.”
The exasperated woman concluded: ‘I reminded her that it was my wedding and I really wanted the girls to wear simple dresses since my wedding dress is very simple and she told me that she was doing the best she could and that there is a way to do it. happy everyone. . Am I the idiot for pressuring her with this?’
The post was quickly flooded with comments as most users agreed that the bride was not the one in the wrong.
The post was quickly flooded with comments as most users agreed that the bride was not the one in the wrong.
One person wrote: ‘NTA. Why do you let your sister hijack your wedding? Tell her that she has made this too stressful, that you are going to wear the original dress that she chose and that’s it.
‘Tell him that the nieces are NOT invited. It’s free for kids. You can stay home with them. You need to stay strong, it’s okay to say no.
‘Make yourself happy: this is your wedding. Shine your spine, take control and enjoy a great wedding, exactly how you want it!!’
Another commented: ‘NTA. Your sister bullied her daughters all the way to your wedding.
‘Either your nieces wear the dress you chose or they don’t have to be flower girls. Weddings bring out the worst in some people and it’s usually a family member.
A third person added: ‘NTA. Tell her thank you for offering her girls as flower girls, but since they don’t seem to like being at the wedding, you’ll go ahead with your original plan of having just your daughter as flower girl.
Other users, however, offered advice, with one person writing: “This is a good opportunity for those girls to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them.”
Other users, however, offered advice such as orOne person wrote: ‘This is a good opportunity for those girls to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them.
‘Mom needs to tell them: “a wedding is so special to the bride that she can plan it however the hell she wants” (Maybe not in those words).’
Another commented: ‘Maybe consider letting all the flower girls wear their own dresses so they are comfortable?’ Is it really worth all the fuss? That the girlfriend becomes a dictator is something very old and unattractive.
A third person added: “I would have a long, difficult conversation with the girls AND their mother, to make sure everyone is on the same page.”
