A bride-to-be became angry with a family friend after he added an extra guest to her invitation to RSVP without asking first.
The bride said she had agreed to allocate four seats for the guest and her family.
However, upon receiving the RSVP card, the bride noticed that the guest had written “4 + baby” in pink pen in the blank space provided.
Underneath the dietary requirements, the guest also added: ‘Don’t worry about (the husband) being celiac. He will eat before the wedding and the baby will eat from my plate.
Sharing an image of the RSVP on Facebook, the bride wrote: ‘Anyone else deal with ridiculous RSVPs? I guess I should have been clearer, if it weren’t for the backstory, this is a family friend on my fiancé’s side.
A bride-to-be was shocked when a family friend added ‘4+ baby’ to her wedding RSVP (pictured)
‘She has children by three different men, including her current husband. “So I asked her how many she thought were coming and she told me four, including her one-year-old baby,” the bride continued.
‘She told me only her, a daughter (from her previous relationship), her current husband and the daughter they have together. So I gave him four.
The bride was frustrated when she saw the guest’s furtive movement.
“She included her husband’s son from a previous relationship and I don’t even know her husband well enough for HER son to come from someone else,” the bride said.
‘She never told me that the child would come with them. I’m just upset.
‘I know most venues and venues don’t consider less than two to be a “seat” nor are they counted in the head count, but I still think so. Just annoying. I can’t do anything now.
Many shared advice on how they would handle the situation.
‘I would call this guest to make it very clear who is invited. “The bride is not wrong to do that, the guest is wrong to assume there is room for everyone she wants to bring,” one wrote.
Sharing a picture on Facebook, the bride was stunned and wrote: ‘Anyone else facing ridiculous RSVPs? I guess I should have been clearer, but to tell the backstory, this is a family friend on my fiancé’s side.” (file image)
‘Generally I would still have a conversation with her fiancé and talk to him. “It’s disrespectful and rude to do that,” said another.
Others, however, were on the side of the guests.
‘Wow, if you invite the family, then you invite the whole family. “If you didn’t want kids there you should have said so,” one wrote.
“It’s not a wedding without children, and it would be very cruel to welcome all but one child into that family. Really disgusting,” added another.
‘When the bride originally called, it was an open invitation. Then the guest got carried away by the spirit of that. Taking it back now would be rude, especially considering the reasoning! That child is as much a part of the family as the other children.
‘I assume you addressed the envelope to the family and, if so, the whole family is invited. It would be strange to me to say, “All your children except that one are invited, because how dare you have a blended family,” said another.
One encouraged the bride to tell her guest that there are only four seats available.
‘You should contact her directly to explain the child policy. You can assume that since her other children were invited, everything would be fine,” said one of them.
“I think if you call her to clear things up and are honest and kind about it, she has no reason to be upset.” I always respect the wishes of the bride and groom when it comes to weddings without children.’