- The exasperated matriarch asked Slate’s parenting column for advice
- He assigned pseudonyms to the family members involved to detail the family feud.
- She said her daughter Mia had slept with her 20-year-old granddaughter’s boyfriend.
A woman has revealed how her family was devastated after her daughter slept with her granddaughter’s boyfriend.
The exasperated American matriarch used the signature “I just want a peaceful retirement” when she asked advice from Board‘s Parenting Care and Feeding column.
He assigned pseudonyms to the relatives involved to detail the family feud in which his daughter Mia slept with her 20-year-old granddaughter’s boyfriend.
Her granddaughter Evelyn had since moved out of the house, but the rift has shown few signs of healing.
A woman has revealed how her family was devastated after her daughter slept with her granddaughter’s boyfriend (file image)
The anonymous submission wasted little time in unraveling the sordid dilemma that had caused the family to “explode.”
The woman explained that Evelyn, who attends a local college, had been dating a guy but that the relationship had fallen apart “because she caught her boyfriend in bed with her mother.”
‘Evelyn moved out of her mother’s house to live with me and has not had any contact with her mother. I am extremely disappointed and disturbed by my daughter’s behavior.
“But as angry and disappointed as I am, I want to continue having a relationship with her, if only to get a clear answer as to why she did something so horrible.”
To make matters worse, Evelyn has since “been trying to get the entire family together so they have no contact with Mia, and has taken a ‘with me or against me’ attitude about the whole thing.”
The frustrated grandmother wrote: ‘She is very young and was seriously betrayed. But it irritates me to have a guest in my house telling me who I can and cannot associate with.
‘On the other hand, I agree with her. This is the worst thing Mia has ever done. But this isn’t the first time I’ve been surprised by something my daughter has done.
“If it were just a choice of who I want to spend time with, Evelyn is the clear choice, but it bothers me that she puts me in this position.”
The presentation received a thoughtful response that began by warning the woman not to “hold her breath” waiting for an answer as to why her daughter betrayed her granddaughter.
He continued: ‘Of course, you are the only one who can decide whether to cut your daughter, and your granddaughter should not demand that you do so.
“Tell Evelyn that you love her and you’re happy for her to stay with you, but you’re not ready to be permanently away from your son, and that’s your decision.”
The response also prompted the woman to speak out about what might be at the heart of Evelyn’s insistence on making her grandmother choose between the warring parties.
“You seem to think she’s being vindictive, but could there be something else going on here?” she read she.
The columnist concluded: ‘Expecting people to cut off their mother as proof that they can be trusted may seem reactive and unreasonable.
“But if it’s really coming from a place of fear and insecurity about who she can trust, maybe you can talk and try to address those underlying concerns with Evelyn, even if you can’t and don’t want to give up your right to make your own decisions about how to be. in contact with your daughter.’