Do you say “sorry” a lot? A communication coach reveals how to stop apologizing unnecessarily—and details the phrases you should use to hold yourself accountable without admitting guilt.
- Riley Allanto, from New York, took to TikTok to issue her advice to apologetics
- She said saying sorry too much “does you no good.”
- Then the expert started coming up with a whole host of other viable alternatives
A communications coach reveals how you can stop apologizing unnecessarily — and what you should say instead.
Raele Alanto, who lives in New York, took to TikTok to issue advice to anyone who says sorry repeatedly.
She said it was too much to apologize for “not serving you at all” before bringing up a whole host of viable alternatives.
Other social media users were quick to thank the expert for her insight.
Raele Alanto, who lives in New York, took to TikTok to issue advice to anyone who says sorry repeatedly
She said that apologizing too much is “not doing you any good” before bringing up a whole host of viable alternatives
Riley shares her best alternatives for saying sorry
- I appreciate your patience
- Thanks for catching it
- I appreciate that you handled that for me
- I will be aware of that next time
- I appreciate your understanding
- noted for the future
- Thank you for bearing with me
In the clip, Riley can be seen sitting in the front seat of her car with her young son strapped in the back.
She speaks directly to the camera as she begins: ‘Oh baby, I’m going to put this out there in the simplest possible terms…
Stop apologizing for everything you do wrong or not do 100% perfect.
“Obviously, I’m not talking about when you screw up big time and owe someone an apology or need to own up to your mistakes — that’s not what I’m referring to.”
“Many of us, myself included, default to apologizing or saying ‘sorry’ right away when we don’t need to,” the child’s mother continues.
Then she lists a whole bunch of alternative responses including “I appreciate your patience” and “I’ll be aware of that next time.”
Riley concludes: “These are all perfectly legitimate responses and they still hold you accountable.
“Make an effort to break this bad habit because overdoing it on ‘regret’ doesn’t do you any good.”
She uploaded the clip along with a caption that read: “You don’t always have to say ‘sorry’ to be held responsible.”
The mother to her child has garnered more than 255,000 followers on the video-sharing platform by sharing content that aims to help viewers socialize and express kindness, class and confidence.
Other social media users in the comments agreed overwhelmingly before thanking Riley for her advice
Other social media users in the comments agreed overwhelmingly before thanking Riley for her advice.
One wrote, “I needed to hear that.”
Another added: “I don’t understand why people say sorry so much for such little things.”
A third said: This is great. I don’t say the word “sorry”. never. If someone needs an apology, this is what I use.
Raele has garnered more than 255,000 followers on the video-sharing platform by sharing content that aims to help viewers socialize and express kindness, class, and confidence.