‘The Dating Advice I Wish I Knew Earlier’: Singles Share The Love Tips They’d Give Their Younger Selves — And Whether They’ve Sticked To It As Adults
- Aussies have shared the dating advice they would give their younger selves
- A lot of men’s advice indicated that they wish they had been less nervous
- Many women said you shouldn’t let someone you don’t know into your house
- Some said they wouldn’t change anything because it made them who they are
- Relationship coach Louanne Ward shared four types to avoid when dating
Aussies have shared the dating advice they would give their younger selves, and whether they’re living by that advice today.
Relationship coach Louanne Ward, from Perth, posed the question on her Facebook group, before receiving a flurry of mixed responses.
Many men said they wish they hadn’t been so nervous around women when they were younger.
Aussies have shared the dating advice they’d give their younger selves, and whether they’re living by that advice today (stock image)
‘Why were you so nervous about girls? Feel the fear and do it anyway,” one commenter wrote.
Another added: ‘Shyness was a big problem, those days are long gone. I now know how to talk to women’.
Others agreed that they wish they had just taken a “leap of water” to say hello to someone they liked at a bar or had just met, because they now live by that advice.
Many men said they wish they hadn’t been so nervous around women when they were younger, while women said you should wait before inviting a man to your home (stock image)
Much advice from women, meanwhile, was based on safety and how they should never be ashamed to demand things like STD tests.
“A few ideas actually, but first of all, never let your date pick you up or invite you home until you know them well enough,” one woman wrote.
“Regular STD testing isn’t embarrassing, it’s smart,” added another.
A third said if you think something is a “red flag,” it probably is — and you have to trust your instincts to get anywhere with dating.
“Apply the advice you give to your friends,” one woman wrote.
‘Go with the flow, don’t force it. If they can’t respect your boundaries, they won’t respect you either. You are their friend, not their mother. You don’t have to assuage their insecurities.’
Some said they wouldn’t change anything because doing what they did made them the person they are today:
“Don’t change anything, just be true to you and it will have some bumps, but eventually it will all work out,” one commenter wrote.
Previously, Louanne Ward (pictured) shared the four types of personalities to avoid in the dating scene – including the ‘love bomber’, ‘foodie call’ and ‘romance scammer’
Previously, Louanne Ward shared the four types of personalities to avoid in the dating scene — including the “love bomber,” “foodie call,” and “romance scammer.”
“The Love Bomber is an expert at saying and doing the right romantic things to get you hooked,” Louanne said.
On the other hand, the “foodie call” arranges dates with people they are not romantically interested in just to get free meals.
A stage five follower is someone you just won’t give up on — and they can be over the top when they try to contact you or make plans without reciprocity.
But Louanne said the fifth stage supporter “should be much more concerned than just being needy.”
“They are emotionally unstable, which can be a sign of BPD (borderline personality disorder),” she said.
Finally, you should stay away from the romantic scammer.
In romantic scams, someone creates a fake social media profile in an attempt to trick victims in love into sending them money.
After they earn your trust – often waiting for weeks, months or even years – they tell you a lengthy story and ask for money, gifts or your bank account/credit card information.