Women who fake orgasms to keep their man happy may be asking for trouble if he finds out, according to a leading model turned relationship coach.
Covergirl and self-proclaimed orgasm expert Katie Flowers claims to have helped hundreds of women find a man, but warns that dishonesty in the bedroom erodes the trust that builds a long-term relationship.
And while they may think their acting skills are up to the job, they may be fooling themselves if they think they can keep their partner in the dark because the signs are easy to spot.
“Don’t underestimate the power of your intuition,” the sex expert advises men. “If something feels wrong, it probably is.”
Katie Flowers has almost 400,000 online followers and has appeared on the cover of Playboy and FHM during her modeling career.
She also works as a relationship expert and has brought hundreds of couples together.
Surveys suggest that three-quarters of heterosexual women have faked an orgasm at least once, while 20 percent do so regularly.
And Flowers believes that histrionic moans, squeals and screams are not signs of success that men should be on the lookout for.
Flushed cheeks, smiles, and eye contact are likely to be a much more reliable guide.
“Genuine pleasure is marked by authenticity and spontaneity,” he told New York Post.
Surveys reveal that three-quarters of heterosexual women have faked an orgasm at least once
“Look for cues that indicate a natural, unscripted experience.”
“At the core of every meaningful relationship is a foundation of honesty and vulnerability,” he added. “Fake orgasms not only erode this foundation but also perpetuate a cycle of misunderstanding and dissatisfaction.”
A 2022 study from the University of South Florida found that women who make more money than their male partners are twice as likely to fake an orgasm in the bedroom.
The research, published in the journal Social Psychology and Personality Science, found that the more women perceived their partner’s sense of masculinity as fragile, the more anxiety and communication difficulties they experienced.
And that, in turn, predicted a lower rate of orgasms and sexual satisfaction.
But some scientists have found evidence supporting the “fake it ’til you make it” school of thought, including Dr. Michael Barnett of the University of Texas.
Their 2019 study found that recreating the lead-up to a real orgasm, with faster breathing, noises, and hip movements, can push women to “go over the threshold.”
But crucially he discovered that faking it doesn’t work if it’s only done to appease the male ego.
And men, of course, aren’t beyond a little faking: a quarter of men admitted to faking their own orgasms in a Canadian study.
Flowers advises that direct communication and honesty is the best way to maximize the satisfaction of everyone in the bedroom.
“True intimacy is about connection, not performance,” she advised.
But Flowers cautions that direct communication and honesty is the best way to maximize satisfaction for everyone in the bedroom.
“True intimacy is about connection, not performance,” she said.
‘Focus on building a deeper connection with your partner and savoring the shared experience.
“Knowledge is power, and understanding the complexities of human sexuality can help you approach intimate encounters with confidence.”