A leading sex expert has revealed the reasons high-achieving straight women struggle to find love — and issued a chilling warning to career-minded women.
Tracey Cox said there are more successful, high-achieving women than ever before, and they need to be “less rigid” in their choices if they put off finding a partner until age 30.
The relationship coach added that by the time many career-oriented women reach a time when they are ready to settle down, most of the “good men” are taken.
‘There are now more and more single women because more and more women perform well and are therefore not immediately looking for a man.
“When you get out of college, you have this numbers game, a lot of women single, a lot of men single, and you kind of have all hook up,” she told the Diary of a CEO podcast.
Tracey Cox said there are more successful, high-achieving women than ever before, and they need to be ‘less rigid’ in their choices if they put off finding a partner until age 30
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“If your motivation is to get married and have kids, and that’s your only motivation, then you’re going to find a partner early and get the job done, then you’re good.”
“But if your motivation isn’t, if you want to go to college, get your career in order, and then turn around and have kids at 30, suddenly you’re looking for someone and he’s not there, he’s already taken in by someone else .
“Men traditionally don’t like to date high-achieving women unless they’re high-achieving themselves,” she added.
Tracey said the number of high-achieving women is “going higher,” but the number of high-achieving men is getting lower, leaving less choice for straight women who want to settle down in their 30s or 40s.
‘Women who perform well like to fall for men who perform well.
“So the answer for the women is to look off the beaten track, looking for the unqualified man.
“You need to change your wish list a bit, don’t be so rigid, think more about things like kindness, generosity and a sense of humor than what he deserves.
“General chemistry and attractiveness is enough, you end up happier.”
Tracey said the number of high-achieving women is “going up,” but the number of high-achieving men is getting lower, so there’s less choice for straight women who want to settle down in their 30s or 40s.
The sex expert added that the biggest lie women are told is that they can “have it all.”
“These high achievers have compromised their chances of finding a partner by putting everything into their careers, you can’t have everything.
She added that not being able to find a partner “has nothing to do with you” and “doesn’t mean you’re not attractive.”
“You are probably less marketable because you’re too intelligent and some men would go crazy over that and you’re too successful,” she continued.
Tracey’s impassioned speech seemed to divide her followers, many saying women shouldn’t strive for more.
“The high-achieving women are protecting their peace and not trying to sign up to take care of anyone. The thing is, they’d rather be single and enjoy life than be less “rigid” with their standards. We don’t really need to ask women to change what they’re doing, it’s not their responsibility,” one woman wrote.
‘There is no need to put a price tag on a high-performing woman. No woman should have to lower her standards to be able to marry and have children at a certain age,” another agreed.
Others blamed men for not being good enough for strong women.
“It’s not because we’re not looking for men. It’s because this country and most of the people in it are BROKEN. Men for some reason don’t put in the work they need to heal themselves, women often do,” said one woman.
Tracey’s impassioned speech seemed to divide her followers, many saying women shouldn’t strive for more
“Let’s stop calling women ‘high achievers’ and call it what it is – too many men are doing the bare minimum. Let’s stop doing it to women,’ one woman sneered.
Men also joined the debate.
‘Men who don’t have insecurity complexes (there are plenty of them) aren’t intimidated by anyone, especially not by women.
We’re just not attracted to women who value superficial corporate status over love, loyalty, family, and romance. I’m sure someone will come along and still try to force me into the “insecurity” box, but don’t worry it won’t work… we want women who will respect and nurture us in the beginning, not the ones just waiting at the finish line and trying to jump into the arms of the winners,” said one man.
Another man said he would love to be with a work-oriented woman.
“Frankly, if someone wants to make me a homebody and I can cook, clean, and tend the garden, I’ll be thrilled.”