A sex and relationship expert has revealed how you can make a long-distance relationship last – and the red flags that you might waste.
Maintaining a relationship with a person in another state or even another country can be a challenge, but having an intimate relationship is, according to sexologist and relationship expert Dr. Nikki Goldstein far from impossible.
Every relationship will be different, but Dr. Nikki said there are some clues that apply to everyone.
So what should you do?
Relationship expert Dr. Nikki Goldstein revealed how you can make a long-distance relationship sustainable – and the red flags that don't work (stock image)
1. Do your best
& # 39; The way to have a healthy long-distance relationship is to continue working as you would at home, & # 39; said Dr. Nikki against FEMAIL.
She said that interactions with your partner should be about trying to keep as much contact as possible.
& # 39; FaceTime is much better than phone calls, you can see what's really going on and you'll be able to communicate with them, & # 39; she said.
She said that even smaller actions that are often executed can go a long way.
& # 39; Always take pictures & share them with your partner to give them an insight into your life & # 39 ;, she said.
& # 39; It's as simple as: "Hey look what I'm eating" or if you pick a shirt that goes "hey darling, which one do you like better?"
& # 39; It is that engagement lives together if you don't have it, it will feel like less of a relationship and more of a romantic pen friend, & # 39; she said.
The Australian sexologist and relationship expert Dr. Nikki Goldstein (photo) like you should try not to analyze how you feel when you separate
2. Be prepared for ups and downs
Dr. Nikki said that, like any relationship, there will be ups and downs, and you shouldn't analyze how you feel.
She said everyone reacts differently and sometimes people's own reactions will scare them.
& # 39; Sometimes being away from someone can really make you want to be with that person even more, while others are worried about losing their connection with their partner, & # 39; she said.
& # 39; If you can function without them not panic, if you think you can continue without panic – it's about whether you want them or not.
& # 39; Let yourself think: I'm going to enjoy eating in bed and lazing around without feeling that it has a deeper meaning, & # 39; she said.
Mrs. Goldstein said that like any relationship there will be ups and downs and that they will not over-analyze feelings of uncertainty or pleasure in having time for themselves (stock image)
3. Make them feel like a priority
The relationship expert said that if you put your partner first, they will feel appreciated when you are not there to spoil them.
& # 39; Actions say more than words, the first thing you & # 39; Do it in the morning when you wake up and send a message, send them a photo with bed hair, & she said.
& # 39; If you say sorry, I can't talk. I am busy with work, you tell them that they are not priests.
The relationship expert said you need to organize to be together in both the short and the long term (stock image)
4. Create long-term goals and short-term plans
& # 39; You need a goal at some point to get to the same location, & # 39; she said.
The relationship expert said he had to make sure you didn't propose your engagement or marriage & # 39; the gun & # 39; struck if you are early in your relationship.
Shorter plans, such as organizing a weekend that you visit, no matter how far away, will help you feel that there is less time until you see them.
5. Stay true
Dr. Nikki said that if you feel that your partner is hiding things or they often seem to disappear from communication, this can be a red flag for a declining relationship.
She said that in these difficult times it is important that each person takes responsibility for how they interact with others.
& # 39; As human beings, we all long for human affection and touch, and it makes sense that you want that, & # 39; she said.
& # 39; If, for example, you feel that you cannot tell your partner about a drink with a colleague, this is a good sign that you have to analyze what you really do. & # 39;
She said that if these feelings occur, try to arrange a shorter time to see your partner or even invest in a pet to keep you company.
6. Physical intimacy
Sex and physical intimacy is a fairly hopeless part of long-distance relationships, but Nikki said there are still ways you can feel connected.
& # 39; I think the biggest point is that you need to use technology to get that connection, & # 39; she said.
Although Skype can be a great tool, she said there are other communicative sex products available for people who are brave enough.
"You can still be together, you can't touch physically, but it doesn't mean you can't be intimate together," she said.
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