According to scientists, you should AVOID the chat-up lines if you want to get a date
Women looking for a relationship have revealed what messages a future partner should definitely not send on dating apps.
Researchers led by Purdue University, Indiana, found that of 275 participants — mostly women — starting a conversation with a sexually explicit message was the biggest turn-off, especially for those looking for a long-term relationship.
Conversely, someone whose first message contained a greeting and a question was more likely to receive a positive response.
It’s because a separate group of scientists also revealed that tall men would prioritize tall women for relationships, but see short ones as an affair.
Women seeking long-term relationships on dating apps find a sexually explicit opening line surprising and an offense, according to new research. The study surveyed 275 undergraduate students at a Midwestern public university between the ages of 18 and 29 years old
Amanda Lilly, a doctoral student who led the study, and others noted in the study, “Online daters may choose to hold back sending sexually explicit content until they are sure the recipient would appreciate that type of communication.”
They added, “Online daters who understand when it is and isn’t appropriate to use sexually explicit messages may be more effective in achieving their goals.”
For the study, published in the journal Personal relationshipsresearchers examined 275 undergraduate students.
Of these, about 66 percent were women. The majority were also heterosexual – 79 percent – and all were between the ages of 18 and 29. About 64 percent were also white.
They each completed an online survey with personal details about themselves and were presented with scenarios where they had received questions from a match on a dating app.
They were also asked if they were looking for a long-term or casual relationship.
The participants were told “Imagine you’ve just received a message from someone you’ve been matched with as a potential partner on the online dating app/site of your choice.”
Subsequently, some were told that the first message they received was a greeting with a question mark, and were asked to imagine how they would react.
The others were told that they had received a message that was “sexually explicit” in nature as their first contact.
Scientists did not detail what the explicit message might be, saying they did not want to offend or upset the participants. Instead, they gave them a description of the message.
The results showed that participants were more likely to respond positively to the greeting and question mark than to the sexually explicit message. This was true even if they were looking for casual flings rather than a long-term relationship.
Eventually, they found that even men and women looking for casual encounters didn’t particularly appreciate someone coming out of the gate too strong. All groups preferred a traditional greeting.
Although a sexy opening line “is becoming a common tactic used by some when embarking on a romantic relationship,” the scientists wrote, “the current study indicates that these types of messages tend to violate recipients’ expectations in a relationship.” ‘