Sarm Heslop’s family begs her boyfriend to ‘come forward’ and give ‘answers’

The family of missing Sarm Heslop has begged her boyfriend to come forward and give them answers after she disappeared from his boat in the Caribbean.

Ryan Bane, 44, is the sole stakeholder in the case but has not surfaced since detectives admitted to losing sight of him in early July.

Heslop, 41, disappeared on March 8 from Bane’s boat, which was off the US Virgin Islands.

Her parents ask Bane to come forward and answer questions about her sudden disappearance.

“They say time heals, but not if your daughter goes missing. How do you go on if you don’t have answers?’ said her father Peter Heslop.

“We want, have and deserve answers about what happened to our daughter, sister and friend. We ask Bane to come forward and help us find those answers.”

The family of missing Sarm Heslop (pictured) has begged her boyfriend to come forward and give them answers after she disappeared from his boat in the Caribbean

Heslop (left), 41, disappeared on March 8 from Bane's boat, which was off the US Virgin Islands.  Bane, 44, (right) said he had last seen Heslop on board but that he would not allow police to search the ship

Heslop (left), 41, disappeared on March 8 from Bane’s boat, which was off the US Virgin Islands. Bane, 44, (right) said he had last seen Heslop on board but that he would not allow police to search the ship

Heslop’s mother Brenda Street said the mystery surrounding her daughters’ sudden disappearance was “traumatizing, confusing and disturbing.”

She called on Bane to answer for discrepancies in the case, such as the time it took him to contact the Coast Guard and his failure to raise the alarm once he realized his girlfriend was missing.

According to Bane, the couple had dinner together around 10 p.m. on March 7 before returning to the catamaran where they watched a movie.

He claims he was woken by the boat’s anchor alarm around 2 a.m. and found his girlfriend missing.

The US Coast Guard was notified of Heslop’s disappearance at 11:46 a.m., when Bane called the station saying “his girlfriend may have fallen off the yacht.”

Bane said he last saw Heslop on board but never allowed police to search the ship.

The search for former flight attendant Sarm Heslop continues, but to the frustration of her family in Southampton, England, she is still being treated as a missing person case rather than a criminal investigation

Heslop’s mother Brenda Street said the mystery surrounding her daughters’ sudden disappearance was “traumatizing, confusing and disturbing.”

Heslop, 41, disappeared on March 8 from Bane's boat (pictured), which was moored off the US Virgin Islands

Heslop, 41, disappeared on March 8 from Bane’s boat (pictured), which was moored off the US Virgin Islands

Pictured: A map showing where the Siren Song was moored in the US Virgin Islands when Sarm Heslop, 41, was reported missing on March 8, while American Ryan Bane, 44, told officers she may have been off the couple's catamaran had fallen

Pictured: A map showing where the Siren Song was moored in the US Virgin Islands when Sarm Heslop, 41, was reported missing on March 8, while American Ryan Bane, 44, told officers she may have been off the couple’s catamaran had fallen

But Coast Guard logs and incident reports seen by The times paint a different picture.

According to the documents, Bane was “heavily intoxicated” when officers came aboard on March 8, that he refused to provide paperwork, handed expired credentials, blocked a door to prevent a search and asserted his right to remain silent.

Bane passed through all the boats near his luxury Leopard 4700 catamaran off the coast of St. John and asked for witnesses, but no one could help, according to the logs.

However, many skippers told The Times that they didn’t know Heslop was missing until the next day.

Police issued another appeal to Bane earlier this month, asking him to explain what happened the night Sarm Heslop disappeared.

Bane (pictured) told investigators they returned to his catamaran that night and he woke up in the early hours to find his girlfriend was gone.

Bane (pictured) told investigators they returned to his catamaran that night and he woke up in the early hours to find his girlfriend was gone.

Ryan Bane and an unknown woman post for a photo on a dinghy

Ryan Bane and an unknown woman post for a photo on a dinghy

Bane, however, has not surfaced since detectives admitted to losing sight of him in early July.

“We’ve been keeping an eye on Ryan Bane, but at the moment we don’t know where he is,” said USVI police spokesman Toby Derima.

‘I now appeal to him to contact us. I want to appeal to his conscience to let us know what happened the night Sarm disappeared.’

Derima added that police thought Bane could be on another Caribbean island.

“He is a person of importance to us and he is the only person of importance. We’re not looking for anyone else.’

His lawyer David Cattie has pushed back allegations that Bane was ‘missing’ Fox news he personally advised law enforcement on Mr. Bane’s movements while in the area and on his departure from the US Virgin Islands.

“I have further advised law enforcement that if Mr Bane’s presence is required by law in the area, he will return on such request,” he added.

Missing girlfriend Sarm Helsop

Ryan Bane

In March, lawyers for Ryan Bane said he was “stunned” that his girlfriend Sarm Helsop was missing but said he would not speak to the media

Heslop was last seen leaving dinner at 420 to Center bar and restaurant on the island of St. John on March 7, around 10 p.m.

Heslop was last seen leaving dinner at 420 to Center bar and restaurant on the island of St. John on March 7, around 10 p.m.

In March, lawyers for Bane said he is “stunned” that his girlfriend is missing, but said he would not speak to the media.

A friend of Heslop said the former flight attendant met her boyfriend “at some point last year” while in quarantine after sailing to the Caribbean with two friends in 2019.

The couple then went into lockdown together during the coronavirus pandemic.

Police have been unable to find evidence that Heslop, of Southampton, returned to the boat after the pair were seen leaving dinner at the 420 to Center bar and restaurant on the island of St John at approximately 10pm on March 7.

They also found no evidence that she had entered the water. Her phone, passport and other belongings were reportedly found on the catamaran.

Bane, who has been convicted of assaulting his ex-wife, was charged with obstructing officers by refusing to allow US Coast Guard officials to search his boat.

Ryan Bane has been convicted of assaulting his ex-wife

Ryan Bane has been convicted of assaulting his ex-wife

When the officials boarded, Bane is said to have stood in a doorway and told them not to enter. He was handed a subpoena, which does not result in a criminal record.

The investigation was further complicated by a power outage that caused the cameras in the bar where the couple were last seen shut down.

Divers from several law enforcement agencies searched hundreds of square feet of water for Heslop.

Volunteers from the Virgin Islands also searched the area around Cruz Bay during the day, police said.

“We especially want to know what happened to Sarm and help her family,” Derima said.

Friends and family have said that Heslop would not have left her life voluntarily or without contacting one of her loved ones. Some have expressed disbelief that she could have fallen overboard.

Her parents said in March that they would “never give up” looking for her, yet they hoped to find her alive.

Kate Owen, a friend of the couple who moved to the Caribbean with Heslop 15 months ago, reportedly said Bane has stopped contacting her.

In May, Heslop’s friends founded a GoFundMe page to give a reward for information and to cover her parents’ travel expenses to reach the islands.

As of the morning of July 23, it had reached £8,691 of its £10,000 target.

Heslop (right) is pictured with her friend Kate Owen.  The couple moved to the Caribbean together 15 months ago

Heslop (right) is pictured with her friend Kate Owen. The couple moved to the Caribbean together 15 months ago

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