Radio star Sami Lukis, 51, reveals the most surprising question she’s ever asked on a first date
- Sami Lukis has revealed the ‘surprising’ question she was asked on a first date
- The Australian TV presenter said she was shocked when asked what her red flags are
- Sami said she could never be with someone who is racist or sexist or uses drugs
- Her date then made it clear that he meant what ‘red flags’ men see in her
Radio producer Sami Lukis has revealed the most surprising question she was ever asked on a first date – and how it changed the way she sees herself.
The 51-year-old Australian media personality said she was shocked to be asked what her ‘red flags’ are, but after thinking briefly she decided it was racism, sexism and drug use.
However, the presenter of Wollongong’s Wave FM 96.5 was even more surprised when her date made it clear that he meant what red flags men see in her.
Australian radio producer Sami Lukis (pictured) was surprised when she was asked what ‘red flags’ men might see in her on a first date
When I started to answer, ‘I could never be with someone who is racist, sexist or who uses drugs …’ he interrupted and said, ‘No, I meant what are your red flags. The problems men experience with YOU? she wrote in a column for 9 Honey.
Sami said the ‘difficult and confronting’ question made her feel like ‘really, really uncomfortable’ because she had always believed that red flags were something we see in others as opposed to ourselves.
While she said it would probably be better to ask her exes about her character flaws, she believes it to be her impatience, independence, commitment phobia, and inability to cook.
Sami wondered if these flaws were breakups or just undesirable traits for certain partners.
Sami (pictured) said the question made her feel ‘really, really uncomfortable’ because she had always believed red flags were something we see in others as opposed to ourselves
She noted that while some red flags, such as addiction, cheating, and abusive behavior, are unforgivable, others are simply individual quirks that make a few incompatible.
Sami said she recently realized that “ licking ” is one of her own deal breakers after a friend brought her new boyfriend to a dinner party where he saw nothing wrong with picking up his empty plate and licking the leftovers.
“She never saw him again,” she said.
“And if I ever find out that the guy I’m dating is a crowd pleaser, you can guarantee I won’t see him again.”