A wedding planner has revealed the 30/5 rule she follows to stop her clients arriving late and rushing their big day.
Meredith Bartel, 29, from Wisconsin, is a wedding expert and founder of Plus One Planning. She has over 340,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares her tips and tricks.
The content creator, who uses the identifier. @plusoneplanningrecently went viral after detailing the one thing she always keeps in mind when creating a wedding schedule.
‘On a wedding day, the concept of time does not behave as we are used to in the real world. I like to call this theory the 30/5 rule,’ he began the video.
Wedding planner Meredith Bartel, 29, from Wisconsin, went viral on TikTok after detailing the one thing she always keeps in mind when creating a wedding timeline.
‘On a wedding day, the concept of time does not behave as we are used to in the real world. I like to call this theory the 30/5 rule,” he explained (file image)
The concept is based on the theory that anything that It takes five minutes to do in your daily life, like getting dressed or going to the bathroom, it will take you about 30 minutes on your wedding day.
“Putting on a wedding dress is not the same as dressing to go to work in the morning,” she explained. ‘The dress is bigger, the dress is heavier. You You have to put it on in a very specific way so it doesn’t wrinkle.
Meredith noted that the photographer and videographer will also have the bride pose for photos with her family members and bridal party while getting dressed.
“You’ll stop and pause and ‘ooh and aah’ in the mirror,” he continued. ‘You are going to put on the veil. You’re going to put on the earrings. There will be more (photos)’.
The wedding coach gave another example of a bride having to go to the bathroom while getting ready and taking photos.
“When you want to go to the bathroom, you can’t just go to the bathroom,” he said. You have to find a couple of bridesmaids who are willing to help you.
‘ANDYou have to shuffle to the cubicle. You have to figure it out… ‘So When you’re done, you should try to fight back and put those Spanx back on. You have to try to get out of the cubicle by shuffling your feet backwards. It’s not something that lasts five minutes.
‘AND Chances are, wherever you’re supposed to be right now, in the bridal suite (or) somewhere taking photos, that’s probably not where the bathroom is.
The 30/5 rule is based on the theory that anything that takes you five minutes to do in your daily life will take you about 30 minutes on your wedding day.
“There will probably need to be some transition time in place for walking to and from,” he said. “Everything takes longer than it usually does in the real world.”
Meredith said that even something as simple as leaving the bridal suite and going down the stairs takes longer than expected because everyone is laughing and talking.
The photographer will want to stop to take pictures and, inevitably, someone will have to run back to grab something they forgot or pause to fix their hair or reapply their lipstick.
“Getting from point A to point B is never easy,” he said. ‘So if you’re not working with a wedding planner or wedding coordinator, and you’re trying to write your wedding timeline yourself, and your events go bing, bang, boom, you’re not doing yourself any favors.
Meredith explained that either you’re going to get “so far behind on your timeline because of all these events you didn’t consider” or you’re going to be a “drill sergeant trying to keep everyone on this time, that’s not realistic.” ‘
‘Who wants to spend their wedding day being a crab?’ she asked. ‘You and your wedding party and your parents and your suppliers, everyone will have a much better time if you build in a transition time, a buffer time.
‘It’s much better to account for too much time and be left with extra time at the end. That way you can take your sweet moment,’ he said. ‘You can take all the time you want. You can be silly and be present and be silly and do everything you need to do and still never fall behind.
‘And if you’re still lucky enough to have extra time, great. You win. Have another drink. Sit for a while. Eat a granola bar. Call it what you want, a transition time, a buffer time, an interval. There should be a space between each individual event on your timeline.’
Meredith’s video has been viewed more than 460,000 times and has received almost 200 comments. Some fans called the 30/5 rule ‘bride math’ and ‘wedding day math.’
Meredith gave one last example of posing for formal family portraits right after the ceremony, saying it will take at least 10 minutes for guests to leave the area before they can begin.
“Once you’re done with your formal family portraits, there will probably be a short gap before you can start again with your wedding party photos,” she explained.
‘Someone went to the bar, someone went to the bathroom, someone went to change their shoes, someone is just stuck in a conversation and needs a minute to get out of it. Allow time for booking because your wedding day goes by quickly.’
Meredith reiterated that allowing extra time will help you live in the moment and not stress about being late.
“You’ll have so much fun with your people, you’ll live your best life, you won’t even realize the clock is ticking,” he said. ‘Don’t spend the day in a bad mood. Don’t spend the day in a hurry. Don’t spend the day stressed.
‘Fill up your day with so much time that you can be the happiest little slow sloth in the world. That’s the 30/50 rule,’ he concluded.
Meredith’s video has been viewed more than 460,000 times and has received almost 200 comments.
“I love wedding day girl math,” one fan responded.
“Just planned and coordinated my daughter’s wedding in August,” someone else shared. “Your videos helped me get ahead of schedule.”
‘This is very accurate. “I always tell brides to take more time than they think,” another agreed.