You may have opted for fancy wine and gourmet food, but when it comes to hosting a dinner party, things can go very wrong if people’s manners aren’t up to par.
Today, research has revealed a definitive consensus on what you should and shouldn’t do on a night out.
Etiquette expert Jo Bryant said: “A dinner party is the perfect time to relax and enjoy good company, but guests and hosts need to play their part by being considerate and well-mannered.
“Guests must be sociable, helpful and respectful. You can vape and check your phone at the dinner table in your own home, but this type of behavior is on the taboo list at social gatherings elsewhere.
“It’s also important that guests “read the room” when it comes to conversation topics.
“While some people are comfortable talking about sex at the dinner table, it may not be the best choice for dinner discussion between generations or with those you don’t know very well.”
Research by one of Australia’s largest wine exporters has revealed a definitive consensus on what you should and shouldn’t do on a night out.
DINNER ON THE BACKPACK
- Ask about allergies and dairy needs beforehand, if you are organizing
- Ask the host if you can bring something for the table
- Make sure you have some great non-alcoholic options, if you’re hosting
- Help clear the plates once you’re done
- Take off your shoes at the front door
- Ask if you can help, if the host is stressed
- Ask people about their lives rather than talking about yourself
- Fill other people’s glasses before filling yours
- Mix men and women around the table
- Send a thank you note to your host a few days later
DINNER NOT TO DO
1. Vape at the table
2. Smoking at the table
3. Check your phone during dinner
4. Take off your socks at the table
5. Overstay your welcome and leave before midnight
6. Talk about religion, money or politics
7. Brag about your salary or accomplishments
8. Laugh or speak loudly with your mouth open
9. Post a photo of the hosts cooking on Instagram without asking
10. Touch people
However, the Andrew Peace Wines study found that, in the right circumstances, one can get away with naughty conversation, with 13% of respondents saying sex is now acceptable table conversation.
However, more than 50 percent of those surveyed said that looking at your phone during dinner is a no-no, while an even higher number (64%) disapprove of vaping at the table.
And it seems the old adage about not talking politics and money at the dinner table persists, with more than a third of those surveyed saying it’s a no-no.
Other major red flags at a dinner party include taking your socks off at the table, overstaying your welcome, and bragging about your salary.
You should also refrain from posting a photo of the host’s food on Instagram without asking their permission.
It comes after a professional butler revealed you should never open a bottle of wine brought by a guest that evening.
Devon-born Daniel Prattley, who was previously an assistant to Joan Rivers, works for wealthy families around the world, specializing in luxury villa hospitality.
Dan the Butler, as he is called, advised that if someone brings a bottle of wine as a gift to a party, it is not good etiquette to open it that evening.
Indeed, this implies that you do not have enough alcohol to fill your guests’ glasses.
Talk to Insider he said: “Never open wine bought for you. Make sure you not only have plenty of wine, but also non-alcoholic spirits for those who are driving, pregnant, or don’t want to drink.