In the age of dating on Tinder and Facebook, finding your soul mate may be just a swipe away, but that doesn’t mean finding the one has gotten any easier.
And now relationship experts have revealed why taking a walk is the best solution when dating someone new.
Paul Brunson and Mel Schilling shared their high-level knowledge on how to create the best first date.
The couple divulged the ultimate first date idea: taking a walk with your new potential love interest.
But what reason did the notable romance experts from E4’s Married At First Sight UK give for taking a simpler route for your first date?
Relationship expert Paul Brunson told the Breakfast radio show that it’s best to take a walk to walk side by side with your potential new love interest. According to the professional matchmaker, men feel more comfortable walking next to someone rather than being stared at due to evolution.
It’s all about side play, according to the two men who spoke about the subject with Roman Kemp on Capital Breakfast – a fact which left one of the co-hosts, Siân Welby, speechless.
Parallel play is a behavior exhibited in toddlers, when they play with the same toys but do not directly engage with each other.
However, some toddlers will watch how their peers play and copy their actions without really making contact.
This behavior is common among toddlers ages 18 months to two years old — and, surprisingly, it can apply to your dating tactics.
In response to Mel Schilling elaborating on the social phenomenon, Brunson explained: “You rarely see men talking in agreement.
“They’re really 180 degrees, because through evolution, if we look directly at each other, we’re getting ready to fight.”
According to experts, if a woman is sitting and looking directly at a man across a restaurant table, he may want to move away from her gaze slightly, according to the professional matchmaker.
But, the benefit of taking a walk, instead of a romantic dinner on the first date, allows a man to look at things differently since you are walking side by side.
Mel Schilling (pictured) attributed the psychology behind successful first dates while walking in the park to “parallel play”, a behavior exhibited by toddlers as they learn to interact with others.
Capital FM breakfast show host Siân Welby was left stunned when experts revealed a walk was the ultimate first date.
Brunson added: “Walking too, what’s the point? It builds, all the endorphins are triggered. That’s all you need.
Schilling, a human behavior specialist, continues: “I like that it’s not in a restaurant because you don’t have the intensity.
“But you also have a good escape route, you know, you can run.”
The Australian also advised would-be flirts to avoid heels and set a “time limit” on the first date.
Many loved the idea of a simple first meeting, with some sharing their success stories.
One woman wrote: “My husband and I used to go for walks together when we were 16 and have now been together for 21 years. »
Another added their success to the list by commenting: “This worked for me on a Tinder date! Seven years later and (we’ve) been married for three years.
While one person said: “My first date with my boyfriend was a walk and we ended up walking 30,000 steps because we couldn’t stop talking.
Others agreed with the romance experts, with one person saying: “Totally agree, it’s the best first date.” Drinks can be embarrassing. Dinner is too much for a first date.
Many took to the comments to showcase the results of their successful walking dates, but not everyone saw the appeal of the idea.
Another commenter agreed: “A walk that leads to other things.” Food, drinks, a first-rate first date.
But not everyone was sold on the idea of a simpler date, with one joking: “My worst nightmare.” A walk…’
While another replied: “I only have coffee on a first date, so I can escape.”
Others joked that TikTok should keep the video away from a YouTube creator called SheRaSeven – also known as “sprinkle” – a controversial dating coach, who advises women to date ‘money.
One individual wrote: “Don’t let Sprinkle see this,” while another added: “Sprinkle, Sprinkle would disagree, we are not a dog that needs to be walked.”