Relationship expert reveals the eight biggest mistakes men and women make on a first date

A leading matchmaker has revealed the eight mistakes men and women make when it comes to their first date.

Australian psychologist Yvonne Allen said she witnessed the increasing challenges men and women face in seeking love.

& # 39; First dates are very important and often give you only one chance to make the right impression and have an impact that helps you move on to a second date & # 39 ;, Yvonne told FEMAIL.

& # 39; Although we all try to do our best, sometimes we can undo things without realizing it. & # 39;

To help people in their search for love, Yvonne shared a list of things men and women should avoid doing on a first date – and how to make sure you scored a second.

& # 39; First dates are very important and often give you only one chance to make the right impression and have an impact that helps you move on to a second date & # 39 ;, said Yvonne (stock image)

& # 39; First dates are very important and often give you only one chance to make the right impression and have an impact that helps you move on to a second date & # 39 ;, said Yvonne (stock image)

What are the worst things men can do on a first date?

1. Dressed incorrectly

Yvonne said this was a & # 39; big letdown & # 39; is for women, so if the date is kept in a fancy restaurant, they must wear a smart suit with a well-ironed shirt.

& # 39; Take the time to check your accessories so that cuff links, ties, watches and belts fit and look good, & # 39; she said.

2. Check your Fitbit for burnt calories and heart rate

& # 39; Women don't like being checked or feeling like you're monitoring the progress of your date, food intake, or other standards, & she said.

3. Ask about her dating history

Everyone has a history and relationships and Yvonne said that this should never happen on a first date.

Instead, turn the conversation away from questions about data history and focus on shared interests.

4. Take a call from someone

& # 39; Interrupting a date to make a phone call is rude and disrespectful, telephones must leave the table & # 39 ;, Yvonne said.

& # 39; Unless you have to be on call due to your profession, you have no excuse. & # 39;

She also said that men should not talk about their profession and ensure that they do not despise the industry of women.

& # 39; Show your interest in what concerns her day. Just like you, a woman wants to feel appreciated, & she said.

Australian psychologist Yvonne Allen (photo) said she witnessed the increasing challenges men and women face in seeking love

Australian psychologist Yvonne Allen (photo) said she witnessed the increasing challenges men and women face in seeking love

Australian psychologist Yvonne Allen (photo) said she witnessed the increasing challenges men and women face in seeking love

5. Insult people and speak badly about others

The matchmaker explained that someone who speaks badly about others will do so behind the backs of others.

This is usually a red flag for a woman and it affects trust and respect.

6. Press her to drink

& # 39; Women want to make their own decisions about drinking and do not like to be pressured to drink, & # 39; she said.

& # 39; Women must feel safe and know that you are taking care of them. Attempting to force her to drink is a turnoff and a warning sign. & # 39;

7. Name former girlfriends or partners and discuss long-term relationships from the past

& # 39; This is a big no-no on a first date. It is important that you are sincere, interested and focused on being with her in the present, & Yvonne said.

& # 39; Sharing respective views about current news items or talking about favorite activities helps the conversation flow. & # 39;

8. Avoid the & # 39; Peacock phenomenon & # 39;

Yvonne said it is important that men do not talk too much about themselves in an attempt to impress their date, because it often gives women the feeling that their date is not interested in them.

The matchmaker explained that someone who speaks badly about others also does this behind the backs of other people (stock image)

The matchmaker explained that someone who speaks badly about others also does this behind the backs of other people (stock image)

The matchmaker explained that someone who speaks badly about others also does this behind the backs of other people (stock image)

What are the worst things women can do on a first date?

1. Don't change their business attire

Yvonne said it's important for women to take off their work clothes, or at least change their shirts or earrings before they go on date.

& # 39; This is important if you come from work and it will help psychologically to switch from working mode to date mode, & # 39; she said.

2. Talk too much about work

& # 39; Try to keep the conversation in a more personal direction while the tone continues to sound, & # 39; she said.

& # 39; Although talking about work is a natural topic to discuss, it can distract you from discovering who the real you are outside of work. & # 39;

3. Don't ask questions about your date

Yvonne said it is important that women ask their date about his interests, hobbies and where he grew up so that they can discover him as a person.

4. Don't talk about a common basis

It is important that women find each other, for example favorite Netflix shows that you may share, films and sports interests.

These are great conversation starters and compatibility.

5. Ask too many questions.

Nobody likes the feeling that they are being interviewed or assessed, or that their awards are counted and assessed.

Yvonne said it's important for women to take off their work clothes, or at least change their shirts or earrings before going on a date (stock image)

Yvonne said it's important for women to take off their work clothes, or at least change their shirts or earrings before going on a date (stock image)

Yvonne said it's important for women to take off their work clothes, or at least change their shirts or earrings before going on a date (stock image)

6. Ordering something difficult to eat

Yvonne said that women should avoid ordering something that is difficult to eat because it prevents you from having a conversation with ease.

7. Don't order it

& # 39; Ordering it can be a nice gesture if you feel comfortable with it & # 39 ;, she said.

& # 39; Men don't know exactly where they are today and they are scared to offend you or be too masculine. Allow him to feel at ease, if that's what works for you. & # 39;

8. Don't let him pay

& # 39; Chivalry is not dead. If he offers to pay, suggest paying half, but if he insists on paying, let him pay, & she said.

What tips should you follow to ensure that you get a second date?

Be more vulnerable

& # 39; Nowadays women have a career and excel in what once & # 39; was a men's world & # 39; but the so-called innate flirt complex seems to have disappeared! & # 39; Yvonne said.

& # 39; Boys often say they don't know if they should approach a woman. It seems that many women today develop a protective personality that hides their more feminine and vulnerable self in the workplace – and beyond. & # 39;

Don't call and text too often

Yvonne said that men often lose interest as a woman they have started dating texts or calling too often.

She said this is due to the fact that their brains have evolved over millennia to help them focus on a task and & # 39; the hunter & # 39; to be.

& # 39; Although a woman's hormones can cause her to want to communicate and connect, a man is probably more aware of his feelings by missing her than constant contact & # 39 ;, she said.

Suggest a simple first date

Yvonne said that so many women are successful in their careers and earn a large income, it can be difficult for a man to know if he should always pay or suggest that they go & # 39; go Dutch & # 39 ;.

The matchmaker said the best way to navigate through this situation is to propose a simple first date, such as sharing a cup of coffee after a walk or a visit to an art gallery.

Have a chat before a movie

& # 39; If you see a movie or go to a theater, it's the first time you go out, and sharing a coffee and cake or a glass of wine in advance will help you to be more relaxed and able enjoy the show, & # 39; she said.