A woman has revealed the text message exchange that made her think twice about a second date with a man she was “excited to get to know better”.
On Reddit, the middle-aged woman said the fact that her suitor requested she “wear a dress and heels” on a date was a deal breaker.
The woman had expressed a desire for a more casual date since she was working late.
Which was rejected by his potential partner and he explained that she can do whatever she wants but he would prefer her to make an effort.
“You don’t know me very well, but I generally do what I want,” he replied.
A woman has revealed the text message exchange that made her think twice before a second date she was “excited to get to know better”.
The man seemed to take the hint, but suggested changing the date so they could be on the same page, alluding to the fact that he would prefer not to go on a casual date.
“I want to be on the same page,” he said.
The woman said that she was too and that she was looking forward to the appointment “very much.”
The man said he understood his date’s position, to which she admitted she was relieved before asking, “Are you willing to share what’s been making this week hectic for you?”
That’s when the already tense conversation took a turn.
‘I do but I don’t. “You were very clear that it’s about you,” she said.
She responded with a ‘wow’ which prompted the man to launch a series of text messages.
He repeated old conversations about the woman’s desire to be selfish, referring to having her needs met in a relationship, and then said that her decision not to dress up for a night out left him perplexed.
‘Like no matter what it takes a little effort and desire.’
The woman then explained that she didn’t feel comfortable dressing up because she had been experiencing an unusually heavy period.
The man seemed to take the hint, but suggested changing the date, so they could be on the same page, alluding to the fact that he would prefer not to go on a casual date.
“It appears that you have prematurely and immaturely jumped to many conclusions that include twisting my words and taking them out of context without bothering to ask questions,” he said.
She added that while she may have focused on the sexual connection during their talks, she was going to skip the second date because of all the red flags.
Then she told him to take care of himself.
“I’ll accept it since we can cancel the reservation,” he said.
“Yes, you can,” she replied.
The man tried to message her a couple more times, but she ignored the efforts before posting them on Reddit.
‘Planning a second date. Nothing like a man who likes his women only in dresses and heels,” he wrote.
Adding: ‘For some context, my ‘selfish’ comments were made on the first date and were in the context of self-care. My children are in their twenties, developing their own lives and don’t need me as much, so I can allow myself to be a little more ‘selfish’ and focus on what makes me happy.’
People were quick to criticize the man, with many saying he looked boring.
People were quick to criticize the man, with many claiming he looked boring.
‘Good for you!! I was drying my hair before a date and I told the guy what I was doing and he told me he prefers curly hair (I don’t have curly hair) so I said, “Okay, find someone else.” said a woman.
‘Does she like you in a dress and heels? It’s like she’s ordering from a menu. “I would like a vagina with heels and a dress please,” said one man.
Another replied: ‘Make sure she puts on makeup and smiles a lot.’
Others criticized his efforts to reconnect.
“It amazes me how some people think the word ‘no’ means ‘try harder,'” one said.
‘Those last lines actually made me laugh and shake my head. Did he get hit by a coconut and forget that last interaction?’ said another.
A third explained: ‘He understands she’s not interested. Although he doesn’t care what she wants. He’s given up trying to have a relationship (he no doubt thinks she’s “too much trouble”) but he still wants to get laid.
You know what I was thinking. ‘She is angry and upset because she has her period. I’ll wait a couple of weeks and then she’ll be fine.’ Completely ignoring everything you said,’ another added.