A new book that analyzes the sexual personality of the reader is intended to make things sag in the bedroom.
The Come As You Are workbook, written by the American author Emily Nagoski, allows you to determine the sexual category in which you fall by assessing a number of questions on a scale of one to four.
Emily started her career as a sex educator in 1995 when she became a peer health educator at the University of Delaware, and her book Come as You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life was a bestseller for the New York Times.
Her five questions fall into the & # 39; inhibitions & # 39; and & # 39; exciters & # 39; and help determine what you change – and disable.
After you have added up your score, a summary tells you what you can use to improve your sex life and what to look out for.
Rated as & # 39; low, medium or high & # 39; in each category, those with & # 39; low brakes & # 39; in the & # 39; inhibitions & # 39; are described as & # 39; self-assured and sexually committed & # 39; and are notified of & # 39; sexual consequences & # 39 ;.
Meanwhile, those who are assessed as being in the & # 39; low accelerator & # 39; brackets are in the & # 39; exciting & # 39; advised that they could associate with the asexual identity, and their sex life could be helped by using toys.
To play, mark each of the statements below on a scale of 0-4, with 0 & # 39; not at all like me & # 39; is, 1 & # 39; not much like me & # 39 ;, 2 & # 39; somewhat like me & # 39 ;, 3 & # 39; much is & # 39; as I & # 39; and 4 are & # 39; exactly like me & # 39 ;, for adding up your total score for category A, then for category B.
A new book that analyzes the sexual personality of the reader is meant to make things sizzle in the bedroom – by using your & # 39; inhibitions and excitement & # 39; to determine which sexual category you fall into – and this can help improve your sex life
Sexual temperament questionnaire
1. Sometimes I have so many concerns that I cannot get excited
2. If I think I am being used sexually, it is completely rejected
3. If I am not sure what my partner thinks about me, it is harder to get excited
4. If I am concerned that it takes too long to get excited or have an orgasm, it can affect my excitement
5. Sometimes I feel so shy or self-conscious during sex that I cannot get completely excited
- Score your total on 20
1. When I see a partner doing something that shows his talent or intelligence, or how they treat others well, I can get very sexually aroused
2. When I think of someone I find sexually attractive or fantasize about sex, I easily get excited
3. If it is possible that someone sees or hears us sex, it is harder for me to get excited
4. If I feel very sexually attracted to someone, I don't need a relationship with that person to get sexually excited
5. I often think of sex when I'm bored
- Score your total on 20
Your sexual personality
Low brakes (0-6)
You are not sensitive to all reasons not to be sexually excited. You do not worry about your own sexual functioning, and problems with the body image do not interfere too much with your sexuality.
When you are sexually engaged, your attention is not very distracted and you are not inclined to describe yourself as & # 39; sexually shy & # 39 ;. Most circumstances can be sexual for you. You may find that your biggest challenge with regard to sexual functioning is stopping yourself. Staying aware of possible consequences can help with this.
Medium brakes (7-13)
You are right in the middle, together with more than half of the women I have asked. This means that your sexual brakes may or may not depend to a large extent on the context.
High-risk or new situations, such as a new partner, can increase your concern about your own sexual functioning, embarrassment or your sexual distractibility. Contexts that can easily wake you up are probably low risk and familiar, and when your stress levels – including anxiety – escalate, your brakes will reduce your interest in repspons for sexual signals
High brakes (14-20)
You are quite sensitive to all reasons not to be sexually excited. You need an environment of trust and relaxation to be awakened, and it's best if you don't feel rushed or pressured.
You can easily be distracted from sex. High braking, regardless of the accelerator, is the most correlated factor with sexual problems.
Low accelerator (0-6)
You are not sensitive to sexually relevant stimuli and you must make a more conscious effort to align your attention with that wavelength.
New situations are less likely to be sexy for you than familiar ones. You are a person whose sexual functioning benefits from greater stimulation intensity (such as a vibrator) and daily exercise to pay attention to sensations.
Lower accelerator is also associated with asexuality, so if you have a very low accelerator, you can resonate with some aspects of that identity.
Medium accelerator (7-13)
You are exactly in the middle, so whether or not you are sensitive to sexual stimuli depends on the context.
In situations of high romance or eroticism you easily tune into sexual stimuli, a noisy situations of low romance or eroticism, it can be quite challenging to focus your attention on sexual things. Seventy percent of the women surveyed fall within this range.
High accelerator (14-20)
You are quite sensitive to sexually relevant stimuli, maybe even things that people are generally not sensitive to, such as smell and taste.
A fairly wide range of contexts can be sexual for you, and newness can be very exciting. You may be the person who likes sex as a way to de-stress – a high accelerator is correlated to a greater risk of sexual compulsion, so you can benefit from paying attention to the ways you handle stress.
Your sexual functioning can benefit if you ensure that you create a lot of time and space for your partner, because you are sensitive, you can derive intense satisfaction from your partner's pleasure, so that you both benefit.
Sixteen percent of the women surveyed fell into this group.
More info can be found in The Come As You Are workbook, by Emily Nagoski, out on August 7, 2019
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