A mom who gave birth to Australia’s first naturally born quintuplets has revealed how she really feels after being separated from her husband earlier this month.
Kim Tucci, 30, of Perth, had three children four years ago and thought she would be ‘four and ready’ when she became a one in 55 million statistic and gave birth to Australia’s first ever naturally-conceived quins.
Earlier in May, Kim announced that she is splitting from her husband Vaughn – and now she’s opened up about what it feels like to ‘lose’ her partner when the couple share eight children under 12.
“It is impossible to raise eight children without losing each other,” Kim wrote Mamamia.
A mom who gave birth to Australia’s first naturally born quintuplets has revealed how she really feels after being separated from her husband earlier this month (Kim and Vaughn pictured in happier times)
Kim Tucci, 30, of Perth, had three children four years ago and thought she would be ‘four and ready’ when she became a one in 55 million statistic and gave birth to Australia’s first ever naturally-conceived quins (the depicted quins)
Earlier in May, Kim announced that she is splitting from her husband Vaughn – and now she’s opened up about what it feels like to ‘lose’ her partner (Kim pictured with her children)
“… Just like that, Vaughn and I passed ships at night. We shared a house, but we have lost each other over the years because of the tears and stress of raising so many little people. ‘
In her open letter about the breakup of her marriage, Kim said that Vaughn had been her “best friend” and “lover” for the past decade, but that the “cracks soon began to show” as she moved from a family of five to a family went. from 10.
‘The dynamics in a household change when children are involved. It takes so much more effort to meet in the middle and forget about each other becomes second nature until it’s gone too far and any long-awaited hug or kiss turns into an awkward situation you can’t hide from, ‘Kim told the publication .
The mother of eight also announced on Instagram that she and Vaughn plan to co-parent their young family, and that they will work as a ‘team’ to bring them together while they are apart.
In her open letter about the breakup of her marriage, Kim said that Vaughn had been her “best friend” and “lover” for the past decade, but that the “cracks soon began to show” as she moved from a family of five to a family. went. of 10 (Kim and Vaughn pictured in happier times)
The mother of eight also announced that she and Vaughn plan to co-parent their young family, and that they will work as a ‘team’ to bring them together while they are apart (the quins pictured)
Kim posted on Instagram earlier this month, explaining that the past few months are ‘the hardest times I’ve ever experienced’.
“I had to learn to put my happiness first, and it was a very difficult lesson to learn,” she said wrote to her 58,000 followers.
“Marriage is difficult when children come along, it’s hard not to lose each other in the process, and sometimes two people can really outgrow a relationship and is the only way to move forward in separate directions,” Kim explained.
“… I’ve really lost myself in recent years, I didn’t know my own place in life and I was so unsure who I was. I was also afraid of the judgment I would make if I were my authentic self. ‘
Kim said that while she is “sad about closing this chapter” of her life, she is excited to see what the future holds.
The 30-year-old mother of eight added that she had “major depression” not too long ago.
“I felt like I was losing control of reality,” she said.
“Now I have let go of all negativity, I am the happiest I have been in such a long time. I’m happy Vaughn is happy and I know that life can only get better from here for both of us. ‘
We shared a house, but we’ve lost each other over the years because of the tears and stress of raising so many little people, ‘Kim said of their marriage (Kim and Vaughn pictured)
There was no history of multiple births in Kim’s family, but Kim and Vaughn said they decided ‘we can do this’ when they became parents of eight at night (Kim pictured with one of the children)
Kim and Vaughn got together in their teens and then had three children in their twenties before becoming the parents of Australia’s first naturally conceived quintuplets in 2016.
There was no history of multiple births in Kim’s family, but Kim and Vaughn said they decided ‘we can do this’ when they became parents to eight children overnight.
Since then, the lives of the Tuccis have been a whirlwind of diapers, eating, bedtime, and bathing – while juggling busy family life with careers and homework.
What are Kim’s best parenting tricks?
* Remove the toilet brush from the bathroom during toilet training.
* Keep talcum powder in your car to remove excess sand after a trip to the beach.
* Soak your children’s clothes in boiling water for several hours to remove berry stains.
* Keep diapers everywhere so you never get caught without them – from the car to the garage to the house.
Kim spoke to FEMAIL earlier this year and offered a peek into her busy household – where she’s been known to go through ’30 pairs of underwear a day ‘while potty training her quins.
“The best thing I’ve learned with potty training is that you have to remove the toilet brush for the duration of the workout,” she told Daily Mail Australia.
“Otherwise, they all just play with it and try to put it in their mouth without realizing it shouldn’t be eaten.
“You should definitely keep diapers everywhere too – including the car and the garage.
“Sometimes I haven’t had enough of me and there has been a shit explosion.”
The mother of eight shared her other parenting tricks, including soaking her children’s clothes in boiling water to remove berry stains and keeping talc in the car to remove sand after a day at the beach.
“You just rub it on their sandy bodies and they don’t carry it in the car,” she said.
Kim has also learned how to budget best for her little ones – she admits spending only $ 350 on feeding her family of ten a week (pictured with one of her children)
Kim has also learned how to budget best for her little ones – she admits spending just $ 350 on feeding her family of ten a week.
What are Kim’s best budget tips?
* Look around and go to multiple supermarkets to get the best deals.
* Embrace Flybuys and make sure to activate the rewards before shopping. Kim uses all the money she saves for Christmas presents.
* Buy the items you know you need in bulk, such as washing liquid and washing powder.
* Buy your fruits and vegetables in bulk to save money.
* Cook everything in one big cook to make sure everything is eaten.
* Buy private label items and choose the cheapest items for each type of food. They are often just as good.
“I usually do a big shop on weekends and go to Coles, Woolworths and Aldi to make sure I buy from the cheapest supermarket,” she said.
“I also buy all our fruit and vegetables at a local market, because it is cheaper.”
Kim said the items that go down the fastest in her household are what you’d expect: bread, milk, and cheese.
“We’re probably going through eight or nine loaves a week, 60-70 pieces of fruit, 20 liters of milk, and a giant block of cheese,” she said.
“But I’m getting the 85-cent bread instead of the $ 4 option. You know what? They won’t know the $ 4 stuff. ‘
The mother of eight said she was “lucky” because none of her children were picky eaters.
“But I do have a recipe in store that will make them eat any vegetables they might be complaining about a bit,” she said.
Kim said that if she doesn’t bother to cook well one night, she just warms up some spaghetti, throws all of her leftover veggies, including sweet potato, pumpkin, carrot, and zucchini, in the oven with their skins on and then leaves them beat in the blender.
“I turn that into a pasta sauce and sometimes add some meat and they have no idea they get that much vegetables,” she said.
She also likes to anticipate the breakfast rush – by preparing large portions of porridge that just need to be warmed up in the morning and making sure all the bowls and spoons are ready the night before.