A woman has been branded “psychotic” and “manipulative” for stalking her husband for two years before officially “meeting” him, then tailoring her personality to his likes and dislikes for more than a decade.
Lauren*, 24, first saw her future husband, Tom*, when she was 14 and he was 18 and later stalked his social media accounts, discovered his home address and details about his family members. family.
She quickly discovered that Tom’s little brother, Nick*, was enrolled in her school and befriended him in order to fit into their family dynamic.
“I started spending a lot of time with Tom’s mom and she told me everything about his college, his old girlfriends, his favorite foods, his pet peeves – everything I needed to know,” Lauren confessed.
She shared her story on Reddit, which was later picked up by popular podcast host Morgan Ashley Absher for “Two Hot Takes” on Spotify, who read it on the show.
Popular podcast host Morgan Ashley Absher (pictured) of “Two Hot Takes,” read a Reddit thread about a woman who stalked her boyfriend for years before they met.
Lauren revealed she would find out which weekends Tom would come home from college, wear his best outfits and put on makeup in order to impress her.
“Tom held the school record for a specific niche sport that I also played, and he came back to coach our high school team for extra volunteer hours when I was a senior,” Lauren explained.
“I spent a lot more time with him. I loved every second of it. We were friends before, but we became much closer and he would drive me home after school.
“I applied to New York University because I knew he was moving there for work, and we started dating shortly after I turned 19. He proposed to me when I graduated degree and we got married a year later.”
Lauren started to feel guilty for stalking and lying because Tom told everyone that “destiny” had brought them together.
She decided to spill her guts and tell her husband the truth – but from there, everything went downhill.
“Tom was stunned, scared and confused after I explained to him the real story of how we fell in love. He sat in front of me and sobbed uncontrollably while asking me how well our relationship and my identity had been manufactured according to his taste.
“He packed his bags and told me he needed space and that he still loved me but was going to spend time in a hotel.”
Lauren fell asleep thinking that her husband, although betrayed, would eventually come around and realize that his heart was in the right place.
But she woke up to a storm.
“Tom went to his family and told them everything. None of them want anything to do with me anymore and they all call me psychotic. He exaggerated to make me seem crazy.
“He said he lied about going to a hotel because he knew if he told the truth I would try to stop him. I feel so betrayed. I tried to be a good wife by showing him the real me, and this is what he does? I did all this work just for it to end up like this?’
Thousands of people were appalled by Lauren’s “disgusting” actions and shamed her for her behavior.
“You are a simple sociopath,” one woman said. “You did all this for drama, not because you cared about Tom. If you had, you would have taken it to your grave.
“I’m so scared and seduced and want to try to get close to people but this is next level shit,” another wrote.
A third said: “For the last decade your whole personality had to please him. Every new like and dislike has been impacted by the decision you made at 14. You honestly believe this to be genuine, when in reality, you have no idea who you even are.
*Names have been changed for privacy reasons.