A psychologist shared the green flags not to overlook in good family members, friends, and potential relationships — and how to recognize who will be there for you through bad times and good times.
Nancy Sokarno, from Sydney, said that while we are all aware and regularly on the lookout for people’s ‘red flags’ or warning signs that they are wrong, we are often not so aware of the positive qualities that can make them into someone who worth spending time with.
The psychologist shared the six positive things to look out for — and how to spot them in someone.
A psychologist has shared the green flags not to be overlooked in close relatives, friends and potential relationships (Nancy Sokarno picturerd)
1. You can be yourself
The first way to identify a potential green flag in a friend, relative, or relationship is if you can be yourself around them and completely relax.
“There’s no better feeling than feeling good when you’re with someone,” Nancy said Wiring.
“Everyone should be able to embrace, accept and love themselves, and it’s even better if the other loves you for the person you really are.”
If you feel that you can be yourself and not have to put on a show with anyone, that’s a good sign that the relationship is built to last.
Laughter should never be underestimated in a relationship, and if there’s someone who constantly makes you giggle, it’s the ‘best feeling in the world’ (stock image)
2. You make each other laugh
Laughter should never be underestimated in a relationship, Nancy explained, and if there’s someone who constantly makes you giggle, it’s the “best feeling in the world.”
“Laughter has the ability to heal us physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually,” Nancy said.
There are also numerous studies that suggest that when you laugh with someone, you experience better overall emotional health and less stress.
If your morals, ethics, values or vision align with someone else’s, it’s a good indication that a relationship is “on the right track,” Nancy said (stock image)
3. You have similar morals
If your morals, ethics, values, or vision match someone else’s, it’s a good indication that a relationship is on the ‘right track’.
While Nancy said it’s not essential that they be perfectly identical, if you discover that someone has the same principles as you, it can “bind you together in hard times and bring you joy in happy times.”
4. You feel respected
When you have respect for someone, Nancy said it means accepting them as they are, including their flaws.
‘Respect enables you to understand each other on a different level and to recognize each other’s possibilities and limitations,’ says the psychologist.
Finally, Nancy (pictured) said that both open communication and being able to sit in comfortable silence are the most important ‘green flags’
5. You can communicate openly
Whatever the relationship, communication is always key to staying on the same page.
Nancy recommends that you try to see someone else’s perspective and at the same time bring out how you really feel.
When communicating, she added, try to set “clear boundaries” on what is and isn’t appropriate.
This means that hopefully you end up on the same page regarding your expectations.
6. You enjoy comfortable silences
Finally, while communication is important, Nancy said comfortable silences should never be underestimated.
“If you can enjoy each other’s company without being distracted or having to fill the silence in some way, that’s a definite green light,” she said.