‘I can’t shake this feeling’: Pregnant mother in lockdown is convinced she will die in childbirth – and she’s one of many experiencing the same feeling
- A Sydney mum says she feels she will die giving birth during lockdown
- The mother, who has two other children, said she can’t shake the feeling of doom
- She said she never felt the same during her last pregnancies and fears the worst
An expectant mother of two says she can’t shake the feeling of ‘dying’ during her upcoming labor after months of stress in Sydney’s lockdown.
The mother posted on Facebook to share her growing concern about her son’s arrival, who is expected in five weeks – and she’s not alone in experiencing this kind of debilitating prenatal anxiety.
“I have daily meltdowns because I think instead of counting down the weeks until I give birth, I’m counting down the weeks until I die,” she wrote.
An expectant mother of two says she can’t shake the feeling of ‘dying’ during her upcoming labor after months of stress in Sydney’s lockdown (stock)
The mother, who has two daughters, said she has never experienced the same anxiety during her other pregnancies, which has been a huge challenge for her.
‘This feeling started around 12 weeks. Nothing remarkable happened, it was just this weird feeling that often came and went but now persists,” she said.
Other mothers admitted that they struggle with similar feelings and are also desperate for ways to calm their anxiety.
One mother, who struggled with similar feelings before the birth of her last child, said talking to her doctor helped.
“I think it’s more mind boggling now that you know you have other kids and the thought of leaving them behind is so scary,” she wrote in the post.
What are the symptoms of prenatal/prenatal depression and anxiety?
I am often in a sad mood
Do you often feel tears or sad
Do you often worry about your baby or yourself
Feeling scared and panicked
Are you feeling angry or grumpy
Fear of being alone or going out
Losing interest in activities you normally enjoy
Find it hard to get moving
Struggling with everyday tasks like cooking or shopping
Withdrawal from close family and friends
Don’t take care of yourself
Changes in thinking:
Think that everything that goes wrong is your fault, or that you are worthless or a failure
Do you think your baby is better off with someone else
Think ‘I can’t do this’ or ‘I can’t handle it’
Difficulty thinking clearly, concentrating, or making decisions
Sleep problems – for example you can’t sleep or you sleep much more than usual
Changes in your appetite – for example, you don’t eat or you eat too much
Low energy levels
Source: To raise children
She added that the pandemic is “not helping” pregnant women because it is much easier to think the worst after so many months of change and fear.
“Speak to your doctor, it’s comforting to know you’re in safe hands,” she said.
Another mother said she should “take it day by day.”
‘Maybe it’s just the hormones that also fluctuate and play tricks on you. If you are still not feeling well, please contact those who are taking care of your appointments. I’m sure it’ll all work out,” she said, admitting she had similar fears.
Others urged the mother to see a psychologist, saying she could have prenatal depression or anxiety.
But the mother said she’s resisted trying to get a psychologist appointment because she’s one of Sydney’s concerns, which is currently experiencing the city’s toughest restrictions.
“And there are only six weeks to go, I doubt a good psychologist will be able to see me for that,” she said.
A mother, who is currently facing the same demons with her third baby and due to give birth on Saturday, said she feels better when she is in the sun.
“I keep thinking about the worst and thinking about my children. It’s definitely fear. If I don’t sit outside in the sun for at least one or two hours a day, I feel even more anxious all day.
“I feel like breathing that fresh air and sometimes thinking positive thoughts helps,” she said before adding that she hopes everything goes well for both of them.
Prenatal depression keeps you from doing things you need or want to do in your daily life, explains the Raising Children network.
What can people do if they feel anxious or depressed during pregnancy?
Mental illnesses can be treated effectively and like physical illnesses, they can be managed. It is important to seek help as early as possible, as perinatal mental illness generally does not go away on its own.
While there may be a strong instinct to put your baby’s or others’ needs ahead of your own, it’s important that you take care of yourself right now.
Most people with anxiety or depression benefit from one or a combination of the following:
Lifestyle changes and social support
Psychological or ‘talking’ therapies
Source: Beyond Blue
The parenting experts said any serious emotional changes that last longer than two weeks should be flagged with your doctor.
‘Baby blues’ can occur before or after your child is born, but usually only lasts a few days. That’s why the two-week guideline is important to consider.
Some of the symptoms of prenatal depression include panic and anxiety for yourself and your child.
Raising Children recommend getting emotional support from your partner, family and friends, this is an important way to deal with prenatal and postpartum depression.
Talking to someone who can understand how you feel can help you manage some symptoms.
They also recommend getting regular exercise, eating right, and getting some sleep to limit symptoms.
If you suffer from anxiety or depression you can call: Beyond Blue at 1300 22 4636.